<p>Love and hate seem like opposites. Both can be extreme, intense emotions, but they seem to exist on opposite ends of a spectrum. With love, you feel immensely positive towards someone, and with hate, you feel extremely negative towards someone. Despite these two emotions seeming worlds apart, some may argue that the line between the two may be thin, and it could be easy to shift between the two extremes with one small event. In this article, we&rsquo;ll explore these two emotions and the line between them.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Love vs. hate&nbsp;</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Love can be hard to describe, but it&rsquo;s something you can often immediately recognize when you feel it. There are different kinds of love, but in this article, we're going to focus on romantic love. With romantic love, it can mean you have a deep connection with someone to whom you are also romantically attracted; you feel a lot of affection for this person, enjoy spending time with them, and care deeply for them. Love can come quickly or take some time to form. It can sometimes be rational or irrational, and it can be hard to understand at times. There are some people who you don't know why you fell in love with them, and it can sometimes be hard to tell what is love and what is lust.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong id="docs-internal-guid-463caac9-7fff-458c-7493-e37c6a8f29ca"></strong><a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/what-is-hate-are-you-in-a-love-hate-relationship/">What is hate</a>? Hatred can stem from a combination of certain emotions. There can be people you dislike for whatever reason; maybe something about them bothers you or they get on your nerves&mdash;this is not quite hatred. Then, there can be those who you may resent; you may feel immensely negative toward them, distrust them, feel hurt by them, or be disappointed in their actions. Hatred can often involve extreme dislike, distrust, resentment, and anger. Hatred is often reserved for a person who legitimately did something awful and is deserving of your anger. In many beliefs, hate is something that should be used sparingly, if not at all.<strong id="docs-internal-guid-463caac9-7fff-458c-7493-e37c6a8f29ca"> </strong></p>
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<h2>The thin line between love and hate</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Love and hate are opposites, yet some argue that sometimes, they can be separated by just a thin line. And sometimes, you can switch between the two rather quickly. At first, this may sound contradictory. If you love someone, how could it turn to hate so easily?</p>
<p dir="ltr">However, if you've ever experienced the complexity of &ldquo;love hate&rdquo; emotions, you may be familiar with how it can be. People may experience this sudden, extreme shift when the person they love hurts them deeply or betrays them in some way, for example, causing the emotions to swing quickly. If you have such strong feelings towards someone, these feelings can swing in the opposite direction once something makes those feelings come crashing down.</p>
<p dir="ltr">This can be because you were deeply invested in this person and your expectations for them were so high. If you loved someone, you may have had high expectations for them and for the bond between you two. Whenever they disappoint you, you likely feel more hurt and let down than you would if the person was someone you didn't love. It can feel like a bigger loss and betrayal since you cared about this person so much.&nbsp;</p>
<h2>Loving and hating someone at once</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Another emotion that some claim to experience is this idea of both hating and loving someone at the same time. This sounds like a contradiction, but again, you may understand if you've been in this situation and have felt those emotions.</p>
<p dir="ltr">For example, there may be someone with whom you have romantic and intimate connections but has some major personality flaws that can make you very mad and frustrated, but not enough to make you want to hate them entirely. These mixed emotions can lead to a rollercoaster of a relationship, where the two of you are fighting one second and then loving each other the next.&nbsp;</p>
<h2>Why this can happen</h2>
<p dir="ltr">How can we experience such polar opposite emotions in such a short period, sometimes at the same time? To answer this question, we can turn to science.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">According to some research, <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/scientists-prove-it-really-is-a-thin-line-between-love-and-hate-976901.html">love and hate are closely linked within the brain</a>. Researchers have found that some of the nervous circuits in the brain that are responsible for hate are also used during the feeling of romantic love.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Help is available</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Love and hate are two powerful emotions that can be difficult to make sense of and hard to control, and you may want support in expressing and processing your emotions in a healthy way. If you would like help with these emotions on your own, you can meet with an online therapist individually, and if you and your partner would like help navigating these emotions in the context if your relationship, you can meet with a couples counselor together. Research has demonstrated the <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-03880-001">effectiveness of online therapy for improving both relationship and individual functioning</a>.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If feelings of hate are popping up in your relationship, you and your partner may decide that you want to take some physical time apart from each other while still working on the relationship. With <a href="http://www.regain.us/get-started/">online therapy</a> through Regain, you and your partner can join the same therapy session from separate locations, so you don&rsquo;t have to be in the same physical space if you don&rsquo;t want to be.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Both love and hate can be extreme, intense emotions, but they seem to exist on opposite ends of a spectrum&mdash;with love on the most positive end and hate on the most negative. But, in some ways, there can be a thin line between the two, and it is possible to quickly jump from one emotion to the other. Navigating such intense emotions can be confusing, especially in a romantic relationship. If you&rsquo;d like support with these and other relationship concerns, an online therapist can help.&nbsp;</p>
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While love and hate seem to be on opposite ends of a spectrum, some may argue that there is a thin line between love and hate. Explore this idea here.

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<p dir="ltr"><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Can you love someone and hate them at the same time?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Yes, it is possible to hate and love someone simultaneously, and this love-hate relationship style can have both emotions at once. In a love-hate relationship, one emotion can be stronger than the other, but both can be felt simultaneously in many cases. Over time, these two emotions can coexist so much that they blend into one emotion that combines the two. Love hatred is usually not a healthy style of emotion, and visiting a professional for counseling or talking things through with the other person is often the best strategy.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Can love become hate?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Yes, love can become overcome by hate; for instance, this can happen if a significant other or trusted person, regardless of if the relationship was romantic love or not, betrays that trust or does something very hurtful. In some cases, this can lead to a love-hate relationship, whereas it may end the relationship in other cases.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Is hate stronger than love?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Emotions can exist on a spectrum and are felt in different levels from person to person. Hate is not necessarily stronger than love and vice versa. Recent&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5725944/">studies have shown</a> that &ldquo;stronger feelings of love were associated with greater hate after the relationship was broken.&rdquo; How strong an emotion is felt can depend on the person feeling it and the situation causing the emotion to be felt. Platonic love, romantic love, and other types are usually strong positive emotions, whereas hate is a strong negative emotion.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>How do you release hatred?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Releasing hatred can seem difficult, but allowing this emotion to leave your mind and body can be beneficial. First, you can try to identify the source of the hate and the events that set it in motion. Try to relax and replace unhealthy thought patterns with healthy thoughts that are reframed in a positive light. Above all, acknowledge your words and thoughts as being hateful so that you don&rsquo;t accidentally say something in a moment of anger that can&rsquo;t be taken back. In a love-hate relationship, hatred and love can often become mixed, making the process of working through hatred more complex. For additional support, reaching out to a licensed mental health professional may help.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Family dynamics are complicated and oftentimes intense, making it natural to experience emotional highs and lows in your relationship with your parents. In a study focused on adult children and their parents, Kira Birditt, Ph.D., found that&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2690709/">94% reported tension in their relationship</a>. The reason for your perceived hatred toward your mother, and whether the emotion is chronic or fleeting, may help you determine what to do about it. Hatred is a strong emotion, and you may want to consider reaching out to a licensed therapist. They may be able to provide you with more insight into your relationship with your parents, and help you determine actionable steps to address your feelings.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">The American Psychological Associate defines hatred as, &ldquo;<a href="https://dictionary.apa.org/hate">A hostile emotion combining intense feelings of detestation, anger, and often a desire to do harm</a>.&rdquo; Brief feelings of hatred towards a parent can be normal during childhood and young adulthood, but if you&rsquo;re experiencing lasting hatred towards your mother, it may be time to reflect on why you feel that way and what you can do about it.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do you hate your mom?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Before deciding how to respond to your feelings of hatred, it can be helpful to evaluate what is driving your strong emotions. Your feelings may be related to one or a combination of the following reasons, or it may be rooted in something else entirely.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Common reasons children experience hatred towards a parent(s):&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Desire For Independence</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Trauma, Physical Or Emotional Abuse, Or Neglect</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Different Values Or Morals</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Disrespected Boundaries</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Breach Of Trust&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Inconsistent Or Dismissive Parenting</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Poorly Defined Roles (Enmeshment)</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Resentment Following Divorce</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation">Mental Health Challenges</p>
