Need A Self-Esteem Boost? 30 Inspirational Quotes About Confidence In Relationships
Many of us could likely use a confidence boost once in a while, whether it’s after a sour first date, a breakup, or just a bad day. Having confidence in yourself and loving yourself for who you are can impact many different areas of your life, including your relationships, but sometimes, we may be feeling a little down on ourselves. If you’re in need of a self-esteem boost in the context of your relationships, these inspirational quotes may help you feel a little more confident and self-assured.
How confidence can impact relationships
Research has demonstrated a clear link between self-esteem and positive relationships, and some studies have found that the link works in both directions: having positive social relationships can boost your self-esteem, and having high self-esteem can enhance the quality of your relationships.
This connection can make a lot of sense, as knowing your own self-worth can help you bring your best self to the relationship to fully connect with your partner while maintaining your independence. You may feel more able to be there for your partner and invest in making the relationship work without believing that your self-worth is tied to whether or not the relationship succeeds or fails.
A healthy level of self-esteem may also help you figure out what you want and how to discourage behavior from others that brings you down. Feeling confident in yourself can help you weed out those who do not have your best interests at heart. You may be less likely to waste your time with someone who does not treat you the way you deserve to be treated if you know your worth.
30 quotes to help boost your confidence
If you’re in need of some motivation, consider some of the quotes below:
Maya Angelou
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”
Elizabeth Kübler-Ross
“People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”
William Jennings Bryan
“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
Erica Jong
“I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Brené Brown
“Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”
7. Martin Luther King
“Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
“Sex appeal is confidence, the ability not to ask anything of another but a willingness to offer yourself.”
Dr. Jacent Mpalyenkana
“One’s conclusion that you are not good enough is a reflection of their own interpretation of what “good enough” is. Your own personal concept is what creates your reality.”
Albert Einstein
“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.”
Robert Holden
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”
Barrie Davenport
“True beauty is the flame of self-confidence that shines from the inside out.”
Mae West
“We must fall in love with ourselves. I don’t like myself. I’m crazy about myself.”
Louise L. Hay
“Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.”
Barbara De Angelis
“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”
Eleanor Roosevelt
“It takes as much energy to wish as it does to plan.”
Byron Katie
“Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror.”
Zig Ziglar
“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”
Donna Goddard
“Courage is the starting point of everything good. To love another is to automatically feed the fire of courage.”
Steve Maraboli
“If you’re not comfortable enough with yourself or with your own truth when entering a relationship, then you’re not ready for that relationship.”
Oscar Wilde
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
Jodi Picoult
“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect; you love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
Toni Morrison
“Don’t ever think I fell for you or fell over you. I didn’t fall in love; I rose in it.”
Unknown
“It doesn’t matter who hurt you or broke you down. What matters is who made you smile again.”
William James
“Whenever you conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.”
Epicurus
“You don’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”
Hellen Keller
“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”
E.E. Cummings
“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
Steve Jobs
“Things don't have to change the world to be important”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.”
Theodore Roosevelt
“Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.”
Further help with self-esteem
If you’re experiencing low self-confidence, know that you’re not alone. Many people experience episodes of doubt and uncertainty at some point in their lives, but there are steps you can take to build self-confidence and improve your relationships. You also don’t have to do it alone—a therapist can help you throughout this process. Working with a therapist can help you gain the self-confidence you need to improve your life and your relationships. In fact, research has shown online therapy to effective for improving low self-esteem.
If you’re feeling down on yourself, the thought of arranging and commuting to an in-person appointment may feel a bit daunting at times. With online therapy, you can match with and meeting with a licensed counselor from wherever you have an internet connection, including the comfort of home, which may feel a bit easier.
Takeaway
If you’re in need of a self-esteem boost, consider reading and reflecting on some of the motivational quotes about confidence listed above. For further support with self-esteem and other relationship concerns, meeting with a licensed therapist online can help.
Frequently asked questions (FAQs)
How do you value yourself?
Working toward a place where you value yourself can be challenging, but it is possible to gain a strong sense of confidence and value even if it doesn’t seem to be coming to you naturally right now. One of the things that can be beneficial is to treat yourself like you would someone you value and love. Start to think about and validate your needs, wants, and emotions. When negative thoughts of low self-worth enter your brain, try to challenge them and remind yourself that thoughts aren’t facts; thinking you are of low value or worth does not make it true. Start to use positive self-talk. This may look like a thought reframe, but it can also look like speaking kindly to yourself in other ways. For example, you might say to yourself, “you handled that as well as you could,” or “I’m proud of you for getting through that.” Other steps you can take to value yourself might also look like setting boundaries, doing kind things for yourself, celebrating your accomplishments, and so on. If you would like support in this process, therapy can help.
How do you gain self-respect?
If you struggle with self-respect, there are a number of things that you can do to try to gain it.
Here are some tips for gaining self-respect:
- When you experience feelings of a lack of self-respect, think of how you would treat a person outside of yourself that you do respect. What would you tell them if they were putting themselves down? How would you lift them? Apply that to yourself.
- List your positive traits, and don’t take “there are none” as an answer. Everyone has positive traits. Examples of things you might list are empathy, kindness, a specific talent you have, resilience, intellect, uniqueness, and so on.
- Use mantras or self-worth quotes as reminders. For instance, one self-worth quote that may be helpful could be the Louise L. Hay quote, “Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” The mantra that works for you may differ from the mantras or self-worth quotes that work for others, so go with the one that resonates with you the most.
If you are stuck, need support, or want someone to talk to, seeing a therapist can be beneficial. Therapy can be an excellent place to work on self-respect and self-worth.
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