Cheated On? Quotes That Can Help You Heal And Move Past It

Being cheated on is a terrible thing to happen. No matter what the surrounding circumstances are around the betrayal, infidelity can have lasting effects on you.  You may shy away from relationships and keep yourself closed so you are not vulnerable to being hurt again. Even when you start a new relationship, you may find yourself unable to trust the person you are dating. Habits, like checking someone's text messages or always knowing where they are, can develop and cause stress between you and your partner.

Infidelity, unfortunately, is a common occurrence. While 90% of people consider cheating unacceptable, it continues to happen in all kinds of relationships. Whether you choose to stay in the relationship or it ends after the unearthing of infidelity, it is still important that you, as an individual, learn to heal and begin to move forward. Know that seeking help through therapy is always a good option, especially if you find that you are experiencing increased emotional and poor mental health symptoms. Even if you are recovering, talking to a mental health therapist can help you develop strategies to build resilience when you are met with intense challenges like infidelity and betrayal. 

However, if you need just a slight pick me up, we have gathered infidelity quotes such as being with a cheater quotes that can help you heal. While many of these wise words are from unknown sources, they can still provide comfort at a difficult time:

Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows.

Feelings are much like waves, we can't stop them from coming, but we can choose which ones to surf. -Jonatan Mårtensson

Life is about trusting your feelings, taking chances, losing, and finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change. -Atul Purohit

Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.

Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth.

On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%, and that's pretty good.

Always trust your gut. It knows what your head hasn't yet figured out.

You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have.

Pain is certain; suffering is optional.

Trusting you is my decision. Proving me right is your choice.

Infidelity is mentally, emotionally, and physically painful to the betrayed spouse. Be gentle with yourself as you heal. -Dr. Karen Finn

Sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge. - Don Henley

Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.

The wine is not to blame, but you are in being unable or unwilling to discipline yourself. And even if you look at a woman and become caught up in her beauty and assent to sin, the woman is not to blame. 

Nothing constrains you from committing lechery but your own lecherous heart.

Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.

Forget enough to get over it. Remember enough, so it doesn't happen again.

It's okay to cry over them. It's even okay to forgive them. But do not go back to them. If they did not know how to love you the first time, they wouldn't know how to do it the next.

Falling is part of life. Getting back up is living.

You didn't just cheat on me; you cheated on us. You didn't just break my heart; you broke our future. - Steve Maraboli

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed, and rare. - Brené Brown

They didn't cheat because of who you are. They chose to cheat because of who they are not. - Charles J. Orlando

Virtually all women will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal. Time is the salve on this journey towards forgiveness and healing because it is also a grieving process. - Meryn G. Callander

Someone who loves you wouldn't put themselves in a position to lose you. - Trent Shelton

Respect is earned. Honesty is appreciated. Trust is gained. Loyalty is returned.

If you cheated on a person willing to do anything for you, you cheated yourself out of true loyalty.

A confident and spiritual woman knows that "moving on" doesn't mean you never loved someone. She realizes that letting go is what God needs her to do because both your happiness and hers require taking different journeys for spiritual growth. - Shannon L. Alder

Those who cheat on their partners who are loyal to them; don't deserve them. It is a trashy attitude to disrespect a loyal person in a relationship by cheating on them. - Ellen J. Barrier

Seriously, if the bastards cheat on you, then they don't deserve you anyway. If that's a legit fear, then you probably shouldn't be with them to begin with. - Kody Keplinger

Don't cheat if you don't want to be cheated. A relationship is mutual. This is the golden rule for all great connections! – Israelmore Ayivor

Every woman that finally figured out her worth has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change. - Shannon L. Alder

Betrayal is never easy to handle, and there is no right way to accept it. - Christine Feehan

If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind. - Shannon L. Alder

Every test in our life makes us bitter or better. Every problem comes to break us or make us. The choice is ours whether we become victims or victors.

When people cheat in any arena, they diminish themselves. They threaten their self-esteem and relationships with others by undermining their trust in their ability to succeed and in their ability to be true. - Cheryl Hughes

Trust, once lost, could not be easily found. Not in a year, perhaps not even in a lifetime. - J.E.B. Spredemann

Don't get mad. Don't get even. Do better. Much better. Rise above. Become so engulfed in your success that you forget it ever happened.

You asked why I couldn't forgive you; it was because you were the love of my life. And you didn't want to be. That's hard to let go of. - Kristan Higgins

A real man doesn't have time to cheat because that man is too busy providing what a good woman deserves. – Ritu Ghatourey

People have a moral standard about what they will do and will not do. At the end of the day, someone who cheats has a lower moral standard than someone who does not. And they will cheat in other areas of life as well. - Carl Lewis

There is no way someone can love you and lie to you over and over again. You don't hurt the people you love.

It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. The fulfillment of such miracles depends on whether we let our wounds pull us down or lift us towards our dreams. -Jocelyn Soriano

Disappointments in love, even betrayals and losses, serve the soul at the very moment they seem in life to be tragedies. The soul is partly in time and partly in eternity. We might remember the part that resides in eternity when we feel despair over the part in life. - Thomas Moore

Life is about trusting your feelings, taking chances, losing, finding happiness, appreciating the memories, learning from the past, and realizing people change. – Atul Purohit

Let's hope that for every time we get hurt or break our heart, there is something somewhere written to make up for it, to make the happiness due even bigger and laughter even merrier, for, after all, good things must happen to good people. - Mansi Soni

Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It's what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don't let them take that from you. - Sherrilyn Kenyon

Being cheated on is a terrible thing that happens to so many people. But it does not mean that your life is over or that you will never love, trust, or open yourself up to anyone again. People can heal and form relationships out of that healing. No matter what happens after discovering infidelity, believe in your strength and lean on others to help carry you on. And if you need it, keep some of these quotes nearby.

Reaching for support

Any form of betrayal can cause a person to lose hope, trust, and have a difficult time developing a new relationship without worrying about being hurt again. While time does heal the sting of a fresh betrayal, you may find that you are unable to recover and are struggling with trusting the person you are with or avoiding forming new romantic relationships altogether. Reaching for the guidance and support of a mental health professional can help you work through these feelings and find strategies to learn to trust again. Whether you need to vent or process or both, a counselor will be able to offer the right level of care and support to assist you as you move into the next phase of your life.

A growing number of studies point to online counseling as an effective method of helping individuals deal with complicated emotions after a betrayal or infidelity. In a study published in Trials—the peer-reviewed medical journal—researchers outlined the potential efficacy of online therapy in helping those experiencing separation, bereavement, or divorce. In similar studies, researchers have concluded that online therapy could significantly reduce feelings of grief, depression, embitterment, and loneliness, and increase overall quality of life.

Because Regain is an online mental health service that connects you with counselors and therapists from all over the country, you are not limited to only those mental health professionals that operate in your area. With more options, you will have a better chance of matching with someone who understands your situation and knows exactly how to help you move forward. The qualified therapists at Regain can help ensure you’re processing a breakup in the healthiest way possible. Read below for counselor reviews, from those who have experienced similar issues. 

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“Nadja was very supportive and listened to my concerns in a non-judgmental way while offering helpful advice to get me through a very rough time in my relationship. Ultimately, she helped me see that that the relationship hadn't been working for me, and she helped give me confidence to break out of the cycle and believe in myself in order to leave the situation. I would recommend her as a counselor to anyone going through personal or relationship issues!”