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<p dir="ltr">It is not uncommon to experience hatred towards a parent, and while in some instances you may be able to maintain a relationship with them, there are other cases where that may not be possible. If you&rsquo;re unsure why you have negative thoughts about your mother, you may want to talk to a trusted friend, sibling, or a therapist to get perspective from someone else.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">How to address feelings of hatred&nbsp;</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Once you&rsquo;ve come to some understanding of the reasons for your feelings, it can be easier to think about actionable steps to improve your relationship with yourself and, possibly, your mom. Here are some things you might want to consider doing if you find yourself thinking, &ldquo;I hate my mom&rdquo;:&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Accept your emotions&nbsp;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When we repress our emotions, we&nbsp;<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2013-44085-035">may be</a>&nbsp;putting ourselves at a higher risk of experiencing physical and mental health consequences. On the other hand, emotional expression&nbsp;<a href="https://openaccesspub.org/ijpr/article/999">can</a>&nbsp;improve our mental health and well-being. It is relatively common for people to experience hatred towards a parent, and accepting the validity of your emotions is a good first step towards healing.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Establish boundaries</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When you understand why you experience hatred towards your mom, you can begin to define your boundaries. For example, if your parents have different political values as you, you can ask that they do not bring up politics. Or, if your parents tend to make negative remarks about your lifestyle, you could ask that they do not comment on your differing life choices.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Establishing healthy boundaries can enable you to directly communicate your needs for your relationship with your mother, and it will give her the opportunity to respect your boundaries, which can strengthen your relationship.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">For boundaries to work effectively, you will also need to know your limits and set consequences when/if your boundaries are violated.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Give yourself space</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Getting some distance from a toxic parent can be helpful, especially if they do not respect your boundaries. Space can help you gain perspective on your relationship with your mother, and you can instead focus on developing stronger relationships with friends or your other relatives during this time.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Focus on a healthy lifestyle&nbsp;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Healthy lifestyle habits can improve your wellbeing, especially if your relationship with your parent is stressful. Try to eat a balanced diet, practice meditation or mindfulness, journal about your feelings, get enough sleep each night, reduce time spent using electronics, and nourish positive relationships.&nbsp;<a href="https://www.usu.edu/today/story/healthy-habits-to-improve-mental-health#:~:text=Exercise%20is%20one%20of%20the,symptoms%20of%20anxiety%20and%20depression.">According to Utah State University</a>, routine exercise can be one of the most effective ways to improve your mental health.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Don&rsquo;t share things you don&rsquo;t feel comfortable sharing&nbsp;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">You are not obligated to tell information that you believe your mother may gossip about or try to use against you. Only talk about what you want to tell her.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Develop communication strategies</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Try to be clear and upfront when you communicate, and if your mother does not communicate clearly, you can ask her to clarify what she means.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Recognize that you can&rsquo;t change anyone but yourself</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Even if you&rsquo;re willing to work on improving your relationship with your mother, she might not be. The way your mother chooses to act is not your responsibility, and your job is not to please her. What you can control is how you respond to her behaviors.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Understand when you cannot reason with her</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If your parent is being irrational, manipulative, argumentative, or immature, it may not be possible to reason with her. You do not have to explain your perspective if they will not listen, and these discussions could lead to arguments or disrespectful comments.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You don&rsquo;t need her approval</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Experiencing neglect, trauma, abuse, or insecure attachment in childhood may lead you to experience an increased desire for external validation and approval. When we engage in people-pleasing behaviors to get the approval of a parent, we are often doing so because we have low self-worth.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/self-help/tips-and-support/raise-low-self-esteem/">Work on building self-worth</a>&nbsp;by acknowledging your skills, building healthier relationships, showing yourself compassion, being assertive about your needs, and challenging yourself to try new things.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Try therapy with your mom</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you and your parent both want to work on improving your relationship, you can try attending therapy sessions together. Therapists focused on &ldquo;parental alienation&rdquo; can help educate, reduce conflict, and improve communication strategies between parents and their adult children. Sites like Regain offer online therapy sessions that you and your mom can attend together, even if you don&rsquo;t live near each other.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">However, in instances of severe parental alienation, or cases where your parent is unwilling to disengage from alienating behaviors, family therapy may not be effective.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Cognitive behavioral therapy without your parent present</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Parental psychological abuse can cause stress and contribute to the development low self-esteem and psychiatric disorders like anxiety and depression. If you or your mom does not want to work on your relationship together, you can still improve your mental health on your own.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a type of talk therapy that can help you identify unhelpful thought patterns and reframe them to help you cope with stressors in a healthier way. Research consistently shows that CBT can effectively address symptoms of anxiety disorders, eating disorders, depressive disorders, chronic stress, substance use disorder, and more.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">A 2017 review found that online cognitive behavioral therapy is effective in managing stress and addressing the symptoms of many psychiatric disorders. Additionally, the review found that online CBT can be more cost-effective and available than traditional therapy.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Counselor reviews</h2>
<p dir="ltr">"Heather is a wonderful support to me in my journey of self-discovery and enlightenment of my relationship and my life. Through her help, I am becoming clearer in myself of who I am, and how the challenging relationships I have had with my mother and have with my husband have affected me. I am learning life skills and boundaries that me and I am on a path to find the emotion of joy as part of my daily life and I truly believe, with Heather's help I can get there."</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Most child-parent relationships experience occasional strain and intense emotions. However, if you feel as though you hate your mother, it may be a good to investigate the reasons behind your emotions. For your own wellbeing, it may be necessary to take actions like establishing healthy boundaries, focusing on yourself, and acknowledging that her choices are not in your control.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Unhealthy parental relationships can be hard to understand on your own, and you may want to reach out to a licensed therapist. Online cognitive behavioral therapy can effectively reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression, while improving your self-worth and ability to cope with stressors.</p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2><strong>What to do if you hate your parents?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>If you hate your mother, or your mom and dad, that can be extremely painful. One option is to find a therapy service or find a treatment program to help you deal with both your emotions and why you feel that way. Some people hate their parents because their father was abusive and they blame their mother for not stopping it, they always had a strained relationship with my mother because of a mental health disorder, their mom and dad were drug addicts, or there was emotional abuse. There are so many reasons for why someone would hate their parents. However, the best way to deal with this long-lasting hatred is to see types of therapy that can address emotional instability and find a therapist to help you work through your feelings.</p>
