10 Texts to Make Him Miss You Like Crazy

Texting has become a huge part of society over the last 10 to15 years. For couples, this means they’re less likely to have a long conversation on the phone than to text throughout the day. Unfortunately, studies do show that texting can negatively impact your relationship if you aren’t careful. Impulse texting, back-to-back texting, and other habits that have come about in the era of smartphones can lead to bad perceptions of your significant other. But that doesn’t mean texting is bad all of the time. If used properly, texting can be an added benefit to your relationship. Whether you are long-distance, working full time, or have some other reason to be texting instead of talking in person, there are ways to text that can help you rather than hurt you. You can even make texting fun, such as things to text a guy to make him laugh.

In Psychology Today, two studies have been referenced to help understand how texting plays a role in our positive or negative relationships. The first found that women were less likely to accept apologies or important conversations over text, while men were less likely to frequently text during the day. However, both men and women liked texts that show appreciation. The second study looked at the interaction between couples during the conflict. By the end of the study, the researchers predicted with 90% accuracy the success of a relationship based on a 5:1 ratio of positive to negative interaction. They stated that for every negative interaction with your partner, you should have 5 positive ones. Psychology Today then posited that some positive interactions could be done through texting.

But what should you say and how can you tell how a guy texts when he likes you? This list will help you win “positive” points and make your partner miss you like crazy, even if you just saw each other this morning. 

Send him a complement

Complements are a great place to start. Tell your partner that you like their smile, or that you enjoy their hugs, or say they did a good job making the bed before they left the house. Small, innocent complements will make them feel loved and feel good about themselves. It will remind your partner how much they like being around you because you build them up just by being together.

Tell him thank you

Please show your appreciation for something they did for you, whether you asked for something or something they did independently. This shows that you notice what they do and that you appreciate them for it. You can combine it with a compliment as well. For instance, if you asked your partner to start making the bed in the morning, and they did it, you can say, “Thank you so much for making the bed. It looks so nice in our bedroom now.” Showing appreciation may help your partner feel good, and saying “thank you” shows them that you noticed they listened to your request.

Reminisce about a good memory

This should be a happy memory, one that you both think about from time to time. It can be a simple story, a funny story, a romantic story, whatever you think is the best to send to your partner. It will get them thinking about your time together and hopefully make them want to be back with you even more.

Ask him an interesting question

Get your partner thinking! When you first met, you asked your partner all kinds of questions to get to know them. This doesn’t have to end when the newness has passed. The question itself will help you know them even better and remind your partner of your curious nature and how fun it is to be around you. This is especially great for long-distance couples. Asking questions back and forth can sometimes make you feel a little closer, no matter the distance. Maybe your partner will be curious about your answer as well.

Perhaps you got good feedback from a boss, or you found the perfect outfit for your next date night. Maybe you won tickets to a concert that you want to take your partner to. 

Flirt with him

Flirting means something different to everyone. Think about how you flirt with your partner. Do you smile a lot? Wink? Are you a playful touch type of person or a witty banter type of person? There are many different ways to convey your personality over text. With smartphones, the world is at your fingertips. Use emojis, gifs, photos; you name it. Complements sound flirty if done the right way as well. Have fun with your message, and they will have fun too.

Tell him you are thinking of him

Long-distance relationships are hard because of how little you get to see each other. It’s a nice gesture to text that you are thinking of your partner, even if you can’t see them. This works when you think of them randomly and know that something important is happening for them. Your text is there with your partner during the mundane and the big moments. You’ll make them smile and think of you as well. If your relationship isn’t long-distance, this kind of text can work for you as well. A random “I can’t stop thinking of you” will bring a smile to anyone’s face.

Make future plans

Ask your partner if they want to go on a date. Or tell them about something happening in town that you’d like to go to with them. If long-distance, text about what you’d like to do the next time you are together. Make it obvious that your future includes them, no matter how far in advance it is. This will get your partner excited to see you. They’ll look forward to whatever is planned. Your mutual excitement can help to tide you both over until you can see each other again. Make these texts flirty if you want, or convey your excitement with exclamation marks and emojis. The goal is to get your partner to smile.

Tell him you miss him

Instead of waiting around and sulking over missing your partner, tell them that you miss them. Chances are, your partner misses you also. Just say how you feel with no agenda or expectation. Maybe they’ll say “thank you” or “I miss you too.” Either way, you’ve gotten them to think of you. And knowing you are on their mind will help you to feel better as well.

Send him a selfie

Your partner won’t forget what you look like, but why not send a reminder anyway. We do have cameras on our phones, don’t we? A cute selfie of your face showing where you are or what you’re doing brings your partner into your life in a small way. It will also make your partner want to see the real you and not just a picture. If the attraction is there, your picture will wake it up for sure.

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As you can see, there are many different types of text messages you can send your partner to make them miss you. It helps you miss them, so conveying that message shows them that you feel the same way. Texting isn’t the ultimate way to communicate in a relationship, but it’s a good tool to have and use appropriately. Nothing will beat spending time in person, but as technology continues to upgrade and we find bigger and better ways to use it to communicate, we can find healthy uses for them in our lives.

If you want your partner to miss you like crazy, don’t send text messages all the time. Once or twice a day will be enough, especially if they are busy and can’t respond. Try not to worry so much about their replies as the reason you send them is not to find out how they feel but to convey how you are feeling. You don’t want to come off as needy or impatient. Let texting remain a tool so you won’t use it as a lifeline. Your relationship is much bigger than the things you text.

If you have any questions about your relationship, consider text therapy through Regain. To get started and be matched up with a therapist that’s right for you, go to www.regain.us/start.