Does He Love Me? Signs A Man Is Falling For You

If you have feelings for a man, you may wonder if the feeling is mutual. Some people tend not to show their emotions for various reasons. For example, he may not want to tell you outright that he likes you out of fear of rejection or losing the relationship entirely. Or he simply may not realize his true feelings. 

Whatever the reason, there may be signs that the guy likes you back. Understanding how men fall in love can also help you recognize your partner's feelings for you. Here are some signs:

He wants to talk to you

This is perhaps the most obvious sign, yet it can sometimes be overlooked. If a guy wants to text you or talk to you frequently, this might be a sign that he likes you. If he drops what he’s doing to talk to you, then this may be an even better indicator that he enjoys paying attention to what you have to say. 

He tells you personal stories

If a guy is telling you about his personal life and emotions, it could be a sign that he loves you. A man may not be willing to be vulnerable with a casual date or even his close friends. If he has a deep bond with you, this may signify that he wants to get to know you more and have a deeper relationship with you.

He gives you gifts

One way you can tell if he loves you is if he gives you little surprises. For example, if he gives you some chocolate, jewelry, or another type of gift, it is a good sign he is trying to send a message of affection. Giving gifts can be another sign that he loves you, but sometimes, it can be hard to tell the difference between someone giving a gift to be nice and giving one out of love.

He cares about your happiness

If the man in your life makes an effort to show you he cares about your happiness and wellbeing, that could be a powerful sign. Being upset when you’re unhappy and voicing his care and concern about you may be one of the best indicators of love. 

He talks about the future

The future is a mystery that is always looming. Still, someone who is genuinely interested in you may talk about your goals for the long-term. For example, he may ask you where you see yourself in ten or twenty years. This may be a way for him to see if the two of you are compatible. Love may be the driving force for these types of questions. 

He seems glum when you're with someone else

Perhaps one of the more obvious signs of love is if his mood becomes melancholy when you’re dating or talking to someone else. In this instance, he may fear that there’s someone more important in your life. If he’s in love with you, he’ll naturally feel sad about the prospect of losing you. 

He inconveniences himself for you

People may sacrifice a lot for the one they love. One example of this is when someone goes out of their way to help you. Perhaps your car is stuck and you need a ride. A man who loves you may leave the comfort of his own home or drop everything to come help you. We might all do nice things for our friends, but someone who truly loves you may go above and beyond.

He worries about you

Although not everyone is a worrier, worrying can be a sign of love. Whenever you're taking a risk or seem down, for example, he may ask if you're okay or if you need help. He could also advise you to be careful or to take care of yourself. To the contrary, someone who doesn't love you might not worry too much if you're taking a risk or seem upset. When a guy loves someone, they often become concerned with their well-being and want to enable them to avoid adversity.

Body language

There may be more to communication than just the words that come out of our mouths. Someone’s body language may be just as telling, if not more so. When talking to him, you may want to look for body language signs. A man who likes you may stare into your eyes, touch his face, fiddle around with his socks, or make other subtle gestures.

He doesn't talk to other girls this way

If he has other female friends, observe how he communicates with them. If it's not as deep as the conversations the two of you are having, or if his body language is different, this could be a sign that he has more romantic feelings for you. 

You have a gut feeling

It may be best to trust your instincts. If you’re seeing signs he has a crush on you, then he probably does. Like anyone else, men  can be hard to read at times, but they may give off clues. You may wonder why he doesn’t just directly communicate his feelings. Consider that he may have experienced trauma in past relationships or fear being rejected. 

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If he likes you, then what?

If you believe he likes you, you may wonder what the next move should be. You may have plenty of options when the feelings are mutual. Here are some responses you can consider:

• Flirt back. If he's flirty, flirt back, or use body language that makes it obvious you're interested. When both parties give off hints, there may be a good chance that one of you will break the ice. That's all it takes for the conversation to commence.
• Get closer to him. If the two of you sit down, inch up to him and try to hold his hand. This could be the first step toward more physical affection down the line. 
• Just say it to him. It can be hard to admit you like someone, but there are advantages to being direct. The sooner feelings are established, the sooner you can move forward in the relationship. 

Seek help

If you're still unsure if he likes you, bothered about how to know he’s the one, or don't know how to approach the situation, you may want to talk to a  relationship counselor for any questions you may have. This type of counselor may be able to help you navigate the various stages of a relationship, including any challenges you may have.  

People experiencing relationship issues may face certain barriers to treatment. For example, it could be hard to be vulnerable about matters of the heart with a stranger, particularly in person. Some people report feeling more at ease talking about topics like love and romance in an online setting. Online counseling might also be more convenient since there’s no need for a commute to a therapist’s office. 

Internet-based therapy is also backed by science. Researchers in the field of mental health have determined that this type of remote counseling has positive effects, not just for individuals but for couples and families as well. One recent study highlighted the benefits of therapy using videoconferencing technology.

Takeaway 

Dating can be filled with hint dropping, miscommunications, and anxiety on either side. It’s no wonder many people find it challenging. If you need help reading signals, making the first move, or conquering any other dating challenge, Regain can help. Reach out for support from one of our compassionate and competent relationship counselors today.