<h2><strong>Is it normal to dislike your parents?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>For some people is it normal to dislike their parents; however, it is usually a dislike for their parenting style. There are those who trying dislike their parents because of a volatile family life or reasons like:</p>
<ul>
<li>They did not have a good mother</li>
<li>They were harassed about their weight as a child and developed eating disorders</li>
<li>They were highly pressured over school work and good grades</li>
<li>A parent left home during the person&rsquo;s childhood</li>
<li>There is a lack of boundaries with your parents and your personal life as an adult</li>
<li>There was emotional abuse or neglect</li>
<li>Their mother gave them a hard time about everything they said and did as a child</li>
<li>Their mother reply to a problem was hurtful, not helpful</li>
<li>They were a poor role model for how a married couple or parents should behave</li>
<li>The relationship with their mother was toxic</li>
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<h3><strong>How do you deal with a toxic mother?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>Dealing with a toxic mother can be quite challenging. It is best to find a therapist to help you manage your feelings and your responses to her behaviors. While you cannot force your mother to find treatment for her issues, you can find treatment for how you deal with her. The types of therapy that address toxic parents is usually family therapy. While you may spend a long time with your counselor talking about what your life was like growing up and how your mother is toxic to your overall life, you need to feel free to discuss these things openly. Human beings need to be heard and understood, so when you find a therapist, do not expect your problems to just disappear overnight; commit to a long term relationship with your counselor to help you manage dealing with a toxic mother.</p>
<h3><strong>Why do mothers not like their daughters?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>Some mothers want to be their daughters best friends rather than a parent. This can dramatically impact the family life of everyone involved. While it is perfectly alright to be best friends with your daughter, you need to be a parent first and make sure that you are a role model that she can depend on for both sympathy and discipline.</p>
<p>Mother&rsquo;s typically start to dislike their daughters around the time of high school. Since high school is a time to grow more independent of your parents, they are still your moral compass. A mother then cannot loosen the reigns of their daughter when they are in high school, and tend to start to resent their daughters. Often counselors hear, &ldquo;The relationship with my mother started to go south when I was in high school.&rdquo; With hormones and wanting more independence, a mother/daughter relationship can become quite tarnished. It may get to the point that the mother significantly starts to dislike their daughter. Whether from a poor bond, emotional abuse, or jealousy, it is not uncommon for a daughter to feel that the relationship with my mother is dysfunctional.</p>
<p>Some daughters start to revolt this dislike and leave home at a young age or once as soon as the day is coming for them to be free of their mother&rsquo;s control. While it is never ideal for a girl to say I hate my mother, sometimes the reality is that so much resentment has built up that she feels no other emotions. If your mother did not like you or you often say I hate my mother, find a therapist who can help you work through your emotions.</p>
<h3><strong>Do mothers favor their first born?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>It depends. Every mother/child bond is different. You may say that the relationship with mother was great as a first born, and another person may say that the relationship with my mother was horrific, as a first born.</p>
<h3><strong>Is it OK to yell at your child?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>Sometimes the only way you can get your point across is to yell at your child; however, you need to realize that if you&nbsp;<a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/yelling-at-kids">constantly yell at a child</a>&nbsp;you will harm your relationship and your child may find it hard to attempt communicating with you about important matters, for fear of being yelled at again.</p>
<p>Some children do grow up in a household where there is emotional abuse from constant yelling. They can develop bad feelings and grow up saying,&ldquo; I hate my mother because she yelled at me all the time.&rdquo; Others grow up having eating disorders because of the stress of their home environment. Yelling occasionally will not harm your child long term, but making it a habit is unhealthy for both of you. Each of you may want to find a therapist to work on your relationship before it becomes toxic and unhealthy.</p>
<h3><strong>What do you do when your daughter won&rsquo;t talk to you?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>If your daughter won&rsquo;t talk to you, you need to figure out why. This often takes a deep look inside yourself to see what happened that she cut you off. It often helps to find a therapist to discuss this issue with and try to determine what happened and what can be done to fix the relationship with your daughter. Some daughters grow up saying &ldquo; I hate my mother &rdquo; and get to a point where it is healthier for them to cut ties than to engage in continuous toxic treatment, especially if emotional abuse or neglect is to blame.</p>
<h3><strong>How do you deal with a mean daughter?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>It is often best to find out why your daughter is mean, in the first place and it is recommended to find a therapist to try and determine why she is so angry. There are different modes of therapy that help for different causations. Ideally, you do not want your daughter to grow up saying that the relationship with my mother was horrible; you want to try to repair it as soon as possible. The last thing you want to see her do is start a blog titled &ldquo; I hate my mother.&rdquo; If you have a mean daughter, try and get her the help that she and your family needs.</p>
<h3><strong>How do parents grow children?&nbsp;</strong></h3>
<p>Parenting is hard. There is no rule book and mistakes will be made. The best thing you can do is try to have a loving home, with boundaries, and have open communication with your children.</p>
<h3><strong>Why do mother and teenage daughters fight?</strong></h3>
<p>Mothers and teenage daughters can fight about anything. School work, who their friends are, their curfew, household rules, favoring one side of the family over another, and many other reasons. If your daughter gets to the point where she said my relationship with my mother is not healthy and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/dec/09/a-letter-to-my-mother-ill-be-relieved-when-you-are-in-your-coffin">I hate my mother</a>, this can be a stopping point. It is best to find a therapist to see why there is so much hostility and hurt that your daughter hates you.</p>
<p>If your daughter has an undiagnosed mental health disorder, there are modes of therapy that can help you repair your relationship with your daughter after she gets the appropriate treatment. There are also modes of therapy for your daughter if you have an undiagnosed mental health disorder that you refuse to get treated.</p>
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<p>If you're dealing with a toxic partner, you might be thinking about how they treat you. Negativity in your relationship can contribute to low self-confidence and low self-esteem. Every relationship can have its ups and downs. Married couples&mdash;even those in a loving relationship or in happy marriages&mdash;can face marital problems from time to time. But if you&rsquo;re beginning to wonder about signs your husband hates you, it may be time to take action.</p>
<p>If you find yourself struggling, there are things you can do to deal with your husband.</p>
<h2>Accept the circumstances: Signs that your husband hates you</h2>
<p>The first step to take if you hope to deal with the toxicity in your marriage is acceptance. This means recognizing the negative behavior and calling it what it is.</p>
<h2>The signs that my husband might hate me?</h2>
<p>Some women may let the love they have for their husband blind them to the signs of hate. You might make excuses for your husband, blaming a rough childhood or a bad day at work for their behavior.</p>
<p>However, your loved one deserves your respect and time. If they are not giving you the same amount of respect, you are more than right to want something better in order to prevent yourself from saying, "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/im-starting-to-despise-my-wife-how-to-get-your-marriage-back-on-track/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">I hate being married to my wife</a>," or &ldquo;I hate being married to my husband&rdquo; in the future.</p>
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<p><em>"No one should ever feel like their partner hates them. Marriage is about two people supporting each other through the highs and lows of life. If your husband is treating you poorly, you can try to </em><a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/"><em>work on finding your voice</em></a><em>. Contrary to how it sounds, finding your voice does not mean having verbal confrontations." - Aaron Horn LMFT</em></p>
<p>You are not the only one who will need acceptance to move forward. Your husband may benefit from recognizing their behavior.</p>
<p>The best way to facilitate this is by speaking up. If you&rsquo;re feeling that you're in a "my <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/my-husband-hates-me-what-should-i-do/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">husband hates me</a>" relationship, you might try communicating with them about your specific concerns. You might first spend time considering your feelings and observations. For instance, do you feel that your partner has lost interest in physical intimacy? Are romantic feelings absent? Do you suspect your partner of emotional infidelity or physical cheating? Do you feel that your husband resents you? Does talking about the problems in your relationship have the opposite effect and make things worse? Does your partner seem like they&rsquo;re no longer interested in resolving relationship challenges? Can you remember the last time you were in the same room without fighting? Does it seem like your husband resents you or is no longer interested in you? You might try to think about your own feelings and then try to have an honest conversation with your partner about how you&rsquo;re feeling.</p>
