How To Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special In 12 Ways

Updated October 18, 2024by Regain Editorial Team

It is nice to feel special and wanted when you are in a relationship. Finding new and creative ways to make your girlfriend feel special is a great way to show her how much you care. Women, like people in general, often feel as though actions speak far louder than words. If you are struggling with ideas on how to tell a girl she's beautiful and make your amazing girlfriend feel special, several ideas are listed here that can help.

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You love your girlfriend and want to show her you care

Whether you want to make your girlfriend happy just because or if you feel the need to do something a little extra as an apology, there are a variety of tips to impress her, some of which are listed below. Perhaps you have run into relationship troubles, and you are looking to make things better. If that is the case, consider speaking to a relationship counselor in addition to attempting to make her feel special. Doing so will likely help you with the problems you are facing.

Nevertheless, the following ideas for cute things to do for your girlfriend might help you smooth things over or make her remember why she chose you.

Send a classic good morning text

There is nothing like waking up to a text from your favorite person. While a "hi" might start the conversation, a meaningful and thought-out opener may show your girlfriend that she truly is special to you. Some options might include "Good morning, beautiful. I was thinking of you" or "I hope you have a wonderful morning. I can't wait to see you tonight."

A good morning text shows your girl that she was your first thought upon waking up. Informing your girlfriend that she is on your mind is a great way to show her how special she is and how much you care.

Remember anniversaries of various dates

Being attentive to specific and important dates in your relationship is a great way to show your girl that you value your relationship. Doing so tells her that she is special to you. While remembering your actual anniversary is important, you can also remind her of the specific days when you went on your first date or when you had your first kiss.

Doing something small to acknowledge those dates go far in proving how you feel about her.

Offer a massage

Most people in general are highly appreciative of a massage. If she is on her feet all day, consider a foot massage. If she keeps stress in her neck and shoulders, work that area. By massaging the area that is bothering her, you can show her that you know her well.

You must put a real effort into the massage. If it is a brief, lazy massage, she will not feel as special. If necessary, break out the massage oil and spend a good amount of time ensuring that she gets to relax. A good massage can relieve her of stress and anxiety as well.

Send flowers just because

Very few women dislike getting flowers. When those flowers are unexpected, it is even better. Have them delivered to her work or make sure that they are at her house when she comes home. The surprise effect adds to the experience.

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Giving flowers when there is no reason to – such as when there hasn't been an argument or an anniversary - is a nice way to show your girlfriend that you were thinking about her. She will also have a reminder of that in the form of the flowers for several days.

Support her decisions

There is going to be a time in every relationship where you disagree with one another's decisions. While you can have a different opinion on the matter at hand, it is important that you still support her decision. Whether the decision is to start a new career, choose a new path of study, or even live in a tiny house by the beach, you should support her.

Offering up support even when you wouldn’t make the same decision or feel uncertain of her decision shows your girlfriend just how special she is to you. Showing up when you do not agree on something displays how serious you feel about the relationship and can make her feel even more special to you.  This behavior applies to all kinds of relationships, as people appreciate feeling supported by their partners.

Genuinely listen to her speak

It is easy to "mhm" and "oh" your way through a conversation. However, this typically means that you are not listening very well. Put all distractions away and listen to the words that she says. Repeat them back to her if it helps you to remember. Ensure that she knows that you listen and that she can talk to you about anything.

Having a good line of communication is imperative in any relationship. Her day-to-day activities and the things that her friends said might not be the conversation you want to have after work, but listening to it can show her how important she is.

Hold her hand

For a lot of people, holding hands is very juvenile. In truth, the connection sets of hormones in the brain are called oxytocin. This hormone boosts moods, decreases stress levels, and strengthens your relationship. When you are the first to grab her hand, she feels loved because it was your idea. Showing your girlfriend that she is not the only one who wants to hold hands and is not just obligated can make her feel more special.

Kiss her forehead

Who doesn’t love forehead kisses?! While kisses on the lips are great, there is something about a kiss on the forehead that makes a girl feel special and loved. It is a caring gesture that can carry more weight than lip kisses do in some ways. Forehead kisses can certainly make a girl smile.

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You love your girlfriend and want to show her you care

Not only does a forehead kiss signify that you care, but it also shows that you adore and like to comfort her. Few physical gestures make a girl feel more special than a forehead kiss.

Give her a girls night

Sometimes a girl needs a night out (or in) with her friends is just what your girlfriend may need. Although you enjoy spending time together, there can be a need for some activities apart. Giving her some space to be with friends lets her know that you don't feel the need to monopolize her time. It is a good idea to shoot her a quick text telling her to have fun, though!

If she is going out to a bar or getting alcoholic beverages with friends, it is even better if you can offer her and her friends a sober ride home. Ensuring that she makes it home safe can show her how special she is to you.

Wash her car

Taking care of a task that she hasn't had time for is a great way to make your girl feel extra special. Washing her car is one of many examples. Everyone enjoys a nice, clean car, so this option will let her know that you care.

Other options might be to take her car for an oil change (or change it yourself), mow her yard, take out her trash, or do any chore that needs doing. She may both appreciate the gesture and feel the love that you have for her.

Plan creative and fun dates

Dates these days are so often standard events - dinner and a movie being the go-to. By planning a date night that is different from the norm and lets the two of you have a good time together, you can show your girlfriend that you have thought about your time together and how to spend it best.

It would be best for your date to include things that you both enjoy, but it is extra special if it is something that she loves. If she is passionate about art, check out a new art exhibit. If she enjoys hockey, take her to a game. Maybe her favorite singer is in town - get tickets. Dates that show her that you know her interests and enjoy time with her doing those things will make her feel special.

Offer sincere compliments

A real compliment can go a long way to making your girl feel important. Sincere compliments can be based on physical traits but often refer to personality. For example, telling your girl that you love her passion and drive in her career is a compliment that runs deep. While telling her that she looks good in her sweater is a nice thing to say, a compliment about her personality will likely stay with her for longer.

When giving a sincere compliment, it is important to be honest about it. Honesty in compliments is often something that can be felt, which makes the compliment so much better. It isn't just something nice to say; it is a truth that happens to be nice.

Seek help for showing affection to your girlfriend

If you genuinely want your girlfriend to feel special, there are so many ways to do so. What is important, however, is that you truly make an effort. If you have tried these suggestions and the relationship doesn't feel as it should, getting professional help can be a real asset to your relationship.

Many people think that counselors and therapists are only appropriate to visit if you’re concerned about a mental health condition or if you’re going through a difficult time in life – this is not necessarily the case! Relationship counselors can be beneficial resources for all sorts of reasons, including coming up with ways to show your significant other how special they are to you.

Online therapy platforms like Regain connect everyday people to licensed, compassionate relationship counselors who are qualified to assist them in myriad ways. You can schedule sessions at times that work best for your schedule and attend online meetings from any location with a safe internet connection. You don’t even have to meet through videoconference – you can text, if that’s the communication mode your prefer.

Many studies show the effectiveness of online therapy when it comes to helping people improve their own relationships. Maybe you’re scared that your girlfriend won’t think your efforts are good enough for her, or maybe you’re afraid of rejection. One 2021 study involving 30 diverse couples revealed how there is no difference between in-person and online treatment when it comes to assisting couples in improving their relationship satisfaction and overall mental health.

Takeaway

There are certainly more ways to show your girlfriend how much she means to you and how much you care, though the items on this list are great ways to start. If you feel uncertain of yourself or are have tried some of these ways and don’t feel like they’re working, an online therapist can explore what might be going wrong and help you build the confidence or creativity to move forward. Reach out to a Regain therapist today to get started.

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