Is Having Sex Too Soon Bad For A Relationship?

Updated October 18, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

If you're wondering if having sex too soon is bad for a relationship, it truly comes down to the individuals in the relationship. There is no "right time" to have sex in a relationship, and every relationship is different. For some, it is possible to hurt a relationship by having sex too soon. You and your partner must be ready to advance the relationship to that level before proceeding. In some cases, having sex too early when one partner isn't ready, or you're not on the same page where you stand, you may find complications within the relationship. Some people are comfortable having sex in a relationship earlier, while other people prefer to wait.

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It may be helpful to take the time to look at things from several different perspectives so that you can determine how to proceed with your new relationship. You might be wondering how soon you should be thinking about having sex. While there is no perfect time to have sex, the information below may help you decide what is right for you and your new relationship. You and your partner must be both ready to have sex. Here are some things you may want to think about before having sex.

Could it send a bad message?

It's possible that having sex with someone too soon may give them the impression that you're not interested in something serious. If you decide to have sex with someone on the first or second date, it could give them the idea that sex is all you're looking for or that you may do this on many dates. This may not be the case at all, but if you decide to have sex before having a conversation about what you want from the relationship, your partner will not know your expectations. If you are interested in something deeper, then waiting to have sex might be a better idea. It will allow you to talk about sex and what you want and need in the relationship.

Unwanted pregnancies

If you chose to have sex early in the relationship, or it was a spontaneous decision, you may not have had the opportunity to have this important conversation. Most likely, if this is a new relationship, you're not ready to have a child together. However, if you don't want to wait to have sex, it's very beneficial to take the time to speak to your partner about birth control before you have sex.

STD risk

The potential risk of STDs is always something to consider when having sex with someone new. 

When you decide to wait to have sex, you can ensure you have these important discussions with your partner. You can get to know your partner and become comfortable with them ahead of having sex. This also gives you the chance to learn their sexual history or allows you to get tested together. This way, you can be sure neither of you has a sexually transmitted infection. Many sexually transmitted infections don't have symptoms, but they can cause long-term health problems.

Sex without an emotional connection

If you decide to have sex very early on in the relationship, you may not have had an opportunity to create an emotional connection and bond. Sometimes when a couple has sex early, the relationship becomes just about sex. In this case, their judgment could be clouded as to whether they are an appropriate match for one another. However, there is still the opportunity to create a strong bond and emotional connection, even if you have sex very early on. Both partners must put in the effort and invest in the relationship in other aspects besides sex.

Building an emotional connection first can be beneficial because it strengthens your relationship and creates a solid foundation, ensuring a long-lasting relationship. It may be helpful to put the effort into getting to know your partner's wants and needs if you want the relationship to last. Intimacy is about more than just sex. It's possible to create a strong, deep connection before having sex.

By having sex too early, it's also possible one person's feelings may end up getting hurt. If you choose to have sex before you're emotionally invested or discuss expectations in the relationship, you may eventually realize you are not on the same page about what you want and need in the relationship. One person may end up being more emotionally invested than the other. You may be able to prevent this by having an open and honest conversation about what each of you is looking for in a relationship and taking the time to get to know each other before having sex. If you feel comfortable with the person that you're sleeping with, then the sex has a chance of being that much more satisfying. Working on your relationship and building a strong foundation can be very beneficial.

You can do this by digging deeper than simply going out because you're attracted to one another. Spend time building your rapport, and you may end up having a better sexual bond later in the relationship. You don't have to wait to have sex until you're married if you don't want to. Just taking a bit of time to ensure that you have a solid relationship can make a difference.

Everyone has different standards

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It's important to understand and recognize that everyone has different standards when it comes to sex. Some people are perfectly comfortable having sex early on in a relationship or prefer casual sexual encounters. It's possible to have sex with someone the first time you meet and still develop a lasting long-term relationship. What's important is that both you and your partner have a strong and clear understanding of what each of you expects and needs from the relationship.

The decision to have sex in a relationship ultimately comes down to what you want to do as a couple. This is between you and your romantic partner, and it will differ for each relationship. Some couples may prefer to wait and get to know each other better, while others have completely satisfying relationships by having sex early on.

Take the time to decide what's best for you

If you have any sexual issues in your relationship, feel pressured to have sex, or have no interest in sex, it could be helpful to talk to someone for help. Online couples counseling with Regain can help people with any sexual issues they may be facing so that their relationships can flourish. Regain is a convenient, affordable way to get help, You don't need to travel to an office to get help; you can meet from the comfort of your own home. Just fire up the internet and an electronic device, and you're good to go.

It's possible to work with a licensed online counselor to overcome issues you may encounter in your relationship. Online counseling can help you to come to terms with your feelings while working on overcoming any limitations. It can provide tools and guidance to communicate more effectively in your relationship and overcome any issues you may come across. 

Takeaway

If you're struggling with a choice about taking your relationship to the next level, don't hesitate to work with a counselor to come to a decision you are confident about.

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