<p>Any time you notice toxic behavior, try telling them. You may consider creating a nonjudgmental atmosphere so that you and your husband can comfortably talk about anything the two of you want without you feeling like your husband hates you. Try to remember that communication is a two-way street. If you&rsquo;re communicating honestly and calmly and your husband answers with disrespectful remarks, you might want to seek professional help to address marital problems.</p>
<p>Once both of you admit the issue and work together to fix it, nothing can stop you. If you seek counseling, you might find helpful ways to replace negative feelings with positive ones and make healthy relationship decisions about your present and future (as a couple, individually, or both).</p>
<p>That is why it is so <strong>important</strong> to get on the same page sooner rather than later.</p>
<h2>Don't be thinking "My husband hates me!"</h2>
<p>Having thoughts like "My husband hates me!" is probably not something you anticipated when you committed to marrying them.</p>
<p>For instance, over the first couple of years, your husband may appear to be something they are not. His recent behavior may be something you never would have come to expect.</p>
<p>If it does appear that they are not the person you thought you fell in love with, then you may come to blame yourself for not recognizing the signs sooner.</p>
<p>It is important to realize in these moments that your husband's behavior or abuse is <a href="https://www.un.org/en/coronavirus/what-is-domestic-abuse">not your fault.</a></p>
<h2>Immediate support for domestic violence</h2>
<p>Your partner may cause you to believe that you are the reason for their behavior or abuse, but that's not true.</p>
<p>If you find yourself in this situation, remind yourself that you cannot control how they behave. All their behaviors are ultimately their own.</p>
<p>On the other hand, you might feel that you should have done something to fix your relationship.</p>
<p>However, simply by accepting your current situation, you are already doing enough for your mental health.</p>
<p>No recovery process is easy, and there is a certain degree of failure that we would all experience.</p>
<p>If you allow your doubts to get in the way of your growth, you may have a difficult time trying to move forward.</p>
<p>The path that you have chosen in your relationship is long and might seem impossible at times.</p>
<p>If you can keep your head up and walk the road, though, it will be well worth it in the end.</p>
<h2>Keep loved ones close</h2>
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<p>Because the path you are walking is so difficult, try to keep your loved ones in your corner. A toxic marriage may put a wedge between a partner and their support system.</p>
<p>A woman in a toxic relationship may start to isolate herself from friends and family to hide the signs of her partner&rsquo;s behavior.</p>
<p>Marriage problems might cause depression in some, which can also be a reason for isolation.</p>
<p>No matter how difficult it is, prioritize maintaining healthy relationships in your life.</p>
<h4>Positive and encouraging people in our lives can help us to thrive.</h4>
<p>You deserve a healthy relationship to lean on if you hope to heal from your toxic one. Healthy interaction will recharge you, which will help you deal with the issues at home.</p>
<p>It can also be helpful to have someone to lean on while you are dealing with observing the signs that your husband hates you.</p>
<p>If you have gotten this far, you will already know how tough it is.</p>
<p>Having a person to talk to or a shoulder to cry on will be paramount in your success.</p>
<p>You will need to have a healthy outlet for all your emotions, and the people who love you are the best ones to help.</p>
<h2><strong>Staying calm when you think he hates you</strong></h2>
<p>A toxic husband may berate and hurt you. It can be tempting in these situations to reciprocate this behavior by saying "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/why-do-i-hate-my-husband-is-there-anything-i-can-do-about-it/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">I hate my husband</a>" or other derogatory things about him. But, retaliation may stir up more negativity.</p>
<p>Rather, try to be as kind and compassionate toward yourself as possible.</p>
<p>If you find yourself in a toxic situation, take a minute to <a href="https://www.uofmhealth.org/health-library/uz2255">breathe</a>.</p>
<p>Close your eyes and focus on your breathing until you feel yourself calm down.</p>
<p>Try not to engage with your husband at all until you are in a clear headspace. Any negative interaction that you allow can instantly destroy any progress that you have made.</p>
<h2>You feel your husband hates or spouse hates you</h2>
<p>Encourage your husband to try to stay calm as well.</p>
<p>If you notice signs that the mood in the room is changing to something negative, call attention to it.</p>
<p>Even though you are not the cause of their anger, you can be their support.</p>
<p>If you maintain a supportive capacity and avoid berating or blaming him, you will have a much better chance of success.</p>
<p>Some wives try to avoid upsetting their husbands, even at their own emotional cost. The goal is to remain genuine and expressive but to do it in a way that isn't abrasive.</p>
<p>You should not have to feel that you censor your quotes for the sake of your partner's satisfaction.</p>
<p>Healthy relationships are centered on being able to express your thoughts and emotions without fear.</p>
<h2><strong>Consider separation with your husband or spouse</strong></h2>
<p>Sometimes, even the most dedicated couples struggle with fixing their <strong>issues</strong>. No matter how hard you try, you might find yourself in the same spot.</p>
<p>If you can't shake the thought &mdash; "Why does my husband hate me?"&mdash; it may be time to consider a more radical approach.</p>
<p>This would be a time to consider other options.</p>
<h2>Getting an attorney involved</h2>
<p>For starters, think about making an appointment with a marriage attorney to discuss these. If you do not want to end the relationship, there is no need to at this point. You can work through these feelings of "My husband hates me!" with your husband in a safe space. However, a <a href="https://www.mhanational.org/separation-and-divorce">separation</a> could be a good option for you.</p>
<p>Giving your partner <strong>space</strong> and some time to think independently could be the key to solving your problems.</p>
<h2>Separating from your husband/spouse</h2>
<p>Should you choose this route, ensure that you are committed to it. If you were to return too early, you risk going back to square one.</p>
<p>You want to make sure that you apply this option for long enough that you both get the full benefit.</p>
<p>On the other hand, if you continue this way for too long, you could harm the relationship if you do not communicate with your partner about your intentions for determining why you feel that your husband hates you.</p>
<p>It must be made clear ahead of time the <strong>goals</strong> of the separation. This may not work if one or the other feels abandoned or given up on.</p>
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<h2>Know when to call it quits&nbsp;</h2>
<p>Relationships require love along with hard work, and commitment. If the behavior never stops and it's affecting your life negatively, it may be time to walk away.</p>
<p>For many, this is one of the most difficult decisions to make.</p>
<p>You have spent years building your life and love with your partner, so why would you want to leave? On one hand, you may feel like you&rsquo;re considering divorce for good reason. But you still may feel conflicted.</p>
<p>When making your decision, remember this one thing: it&rsquo;s okay to put yourself first. You deserve to live a life free of the stress and worry a toxic relationship brings.</p>
<p>It may be difficult and painful at first, but the long-term results will be well worth it. You are entitled to a relationship where you don't have to ask, "Why does my husband hate me?"</p>
<h2>When there's children</h2>
<p>If you have children, consider them. Don't just think of their life without a parental figure; think of the example they set for them.</p>
<p>You want your children to grow up and have healthy and happy relationships. Thus, set a good example for your family by showing your children you are acting civil in separating from your loved one.</p>
<p>It is most important that you consider this when deciding if it is time to end the <strong>relationship</strong>.</p>
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<h2>Consult a counselor about abusive behavior and abuse</h2>
<p>Even if you feel like all hope is lost, a licensed counselor could be the answer to a happy marriage. The methods you will exercise in therapy will be specially tailored for you and your marriage, allowing for a much larger success rate.</p>
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<p>Couples counseling through <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a> can help with your toxic marriage. This platform matches you with a trained professional who may be a psychologist, licensed professional therapist, licensed marriage and family therapist, or licensed clinical social worker. They can help you answer the question, "Why does my husband hate me?" or "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/my-husband-is-always-angry-is-it-my-fault/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">My husband is always angry</a>. Why does my husband get angry over small things?"</p>
<p>Then, you can work with the counselor to tailor a treatment plan that is perfect for you and your husband.</p>
<h3><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Benefits of online counseling</span></h3>
<p>The best part is, the Regain counseling site is a convenient option for therapy, so that you can log in to your therapy sessions right from your living room.</p>
<p>If you are ready to get help, don't wait another minute. Log on and get the help you need today!</p>
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<p><em>Commonly asked questions Below:</em></p>
<h3><strong>What are the signs your husband hates you?</strong></h3>
<p>Telltale <a href="https://www.marriage.com/advice/save-your-marriage/my-husband-hates-me/">signs your husband hates you</a> may include:</p>
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<li>Persistent fighting. A build-up of resentment can result in constant arguments. You may start to fight about even the most trivial things. Your partner blames you for everything, making you feel like you&rsquo;re at fault for the issues in the relationship. Meanwhile, your partner refuses to acknowledge that they&rsquo;ve done anything wrong.</li>
