Do I Need Anger Management Classes? Online Anger Management Resources

Updated December 2, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

Everyone experiences anger at some point in their lives, and that’s okay. There are things in life you can't control, and it's normal and healthy to experience anger when uncontrollable things happen. You might feel anger because someone did something to hurt you or someone you care about, or when you make a mistake and it costs you something. There is a wide range of perfectly acceptable reasons to feel anger and even to express that anger, but determining whether you need anger management classes is something else entirely.

When is anger not healthy?

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The first thing to look at is when anger is not actually healthy and when it could be hurting you or the people in your life. But what is healthy anger? Healthy anger is when you can control your anger rather than letting it control you. That doesn’t mean that you won’t yell, scream, or hit a pillow. It means that you can do those things in a safe place without somehow hurting yourself or anyone else. It means that if you need to yell or scream, you walk away from the situation rather than yelling or screaming at another person or stewing in anger for too long.

Healthy anger means that you can recognize what made you angry, why it made you angry, and what you should do about it. You acknowledge that your anger is valid and justified but also realize that you need to react reasonably. Letting your emotions get the better of you is not healthy. In fact, that’s when you start crossing into the realm of unhealthy anger when you begin to allow your feelings and your emotions to take control of what’s happening in your life rather than you taking control.

When you realize that your emotions are getting the better of you, it may mean that you’re crossing into that unhealthy anger, and that’s the time when you need to walk away from the situation. Find yourself a quiet place, away from everyone else, and give yourself time to focus, reconnect, and breathe. It’s okay that anger takes control occasionally, as long as you can get away from the situation before you allow that anger to boil over to anything outside of your own mind. Go for a walk, work out, take a hot shower; whatever helps you get out of your head and put things back into perspective.

Managing unhealthy anger

When it comes to healthy anger management, you may be able to do it all in your head. You may be able to think for a moment about what happened or made you angry, process it, and let it go. Or maybe you walk away for a minute or two but then start to feel better. With unhealthy anger, however, the process of overcoming your feelings and beginning to feel better can be more complex, and you may need to work through even more complicated feelings to get there.

However, the most important thing in dealing with unhealthy anger is to walk away from the situation. It’s not always easy to pull yourself away from an emotionally charged situation, but it’s crucial. If you don’t walk away, you run the risk of saying or doing things you will later regret. That could be toward a friend, a family, a coworker, or even just a random stranger. In fact, if you’re not dealing with your anger healthily, even a seemingly small problem or inconvenience could result in releasing your anger on anyone at any time without seeing it coming.

Instead, you want to work on coping skills and techniques to help you come to terms with your anger and accept it without letting it fully take over. For some, this is relatively simple. For others, however, it can be challenging to learn these types of techniques. In that case, it may take you a little bit longer and require a little more persistence when it comes to how you want to react instead of how you are used to reacting.

There are many different techniques that you can use to help with your anger. You can meditate or read a book or take a nap. You can write in a journal or write out letters that you never send about what made you unhappy. The key is finding a hobby or an activity that helps you calm down even when you’re feeling angry. 

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As you slowly start to work on your anger, you also want to think about preventing it from getting overwhelming in the first place rather than just looking at ways to calm down once the anger has already taken root. That means working on ways not to let things bother you as much as they might otherwise. It may be difficult to figure out what things set you off most frequently and work out why those things are causing such a strong reaction in you.

As you start to figure out more about the things that affect you most and cause your emotions to get the better of you, it’s time to take a closer look at what you can do about it. Anger management counseling and anger management classes are effective steps that you might need to take. 

Do you need anger management classes?

If you allow your anger to control you rather than the other way around, you may need anger management classes. If you find yourself reacting instinctively to anything that upsets you and has a hard time quelling anger on your own, then you might want to talk with a professional about that as well. After all, unhealthy anger is characterized by a lack of control. Whether that lack of control happens frequently or only occasionally, there are steps that you can take to help mitigate how much anger impacts your life.

If you find yourself verbally or physically attacking other people or objects when you get angry, this is another important reason to seek out anger management classes. These classes will help you learn the coping skills you need to take back control of your emotions. While these are things you can learn on your own, if you find yourself already in a situation where anger attacks are happening, it’s time to get professional help in the process. But it can be challenging to admit that you have this type of problem.

Another sign that you might need help with anger management is if you find yourself angry frequently. If you feel like you are always angry or that even the smallest things can set you off to full-blown anger, it might mean that there is a problem. Keep in mind that you may not have attacked anyone verbally or physically. You may never have broken something in anger or lashed out at someone. But if you feel like you are angry much of the time, that’s also hurting you. Anger management isn’t just about learning how to better respond to and treat others; it’s also about learning to better understand and take care of yourself.

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Talk about anger with a licensed therapist online

If you’re unsure whether you need anger management counselinganger management therapy, or other types of help, you can even check out online options to find out more. While this test isn’t a definitive answer on whether you need help, it can give you more advice and let you know if you’re on a dangerous path.

Work through anger management in online therapy

Anger is a common emotion that can be a healthy tool. However, if anger is getting the better of you and seems to be a common issue in your life, it may be time to seek outside help. When it comes to getting professional help, you want to make sure you find someone you can be comfortable with. Remember, mental health professionals are there to help you feel better and make sure that you are getting the help you need to live a healthy and productive life. Getting help with anger management does not make you weak or mean anything negative about you. It means that you want to control your own life and better understand yourself, both of which are admirable.

With Regain, you can get the help you’re looking for through online anger management. You never have to set foot in a therapist’s office, but you can still get effective help for your anger problem. All you need to do is sign up online and you’ll be matched with a mental health professional who fits your listed needs and preferences. From there, all your sessions are conducted online, wherever you have an internet connection and feel comfortable.

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