How To Find A Good Husband

During the search for a good husband: Suggestions for you

While you’re introducing yourself and meeting new people on your search, there are steps you can take that solidify your chances of finding a suitable husband on your end:

Learn how to be a good wife

If you want a good husband, you should also learn how to be a good wife. You increase your chance of getting a good husband by showing him you would be a good partner. Traits like kindness, generosity, and honesty are universal things that are attractive to others- and when you possess them, you increase your chances of finding someone with the same positive characteristics.  

Be yourself and be honest

Make sure that you are honest and genuine when dating. It’s sometimes difficult to stay grounded when meeting new people, but staying as natural as possible is essential to finding the right guy. If you find someone you hit it off with and think he may be a great candidate for a husband, initially, putting on an act won’t help you stay together for the long term. 

Know what you're looking for

Everyone’s idea of a good husband is a little different- some people put a sense of humor at the top of the list, while others put intelligence as the highest priority. No matter what you prefer, determine what you won’t compromise on. Staying flexible is important, but so is having a direction concerning the things that matter to you. 

How to spot a potentially good husband

Once you have yourself sorted out (as best you can), it’s time to focus outward and explore the personality traits you want in a husband. Most people unwittingly display behavior that reveals a lot about who they are and what they can bring to a marriage, watch out for this behavior and use it to guide your choice. 

Consider their level of commitment

Because you’re ready to commit to someone forever doesn’t mean you’ll find someone to match that level of commitment right away. Studies suggest that men are more likely to resist marriage than women for several reasons, even though they are more likely to benefit from it. The most common is apprehension due to the greater financial and personal responsibility involved.

During your search, look for men comfortable with the level of responsibility that marriage requires to be successful and understand that they stand to gain much more from a good marriage than they may realize.  

Look for a man who isn't insecure

If a potential husband struggles with feelings of insecurity, it can impact how he behaves in daily life, leading to many challenges within a marriage. The following are some signs of an insecure mate: 

• He always questions the motives behind your actions. 

• He “keeps score” of your disagreements. 

• He thinks you have a hidden agenda.

• During arguments, he focuses on defending himself rather than solving the problem.

• He gets angry if you don’t thank or compliment him often.

• He thinks you should be a “mind reader” and know his needs without communication.

• He needs to know about all of your social interactions.

• He’s jealous of the time you spend with friends.

• He believes he’s always right- which means you are wrong if you disagree with him. 

Pay attention to how he treats you and others

Watch how he treats you as you're dating but also watch how he treats others. For example, how does he talk to and about other people? What type of interaction does he have with his own family? Does he act one way around some people and another way around others? If he's consistent regardless of who he is around, it's a good sign that you see the real him. 

Make it a point to observe what his friends and family are like

The company that he keeps can give you a good picture of his character and the type of man he is. For example, he might have the same habits if his friends are inappropriate with women, talk harshly, and otherwise behave rudely. This doesn't mean that if you don't like his friends, he automatically won't be a good husband, but it will give you some things to think about.

For most, family significantly influences how we grow and develop our personalities throughout life. It may be a good sign if his family seems relatively happy and tight-knit. If they speak rudely to each other or there appears to be an atmosphere of tension, further investigation may be required. If his family makes bigoted remarks or has no reservations about dropping hate speech around you, you can probably already guess their values and what they’re like. 

What is his attitude about working on the relationship?

Relationships can indeed be complex and require much work. But it’s also true that often, the things that are most worth having are worth working for. When searching for a good husband, try to find someone willing to make an effort and won’t be afraid to meet you halfway so you can put in the work and grow together. If you’re a good match, you’ll eventually balance trying and letting the relationship flow naturally. 

Can you have fun and enjoy each other?

A good marriage isn’t all work and no play, however. While dating a potential lifetime mate, consider whether you make each other laugh and have a good time together. Do you align and complement each other with the things you enjoy doing? Is he an intellectually stimulating person you can communicate with and learn from? You don’t have to like the same things exactly; it may be best if you have interests apart from each other. 

Determine your standards for a compatiable partner in online therapy

Putting yourself  “out there” when looking for a good husband can be challenging. Dating often means rejection when things don’t work out or you find someone you don’t think you’ll be compatible with, and that can certainly take its toll on a person emotionally. If you’re involved in the dating scene or are with someone you think will make a good husband but have issues to work on in the relationship, speaking to a professional experienced in the areas of sex, intimacy, and relationships can be highly beneficial. 

Despite the advantages of therapy, many people feel it isn’t for them. They may have difficulties making time to commute to and attend appointments in their busy schedule. Some don’t have treatment or have difficulty traveling to and from appointments. Still, others feel uncomfortable speaking to a therapist in person or encountering others in the office waiting room. 

Telehealth therapy is an excellent solution to these barriers and more. Platforms like Regain pair clients with licensed, accredited counselors experienced in helping individuals and relationships resolve conflict and stay healthy. 

With Regain, you can talk to a mental health professional via online messaging, video chat, text, and phone from the comfort of home. You can book appointments around your schedule without commuting or visiting a traditional office. Online therapy is often more affordable than conventional therapy without insurance and is just as effective as in-person treatment for couples and individuals.

Counselor reviews

“Sessions with Natalie are very insightful and give practical advice on implementing new habits and changes. Be prepared to engage and be challenged to think in a different way. I know that my partner and I can already see improvements in our relationship and feel more positive about working through our issues together.”

“Austa has been wonderful thus far. She has helped my partner and I during an unimaginably difficult time... She has also guided us in communicating effectively and setting appropriate boundaries in our relationship. I was hesitant to pursue counseling at the beginning, but I truly believe that it is making a difference for our relationship. Austa is easy to talk to and she is a great listener. I would wholeheartedly recommend her as a counselor.”

Takeaway

If you’re ready to find a good husband and cultivate a healthy, happy, and balanced marriage- online therapy can give you the tools you need.