<li>Avoiding you. Even though you live under the same roof, you feel as though you and your husband never talk anymore. Whenever you want to spend time together, it seems like he finds excuses or always has other things to do. Perhaps he is spending less and less time at home overall, and fills his days focusing on his job and other activities.</li>
<li>Absence of physical intimacy. This refers to not only sex but also hugging, holding hands, cuddling, etc. You can&rsquo;t seem to remember the last time your husband initiated physical affection.</li>
<li>Lack of effort. You may feel as though your husband is no longer invested in the relationship. He may be unwilling to do what it takes to save the relationship, refusing to consider couples counseling.</li>
<li>Seeming to repeatedly forget or fail to acknowledge important dates like anniversaries or birthdays</li>
<li>Showing little interest in you and what&rsquo;s important to you, how your week is going, etc.</li>
<li>Not seeming to miss you when you are apart</li>
<li>Infidelity and unfaithfulness. When you try to confront your husband about this, he may seem afraid or anxious, and avoid eye contact.</li>
<li>Exhibiting signs of abusive behavior, control, and/or manipulation</li>
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<p>If you recognize any of these signs your husband hates you, consider reaching out for support from a licensed professional who can help you to address the challenges you are facing in your marriage. If your partner refuses to try counseling or work on the relationship, it may be time to start evaluating whether this dynamic is sustainable, and considering other options.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">"I hate myself" isn't an uncommon phrase; it can sometimes be tossed out casually in response to a simple mistake or out of exasperation. But when this is a frequent, recurring thought, it can signal a more serious concern. It can feel painful and damaging to experience persistent feelings of self-hatred and, sometimes, it&rsquo;s easy to feel unworthy of love. In this article, we&rsquo;ll dive into how to identify self-loathing, where it can stem from, and how to overcome it so you can learn to love yourself.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What is self-hatred?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Self-hatred (also called "self-loathing") is a term used to describe feelings of hatred, unworthiness, or disgust toward oneself. Far more than just low self-esteem, self-loathing suggests to those who experience it that they are truly unlovable and without value. Anyone can experience feelings of self-hatred, and many may hide this feeling out of shame. Self-loathing often goes beyond feeling poorly about one aspect (or a series of aspects) of yourself and extends to virtually every part of you; when you hate yourself, you may feel that no piece of you is considered worthy of knowing, loving, or seeing. Self-hatred can be dangerous, as it can make you feel as though your life is not worth living or that you are not worthy of love, acceptance, or kindness.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Self-loathing can present differently in everyone affected by it. For some, self-loathing may be fairly obvious and seen in persistent negative self-talk, a seeming inability to take care of oneself properly, and the appearance of depression. For others, self-hatred might be more masked in its approach. It can look like someone who constantly puts everyone before themselves, who refuses to be in photos, and sees life as a necessary series of sacrifices without regard for their health or safety.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Self-loathing can also be challenging because many people who experience it may not see it as a concern, but rather as a reasonable, legitimate way to feel, based on "logical" conclusions that they don&rsquo;t see as flawed. If someone struggled to make friends growing up and was frequently bullied, for instance, they might conclude that they are weird, unlovable, or destined to be an outsider. Perpetual comparison to others can also be common in self-loathing. You may compare yourself to others and feel that you fall short; you may see their achievements, qualities, and various aspects of life as further proof that you are &ldquo;less than&rdquo; or unworthy of love.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Self-hatred is not currently recognized as a mental health disorder on its own, but it can be a symptom of certain mental illnesses, such as <a href="https://dictionary.apa.org/introjective-depression">depression</a>.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Are you experiencing self-hatred?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Do you often say "I&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-dont-like-myself-5-ways-to-address-self-esteem-issues/">don't like myself</a>" consciously or unconsciously? Self-hatred can sometimes be difficult to recognize, as you might believe that your perceptions of yourself are based on observable fact rather than a skewed perception. But we are all worthy of love. All of us are flawed, imperfect, and capable of improvement, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean we&rsquo;re deserving of self-hate. If you feel that you intensely dislike yourself, feel unworthy of anything good, and can&rsquo;t find any positive qualities in yourself, you may be experiencing self-hatred.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How to address self-hatred</h2>
<p dir="ltr">There are many ways to address self-loathing; some of them can be done on your own, and others can be implemented by healthcare professionals. Included below are a few approaches to consider:</p>
<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Self-talk</h3>
<p dir="ltr">One approach to try in mitigating self-hatred is improving self-talk. Initially, this can feel extremely awkward and forced: if you do not believe you are worth anything, saying something like "I am worthy of love" might fall flat. This can be a simple way, though, to begin improving self-loathing and adjust your view of yourself.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Self-care</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Another thing to try when addressing self-hatred is various forms of self-care. Although some people may think that self-care is a series of bubble baths, spa nights, and shopping sprees, self-care can be even more basic. Self-care in these instances can mean exercising consistently, eating a balanced diet, and making sure you get plenty of sleep each night. These lifestyle practices can help you physically feel good and may improve your mental state, setting in motion improved habits that lead to improved self-esteem.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Boundaries</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Setting boundaries may also help improve your view of yourself, particularly if sacrifice is one of the ways your self-loathing manifests. Learning to say "no" when you feel tired or overwhelmed is among the simplest boundaries you can set to maintain your mental health and self-esteem. Setting boundaries can also mean not taking on others' problems as your own. If you have a friend, for instance, who is constantly coming to you with anger or tears, setting boundaries around venting those problems may help you feel more balanced and in control.&nbsp;</p>
<h3>Therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Addressing persistent feelings of self-hatred can be very challenging, but you don&rsquo;t have to do it on your own. For many people, seeking professional help through therapy can be an important part of the healing process. Therapists can help you get at the root of these negative feelings and help you identify aspects of yourself that you consider worthy of love and respect. In fact, research has shown that online interventions for depression can be <a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24534125/">effective at improving self-esteem, empowerment, and quality of life</a>.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you are experiencing intense feelings of self-hatred, the thought of leaving the house and attending an in-person appointment may feel daunting and exhausting. With <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">online therapy</a> through Regain, you can meet with your therapist from the comfort of home, so long as you have an internet connection.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If someone is experiencing persistent feelings of self-hatred, it can be very painful and damaging, and it can be important to seek help. Self-hatred may be a symptom of a mental health condition, such as depression. There are several different ways to address self-hatred, but seeking professional help through therapy is often an important piece of this process. To meet with a therapist from the comfort of home, you can connect with a licensed therapist online.&nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2><strong>What does it mean when I hate myself?</strong></h2>
<p>When you realize &ldquo;I hate myself,&rdquo; this can be challenging. Wondering what it means is natural, although there are various reasons you may have thoughts of self-hatred. Mental health issues could be the culprit, as could past trauma, negative influences, and a host of other factors.</p>
<p>When you feel like &ldquo;I hate myself,&rdquo; this could also sign that medical advice is necessary. Self-hatred and negative feelings are not good for you mentally or emotionally. By the time you&rsquo;ve gotten to the point of hating yourself, reaching out to a mental health professional is highly advisable and recommended.</p>
<h2><strong>How do I stop hating myself?</strong></h2>
<p>Acknowledging thoughts of self-hatred is the very first step towards overcoming these feelings. You should also know that mental illness and/or mental health issues can often be the driving culprit(s) behind self-hatred and negative emotions about who you are.</p>
<p>This is why seeking medical advice and services from a mental health professional comes so highly recommended. Countless studies and medically reviewed research have proven the benefits of working with a counselor or therapist.</p>
<p>By seeking medical advice from a mental health specialist, you can begin the process of healing and loving yourself again. You&rsquo;ll also be in a position to receive an experts&rsquo; advice, diagnosis, and feedback. When you spend time getting better and stopping self-hatred feelings, you are another step closer to feeling good about who you are.</p>
<h2><strong>Is it normal to not like yourself?</strong></h2>
