Adult Role-Playing Games: Form Of Sexual Health Care

Sex is a huge part of life. It is a way to express emotion, satisfy a need, and procreate. Sexual health is important for your well-being.

But what is sexual health? What falls under that umbrella term? According to the World Health Organization, “Sexual health is a state of physical, mental, and social well-being in relation to sexuality. [It] requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination, and violence.” 

Unfortunately, sexual health is often seen as a topic that has a negative connotation. Many people view sexual health as the absence of bad things that can happen when sexually active. Sexual health is associated with sexually transmitted diseases, sexual violence, unplanned and unwanted pregnancies, and other types of infections.

While this is all true, there is a more holistic way of viewing sexual health. There are emotional and mental components to sexual health, as well as physical. One way to make a positive change in your sexual health is to consider role-playing with your partner. Let's look more at sexual health and ways to improve it.

What makes up sexual health?

The way you view sex is important. Does sex trigger something terrible for you? If that is the case, then your sexual health may not be at healthy levels. Sex and your sexual life should be looked at positively.

Sexual health care and enjoying sex

Your physical health regarding sex is important as well, which is why people associate infections and pregnancies with the term “sexual health.” However, sexual health is also about your ability to enjoy sex. You can do many things sexually, whether it is different levels of intimacy, different positions, or exploring new options. New options can increase your sexual health. 

How comfortable are you with your body? Are you exploring your sexuality? Are you exploring your options in the bedroom? Are you and your partner trying new things and spicing it up? You can try so many different things sexually, and keeping things interesting can add a new facet to your relationship and improve your sexual health.

Adult role-playing games as a form of sexual health care

Adult role-playing games are an excellent way to explore something new and increase your sexual health. Adult role-playing occurs when you and your partner decide to be someone else that you are not and add a little acting into the build-up to a sexual encounter. You both can choose characters to be and act them out with each other. Role-playing involves playing roles that you normally do not play in your everyday life. 

Role-playing falls into the category of foreplay. You can make it as simple as a dialogue between you two in the bedroom. Conversely, you can go more in-depth into role-playing and your characters by getting costumes, dressing up, setting the scene, and acting it out. How and what you do with role-playing makes it fun, flirty, and always interesting. The options are based on your imagination and therefore are limitless.

Act out your fantasies

The very basis of role-playing is acting out a fantasy that you or your partner may have. If you do not have any fantasies that you have pictured at some point in your life, you can also choose one that seems fun and that you may want to try. There are a ton of roles that you and your partner can pretend to be. Many of these may may be inspired by movies, books, or erotic films, but many sexy stereotypes exist including:

• Doctor and nurse
• Librarian
• Secretary or receptionist
• Delivery person
• Mail person
• Handyperson and househusband or housewife
• College professor and student
• Nanny and single-parent
• Boss and employee
• Police officers
• Construction workers
• Model and photographer
• Masseuse and client
• Trainer/coach and trainee
• Real estate agent and buyer
• Actor/actress and casting agent/director
• Political people in power
• Businesspeople at a work conference or event
• Strangers at a bar

Some fantasies exist from watching specific movies and sex scenes.

• Any superhero combination such as Wonder Woman, Poison Ivy, Batman, Batgirl, Robin, Black Widow, Captain America, Iron Man, Spiderman, and Superman
• Movies such as Star Wars. Princess Leia is a common fantasy, or you may draw inspiration from other scenes from movies that may have a sexual element
• Celebrity couples

Acting out these fantasies is easy. All you need to do is shop around for the costumes for you and your partner—if you choose to add costumes to your role-play. Whether you have had any experience in acting or not, role-playing is all about getting lost in the moment and being comfortable in what you are doing. Dressing up can help you get into the character you are about to play.

In addition to costumes, you can have the scene be somewhere that is not your normal bedroom. If you are acting out the strangers in a bar fantasy, for example, that is a scenario that would start at a bar before leading back home. While some of your fantasies may, by default, occur in a home, others can happen anywhere, such as a hotel. Changing the scene from where your normal intercourse happens can add a new and exciting element to the role-playing game.

Once you have the scene, costumes, and setting picked out, you are ready for role-playing. From there, all you have to do is think of lines that your character would say to build up the sexual tension in your “scene.” If you need inspiration, you can re-watch the movie or show you are about to act out or research the other scenarios you may have chosen. While it may feel uncomfortable or awkward initially, it is a fun, new experience for you and your partner. Once you let go of your inhibitions, it can be a lot of fun pretending to be someone else in another universe, living a different life.

Have a game guide you

Everyone remembers playing board games and card games as kids and even as adults. What you may not know is that there are sexual games now; many are available for purchase at sex stores and online retailers such as Amazon. These types of role-playing games may help if you are struggling to use your imagination. The die and the cards each have different sexy actions on there. You can play the game in its entirety, or you can keep the die and roll it whenever you please. The cards may have some of the role-playing ideas listed above, but having it directed to you instead of needing to come up with the ideas yourself can sometimes relieve the pressure on you and your partner.

Communication and consent in reproductive health 

If you and your partner have decided you want to role-play, make sure you do it right. First, open a line of communication between you. Discuss what you both want out of the experience. This is also a good time to discuss any apprehensions you may have. Whether you have role-played before or it is the first time, being nervous is normal. You both may have the same worries or completely different ones and discussing them with each other can help ease those worries.

Having an open conversation also helps you decide what you want to do. If you are acting out one person’s fantasy, explaining to the other person what you want them to do for that fantasy is part of helping things go smoothly. However, both parties can still contribute ideas. You can be as detailed or vague as you want and either have everything mapped out or throw in improvisation.

Within this discussion should also be boundaries. If you are acting as people other than yourself, it is important to remember that you still are yourself. Discuss sexual boundaries that you have, and have a safe word if needed. Rape fantasies are a common role-playing fantasy, and if that is the case, it is important to have clear boundaries and consent. Consent should occur no matter the sexual experience, but if you are doing a rape fantasy, be careful about acting it out. Specific behaviors that are on and off the table should be communicated. Make a pact that you and your partner can revoke consent and end the sexual game at any time if you are getting uncomfortable.

Stay open

Role-playing games are a great way to expand your sexual horizons. There are so many fun scenarios to act out, and it goes beyond what is discussed in this post. Your imagination is the limit, and role-playing is a gift that can continuously keep on giving. Being vulnerable and opening yourself up sexually in this way may add just the spice you need in your sex life. 

If you find that it is not easy, or you and your partner want a observer to help you discuss how to proceed with role-playing, you can always look into couples or individual counseling with sites like Regain. Regain offers affordable therapy that is always convenient. You can get matched with a therapist trained in dealing with your specific issues. Sessions can be scheduled at a time that works for everyone involved. Meet with a counselor via text, telephone, or video.

Online counseling has proven to be beneficial for many people who have issues related to sex. The flexible nature of online therapy makes it ideal for working on all types of topics, and it doesn't matter where you are, as long as you have a connection to the internet, you can find a therapist who can work with you (alone or with your partner).

There's no shame in wanting to spice up your love life. As long as you and your partner are on the same page, consider giving something different a chance.

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