What Are The Most Important Characteristics Of A Man That Loves You?

Finding the right man isn’t always an easy task. And, even when you find a man that loves you, it doesn’t mean that he’s the right one for you. You don’t want to settle for a relationship that won’t make you happy long term. Instead, it’s important to know exactly what will nourish you in a romantic relationship, so you can communicate your needs and look for a partner that can satisfy them.

Choosing what characteristics of a man are important

Below, we’ll cover some important characteristics and good character traits that your partner should have for a healthy relationship. However, it’s vital to understand that romantic partnerships aren’t one-size-fits-all. What’s important to one person may not be as much of a factor to another. That’s why it’s so important to have a clear idea of your desires and needs.

Not everyone’s looking for the same person

There are some characteristics like honesty and integrity that should be on everyone’s list when looking for a long-term partner. However, other characteristics may not be as important to some people as they are to others. For example, one individual may find it important to have an extremely outgoing partner; others may prefer being with a homebody.

No one is going to be “Perfect”

If you are looking for the perfect man, then you may find yourself disappointed. There is no such thing as a perfect person. A part of being in a committed relationship is understanding that mistakes can happen, and you can grow together as a couple to learn from them.

However, some things may be non-negotiable for you, and those boundaries are important. For example, you need a man that’s going to be faithful to you. On the other hand, you might enjoy a man that enjoys being out in nature, but that might be something that you’re willing to compromise on.

You also need to focus on yourself

If you’re solely focused on finding the right person, you may lose sight of your own goals and aspirations in life. Though romantic relationships can be a beautiful part of life, they aren’t everything. By maintaining some independence and autonomy - whether in a relationship or not - you can ensure that you don’t lose sight of what’s important to you in the long run.

Caring for yourself not only can improve your self-worth and self-assuredness but can also be extremely helpful in a relationship.

Your attraction to your partner - physically and emotionally

Though there are stereotypes of what women find “conventionally attractive,” many people have different ideas of what they find attractive in a person. This is often a combination of physical, emotional, and intellectual attributes. For most people - but not all - sexual attraction is a very important aspect of their relationship.

Stephen J. Betchen wrote in an article: “Can a partner who has never been physically attracted to their mate grow this attraction over time? This question has produced some interesting and sometimes heated debates at professional organizations. I have to confess that I err on the side of the naysayers. In nearly 35 years of practicing couples therapy, I’ve never seen a partner “get it” when they “never had it” to begin with. I’ve seen a few who “had some” and “grew more,” but even those that were attracted to non-physical aspects of their partners (such as intellect) couldn’t seem to harvest a physical attraction. In this sense, you either have it from the beginning, or you don’t.”

While not being physically attracted to a partner doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship can’t work, it can hinder a romantic relationship.

Honesty

It doesn’t matter how much a man loves you if he can’t be honest with you. It’s important to have a relationship built on honesty to establish trust in a relationship. Lying, especially if it happens often, can create insecurity and difficult communication issues within a relationship. Every person, regardless of gender, wants to believe that they can trust their partner wholeheartedly.

Look for a man that has integrity and is honest in all areas of his life. If he is used to telling a “white lie” or being dishonest with friends, family, coworkers, and customers, then it’s an indicator that he might not have a problem lying to you either.

Respect

You want a man who will respect you for who you are and can support you in what you’re doing. If a man truly does love you, then he’s going to show you respect as well. However, if a man solely loves you for what you can do for him, you probably will not get this same level of respect that you’re looking for in return.

Look at the way the man you’re interested in treats other people. Is he respectful to his family, friends, and coworkers? If he shows a high level of respect to others around him, then there’s a good chance that he will respect you as well.

Has things in common with you

Dependable

You want a man in your life that you can depend on. He should be steady and follow through on what he says he’s going to do. You want to know that you can count on him when you need him. Many men will tell you what you want to hear, especially at the beginning of a relationship, but the man you’re with must consistently meet your needs and show up for you.

Self-confident

A healthy dose of self-confidence is important for a good relationship. For example, some research found that “those with low self-esteem were not only more threatened by their partner’s imperfections, but they were also more likely to view their relationship in black-and-white terms: as all good or all bad.”

That means if you were having a challenge in your relationship - even one that’s normal for couples to experience - he might behave irrationally out of a sense of insecurity. Being able to understand your individual needs and communicate them is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship.

Those with low self-confidence are also likely to rely on the relationship as their sole means of happiness. Though this may not seem like an issue at the beginning of a relationship, it can become draining long term. It’s important that both of you have a strong sense of self and that you don’t slip into a codependentrelationship.

Maturity

While you want to find a guy you can have fun with, you also want to find one that’s mature if you want to have a long-term relationship. He should know how to support himself and handle his finances responsibly. Being mature doesn’t mean that he has everything “figured out,” but it does mean that he’s able to take things seriously when he needs to.

Maturity is developed throughout our lifetime, and it’s important to find someone who is at a similar level as you are. Issues can arise in relationships if one person struggles to be empathetic, understanding, and respectful.

The idea of “The One”

By being open and present as you experience life, you can find the happiness and romance you’re looking for.

If you are in a relationship with a man that loves you and you can’t decide if you should continue moving forward in the relationship or move on, talking to a therapist can help you work through your decision. At Regain, therapists help you get a better understanding of your own needs in a romantic relationship. Relationships and love can be difficult to navigate on your own, so don’t be afraid to reach out for help.

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