<p>Not liking yourself is not a normal or healthy state of mind to live in. To spend time with feelings of self-hatred is extremely damaging to any person&rsquo;s mental and emotional health. There are all kinds of medical advice showing the negative impacts that follow when you feel like you&rsquo;re struggling with self-hatred.</p>
<p>To overcome self-hatred feelings, whether they&rsquo;ve existed for a short time or a long time, you&rsquo;ll want to receive the proper advice, diagnosis, and feedback from a medically reviewed, credible mental health specialist.</p>
<h3><strong>What is it called when you hate something about yourself?</strong></h3>
<p>Hating something about yourself can be very different than hating yourself. A specific label or diagnosis for hating something about yourself would largely depend on what you hate yourself. However, if you find yourself struggling with any feelings of self-hatred, advice from a medically reviewed mental health professional is still worth looking into.</p>
<p>If you hate something about yourself, it may also be a good idea to consider why you hate this particular part of yourself. Is this something that you can change? When did these feelings of hatred start? Have they existed for a long time or merely a short while? Could mental health issues or mental illness be a factor?</p>
<p>Don&rsquo;t be afraid to spend time asking yourself these questions or talking them over with a medically reviewed mental health specialist.</p>
<h3><strong>What causes low self esteem?</strong></h3>
<p>Unfortunately, there are all kinds of factors that can cause someone to suffer from low self-esteem. According to medically reviewed studies and research, past trauma, mental health issues, negative influences, toxic environments, etc., are just a few examples of what can cause low self-esteem.</p>
<p>Low self-esteem can often lead to or contribute to self-hatred thoughts, especially if it goes on for a long time. Having moments of doubt from time to time is normal; however, there could be an underlying reason if you are consistently struggling with low self-esteem.</p>
<p>While there are many potential causes of low self-esteem, seeking a mental health professional can be a viable solution. Even if you only speak with a medically reviewed specialist from time to time, this can help overcome low self-esteem feelings. The right medical advice can make a wonderful difference in overcoming low self-esteem, self-hatred, and living a better, happier life.</p>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">Why do I say I hate myself so much?</span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">What are signs of self hate?</span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">How do I learn to like myself?</span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">Can self hate cause anxiety?</span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">Why am I always so hard on myself?</span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">Why do I keep saying that I hate myself? </span></h3>
<h3><span data-sheets-value="{" data-sheets-userformat="{">What is it called when you think everyone hates you? </span></h3>
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I Hate Myself: Identifying And Managing Self-Hatred

<p dir="ltr">Everyone gets irritated with other people at some point or another, but for some, this can develop into strong negative feelings and what feels like complete hatred for another individual. It&rsquo;s normal to dislike people and even develop stronger feelings towards individuals who have done something serious to negatively affect you or others.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Feeling like you hate everyone can cause challenges in your life, affect your regular interactions with those around you, cause issues with your physical health, and may point to emotional processing difficulties. However, you may need to decipher whether you truly hate others or if something else may be bothering you.&nbsp;</p>
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<div class="calloutcontent">If you really are feeling hatred, there are quite a few reasons why you may feel that way and some solutions to overcoming those sentiments to have healthier relationships and happier experiences.</div>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Why you may feel you hate other people</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">Every individual is different and has ideological differences you may not always agree with. We&rsquo;re not guaranteed to like every person we come across. Still, sometimes these interactions can cause so much consistent frustration and drain your emotional energy so quickly that you become angry and grow to feel like you hate people more than would be typical.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">At times, this may seem to be the case, but there are also a few other factors that may make you think you hate others when you&rsquo;re just exhausted from the interactions you&rsquo;re having so often.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Being an introvert&nbsp;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Most of us have heard the terms&nbsp;<a href="https://www.cnet.com/health/the-difference-between-introverts-and-extroverts/">&ldquo;introvert&rdquo; and &ldquo;extrovert&rdquo;</a>&nbsp;Extroverts are generally considered outgoing while introverts keep to themselves, which accurately sums up the two types. Although introverts may have a close group of friends and occasionally step outside of their comfort zones for various reasons, they often prefer solitude and feel drained after being in social situations. If you&rsquo;re introverted and experience this &ldquo;social drain&rdquo; phenomenon, you might become agitated at times by other people and may almost feel like you hate everyone. However, it likely just means that you need more &ldquo;recharge&rdquo; time after interactions than you initially thought so you can decompress and lower your stress levels.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Introverts may be more reserved or observant. This can reduce the quality of their social interactions and make them perceive that others are being overbearing or invading their personal space when they&rsquo;re simply trying to be friendly or get to know them better. This can cause a good deal of distress. Sometimes, one&rsquo;s internal defense mechanisms will set off anger and outrage at another person, making them feel uncomfortable, thereby leading to some potentially strong feelings of dislike for another person.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Burnout</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Burnout from social interactions can easily lead you to think you hate people, as well as potentially contributing to mental health concerns and reduced well-being. Sometimes <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/burnout/art-20046642">certain jobs</a> require a lot of social interaction, either over the phone or in person, and not everyone you speak to or come across is going to be pleasant or even nice. You may have a family with some strong personalities that can become exhausting after you&rsquo;ve been around them too long. You may even have to interact with people as you visit certain stores or drive from one place to another, and these strangers can be irritating even at a distance.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Social anxiety</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Social anxiety may also be a contributing factor to your feelings. While most people with social anxiety experience fear, nervousness, or other common feelings associated with anxiety, it&rsquo;s also possible for some of these individuals who get overwhelmed by social situations to react&nbsp;<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/26590429/">angrily</a>. Rather than being fearful or overwhelmed in a more scared manner, you may end up trying to avoid situations involving other people with a mindset of strongly disliking them and getting angry by blaming your anxiety and stress solely on a specific person or the general population.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Having a stressful job</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Some of the most demanding careers or jobs that involve working with other people can quickly lead to angry feelings in a person&rsquo;s life. While this allows many opportunities to meet new and exciting people and have positive interactions, it often allows many negative ones. You may not truly hate other people, but when you&rsquo;re in a situation that allows you to have far more unpleasant interactions with other individuals than the average person may experience, you may feel like you hate everyone.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How hatred can affect your body, your mind, and your relationships</h2>
<p dir="ltr">You may find it quite difficult to experience many positive emotions if you&rsquo;re constantly consumed with anger and disgust for other people, which recent articles show can affect&nbsp;<a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2055102915601583">many areas</a>&nbsp;of your life.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Hatred is an incredibly strong emotion and can affect the body as well as the mind. When you experience such a strong emotion, your body&rsquo;s &ldquo;fight or flight&rdquo; response is triggered. Feeling this consistently can contribute to <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/stress-symptoms/art-20050987">high stress&nbsp;levels</a>, anxiety, depression, insomnia, weight gain, mental illness or personality disorders, and even chronic illness. Mentally, aside from anxiety and depression, you may also experience restlessness and paranoia.</p>
<p dir="ltr">These effects of regularly feeling hatred can easily decrease your quality of life, as well as affect your relationships. It&rsquo;s difficult to connect to another person if you&rsquo;re consumed with negativity. And suppose you&rsquo;re already in a relationship and prone to feeling hatred as a response to any unpleasant interactions with your partner. In that case, this greatly inhibits your ability to approach any problems reasonably and work towards healthily resolving conflict and restoring the quality of the relationship that the two of you have together. Love is so strong of emotion that it can easily be twisted into hatred when things go south in a relationship, and this can limit your ability to have a healthy partnership with another person. In the worst cases, you may even find yourself in a &ldquo;love-hate&rdquo; relationship, which can be highly toxic and potentially even abusive.</p>
<p class="disclaimer">If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Reasons you may feel like you hate people and how to work through these feelings</h2>
<p dir="ltr">There are quite a few reasons that you may grow to feel like you plain hate other people, but there are also solutions to all these potential triggers.</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">Needing to take some alone time</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Whether you&rsquo;re an introvert by nature or you happen to interact with a significantly overwhelming amount of people regularly, it&rsquo;s easy to experience burnout and need to take the time to step away to take a deep breath, recharge, and carve away some time for a bit of self-discovery. Not everyone can be expected to handle a large volume of interactions without becoming socially and mentally exhausted from it.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">The fix for this often comes in the form of alone time. Make it a point to set aside time for a bout of isolation to relax, unwind, and reset so you&rsquo;re better prepared for handling your interactions with others the next time it&rsquo;s required of you.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Needing to learn to &ldquo;agree to disagree&rdquo;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">The vast majority have different views on things in life, which is often due to several different factors. Many people have different beliefs, different upbringings, and different experiences that affect how they think and feel about things. Sometimes they may have some strong opinions that conflict with your own. There&rsquo;s nothing wrong with a healthy debate, but allowing arguing and differing views on an issue makes you feel like you hate someone who isn&rsquo;t accomplishing anything, nor is it good for your overall health. This is often seen online and on social media. Some people also love to provoke others who they know have a strong opinion on something. These kinds of interactions can easily provoke a person&rsquo;s anger and make them feel compelled to lash out and passionately hate whoever has offended them or dared to challenge their perspective.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Rather than indulging in bickering and hostility, the best option to help you become more accepting of others and less irritated with them, in general, is to learn how to&nbsp;<a href="https://drstanhyman.com/agreeing-to-disagree-a-path-to-conflict-resolution/">agree to disagree</a>. Rarely will people see eye to eye on every issue that life has to offer, but it&rsquo;s okay to still get along with others who don&rsquo;t see things the way you do. Agreeing to disagree means simply accepting that someone has views different from your own, but that doesn&rsquo;t mean they are deserving of hatred. The healthiest and most mature response to this is acknowledging your differences and proceeding forward, interacting peacefully, distancing yourself, or walking away if approached with aggression on a topic.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Focusing on the negative instead of focusing on the positive</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Some people focus more on the negative throughout their day than the positive. This can lead to feelings of strong dislike for the people and things around them.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">This requires a shift of perspective. Take time to calm yourself down from being irritated or upset with someone you&rsquo;ve interacted with, and try to think of the good things you&rsquo;ve experienced and are thankful for during your day. Instead of focusing on how annoying or rude someone else was and wallowing in anger or other negative emotions, shift your perspective and thinking and acknowledge the little things and the good things that occur in your day-to-day life instead of giving so much attention to the bad.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Holding onto anger instead of forgiving the people that did you wrong</h3>
<p dir="ltr">On a more personal note, sometimes feelings of hatred for another person can be due to personal experiences with them, such as them having said or done something to hurt you deeply or to cause problems in your life at some point. Although these feelings are often quite justified, holding onto anger will only hurt you more than it will ever affect the person those emotions are directed at.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Finding a way to allow yourself to&nbsp;<a href="https://stanfordmag.org/contents/8-tips-for-forgiving-someone-who-hurt-you">forgive</a>&nbsp;a person that has hurt you will greatly decrease your emotional distress and give you freedom from dwelling on negative emotions that may be impacting your own life, relationships, and happiness long after an unpleasant interaction with the person you can&rsquo;t stand has taken place.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Needing to make life changes</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Sometimes, larger changes may need to be made in your life, especially if you&rsquo;re struggling with having a particular profession or other activities that may amplify your anxiety, stress levels, and negative emotions in regards to other people.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Needing to set boundaries</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Much social stress leading to intense feelings of dislike for people can be due to not setting and enforcing boundaries with those around you. Some people are agitated by physical touch and need to express their need for distance and strictly verbal contact. Some people may have friends, family, bosses, or coworkers who ask too much of them and their time. They need to express their need for respecting their boundaries when it comes to not being overworked and pulled in too many directions regularly.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">You may worry that speaking up or disappointing those around you will only cause further problems. It may not always go over smoothly, but insisting upon being treated concerning your needs as an individual is necessary to avoid excess stress unpleasant feelings for other people.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Lacking the understanding for why you feel negatively towards others</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel like you hate everyone&mdash;or a large number of people&mdash;but aren&rsquo;t sure why, it may be time to interrogate the reasons behind the hatred. Many people are afraid of the unknown, which sometimes can be distorted by anger and turn into hatred or discrimination.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Much discrimination comes from not understanding the differences between what you are most familiar and comfortable with and those that aren&rsquo;t similar to you. It sometimes stems from simply being unfamiliar with certain beliefs, cultures, or other defining factors. In these cases, it&rsquo;s often best to seek to educate yourself on the things you don&rsquo;t know about to understand better why some people are the way they are and eliminate that fear of the unknown at its sources.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Another common factor in hating someone else is recognizing in them something that we don&rsquo;t like about ourselves. This is an opportunity to reflect and make changes in your own life.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Being taught hatred</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Hatred and a lack of empathy can sometimes be taught and passed down, either intentionally or unintentionally, by family or others we may have looked up to throughout our lives. If you&rsquo;ve heard nothing but bad about a person or group of people, it may be worth investigating the information you&rsquo;ve been taught about&nbsp;why&nbsp;you should feel the way you do towards them.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Envy and jealousy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Often, feelings of hatred based on jealousy or envy can originate from feelings of insecurity. It can be easy to feel like life is unfair when friends, family, or other people in your life have something you want but don&rsquo;t have. Jealousy can escalate into more extreme feelings of dislike at times.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">This can often be remedied by taking the time to counter negative thoughts or putting in work to better yourself and your situation. If jealousy is the reason for your hatred, it may be helpful to focus on the good things you have and want in your own life. Consider setting some goals for yourself that will help you get closer to getting what you want and reminding yourself of the wonderful things you have accomplished.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How Regain can help overcome hatred</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">Suppose hatred or a constant, strong dislike of other people seems to affect your life, mental and physical health, and relationships. It may be helpful to seek professional treatment and emotional support through online therapy. There are many <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">licensed professionals</a> available to assist in helping you cope with your emotions and find healthy solutions to the problems associated with these feelings and the life factors that may be contributing to your sentiments.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Online therapy through these professionals is a valid option for treating a feeling of hatred toward people. According to recent research, not only is remote therapy <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15228830802094429">just as effective</a> as its in-person counterparts, but it is also more affordable to a wider range of people.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>&nbsp;has mental health professionals available remotely, making reaching out for advice (or even someone to vent and talk to) convenient, regardless of your schedule or location. If you want to foster healthy relationships with other people and receive guidance on implementing the changes necessary to have a more positive, fulfilling life, online therapy can be an incredibly powerful tool.</p>
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<p>Hatred is a powerful emotion that can lead to destructive results if left unchecked. It can often be traced to contributing factors such as being overwhelmed or being raised in a particular social circle. <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer">Therapy can help you</a> overcome feelings of hatred.</p>
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I hate everyone! Learn common reasons you may have negative feelings about people in your life & how to overcome these feelings, plus support in therapy.

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<p><u>Commonly asked questions</u></p>
<h2><strong>Why do I hate everyone in my family?</strong></h2>
<p>There are many reasons you may feel like you hate everyone in your family. And, unfortunately, home may have been the site where you learned how to hate others. Often, thinking back on when these feelings arose can help you identify what lead to them&mdash;and how to fix the problem. Perhaps your family did not express empathy when you had concerns about certain issues as a child. Maybe they were too hard on you or simply did not provide a loving home. Think about how your family interacted with you and showed you love. It may be hard to express empathy for them now if they never showed you empathy in the past.</p>
<h2><strong>How do I stop hating everyone?</strong></h2>
<p>When you feel like you hate everyone and want to put a stop to it, it&rsquo;s important that you consider where those feelings come from. Hatred can be damaging to your physical and mental health and has serious implications when it comes to relationships.</p>
<p>Sometimes, feelings of hatred can be a result of mental health concerns. Mental health concerns like social anxiety tend to make you feel nervous and fearful in circumstances where you&rsquo;re expected to socialize. You may eventually start feeling hateful towards others because of this&mdash;almost as though you hate everyone. If you feel nervous or tense in social situations, or you&rsquo;re thinking you may have another mental health concern, consider reaching out for treatment. There are other mental health conditions that may be leading to hatred of others. Depression, substance use disorder, ADHD, and a variety of other mental health concerns can lead to disordered thinking and, subsequently, hatred. A mental health professional can give you the treatment you need when you&rsquo;re feeling negatively toward others. &nbsp;</p>
<p>You may have also been taught to hate a group of people since you were young, without truly knowing why. Sometimes, home is the site where people learn to hate others. Hateful feelings can be passed down from generation to generation. If you&rsquo;re feeling like you hate everyone, ask yourself where you learned that behavior. Whether they intended to or not, your parents may have instilled negative feelings toward people.&nbsp;</p>
<p>For more information about hate in relationships, take a look at <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/search/?search=hate">applicable medically reviewed articles from this site</a>.</p>
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Everyone gets irritated with other people at some point or another, but for some, this can develop into what feels like complete hatred for another individual. It’s normal to... 

“Why Do I Hate Everyone?” Reasons You Feel This Way and How to Overcome It

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<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s perhaps realistic to say that marriage isn&rsquo;t always smooth sailing. You may have certain times that will feel very challenging, but if your husband has been acting like he doesn&rsquo;t love you any longer or even hates you, it could be a sign of something more severe than a few &ldquo;bumps in the road.&rdquo; At this point, you may be wondering, &ldquo;Why does my husband hate me?&rdquo;, and if there&rsquo;s a way you can change the situation.&nbsp; &nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">This post will discuss how to know with certainty that your husband hates you, the potential reasons he may be exhibiting this behavior towards you, and how you can resolve the situation&mdash;whether it&rsquo;s possible to repair your relationship or not.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What to do if your husband hates you</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Every couple is different in how they express affection, displeasure, etc. While there are some guidelines for what to do if you think your husband hates you, ultimately, the direction lies with you and your unique situation. That&rsquo;s why many couples feel it necessary to speak with a professional relationship counselor for guidance on resolving their conflicts, managing difficulties, and, if necessary, moving on from the marriage.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Before you take definitive action, consider the following steps:</strong></p>
<h3 dir="ltr">1. Examine why you think he hates you</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you think that your husband hates you, there is likely a reason why you feel this way. Is he treating you differently than usual? Does he become angry or hostile toward you for seemingly no reason? There is usually a reason behind behavioral changes, and it might not even be something you&rsquo;re doing (or at least not doing consciously).&nbsp; Reflect on your feelings and why the things he says or does give you the impression that he hates you. This isn&rsquo;t to say you&rsquo;ve done anything to warrant such treatment, but upon closer inspection, you may find it&rsquo;s a situation that you need to address first within yourself.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you have difficulty processing your emotions and thinking clearly, writing in a journal is an excellent way to bring clarity. Use this medium to contemplate how you have been interacting lately. If you&rsquo;ve been arguing, record the circumstances around that. Perhaps you&rsquo;ll discover that you&rsquo;re both unwilling to communicate or compromise.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">2. Ask yourself a few key questions</h3>
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<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;ve established that your husband&rsquo;s behavior has changed, reflect on how long this has been going on. When you can point to a specific time when your husband started to act differently, it may become easier to understand what&rsquo;s happening. Did your husband start acting this way after receiving a complaint at work? Did he start treating you poorly after getting fired from his job?</p>
<p dir="ltr">Determining when this behavior started allows you to give things some context. You can begin to see what is happening in your husband&rsquo;s life. If this has been going on for a long time, it may cause more worry than one or two weeks of neglectful or hostile behavior.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr">If you don&rsquo;t feel safe in your relationship, you may feel trapped or as if you don&rsquo;t have the strength or resources to leave. Many people experiencing abuse still love their partner or think they need them, making it difficult to go and get help.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel threatened in any way or if you have been harmed, it&rsquo;s essential to immediately contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">National Domestic Violence Hotline</a>: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). If you don&rsquo;t feel safe or comfortable doing so, ask someone you trust to get in touch on your behalf. It is never okay for someone to abuse their partner for any reason. If you&rsquo;re physically or emotionally abused, then help is available.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">If your husband is acting strangely and seems to vent his frustrations on you about minor things, he might be going through a difficult time. Sometimes people take out their stress on the ones that they love the most. This isn&rsquo;t fair, and your husband shouldn&rsquo;t treat you this way. Regardless, it&rsquo;s conceivable that your husband might be struggling with stress or anxiety.</p>
<p dir="ltr">People who experience stress and don&rsquo;t have the resources or ability to cope can develop an anxiety or depressive disorder if it goes unaddressed. This can lead to feelings of paranoia and extreme nervousness, but it can also manifest itself in angry outbursts. If your husband is having mental health challenges, speaking to him about it is the first step, then try to get him the help he needs.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s also possible that your husband doesn&rsquo;t hate you all. He might be angry at you or angry at something else.&nbsp; People often have unique ways of behaving when they&rsquo;re upset or hurt. This doesn&rsquo;t necessarily mean that your husband hates you. He might still love you very much but is having difficulty expressing it.</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">2. Address the issue directly and honestly</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Be honest with your husband about your feelings. If you feel your husband hates you, it&rsquo;s vital to address that upfront and communicate your point of view. A communication breakdown can easily lead to marital struggles, and research indicates that a <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4298140/">lack of communication</a> is a common contributor to matrimonial difficulties.</p>
<p dir="ltr">A face-to-face conversation is preferable; you can listen actively and gauge if he&rsquo;s extending you the same courtesy. If this isn&rsquo;t possible or you don&rsquo;t feel comfortable doing so, writing a letter may be a viable alternative. It may not allow for reciprocal conversation, but at least you can let him know how you feel. It may also make in-person communication easier.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">3. Try to reconnect</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Putting forth an effort to reconnect with your husband is an excellent way of showing him that you&rsquo;re trying to understand his point of view and that you&rsquo;re willing to see his side of the story. Reconnecting may require beginning again, in a sense, to remember why you fell in love in the first place. If he&rsquo;s ready to try, have a regular date night or set aside to do something you love together. Finding ways to enjoy each other&rsquo;s company might show you both that it is possible to rekindle your connection.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Making an effort to cultivate physical intimacy is another way you may reestablish the bond between you. You may feel hurt emotionally, which may diminish your desire for sex, but sex isn&rsquo;t the only way to cultivate intimacy. Snuggle on the sofa as you watch a movie, give a heartfelt hug for no reason, or occasionally steal a peck on the cheek as you go about your daily activities. All of these can go a long way toward repairing your relationship.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Find relationship support in online therapy</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Most successful marriages are built on a solid foundation of friendship and respect. If you feel like your husband hates you, it can damage that foundation, leaving you wondering if it can be repaired at all. But feeling this way doesn&rsquo;t have to signal the end of your marriage definitively. There are many reasons why you may think he hates you when in reality, he does love you, and there are other reasons for his behavior.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Talking to a marriage counselor is an excellent way to get to the root of his behavior and understand what, if anything, you can do to rekindle your bond. Also, marriage counselors often speak with each partner individually during treatment. If your husband has anger or mental health issues or challenges with stress management, a counselor can help determine if those factor into his behavior. Similarly, a counselor may be able to address your individual problems that contribute to how you interpret and perceive his behaviors towards you.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Online platforms like <a href="https://regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a> match couples with relationship professionals experienced in helping couples address issues like these and more. You and your husband can speak with a couple&rsquo;s therapist through Regain from the comfort of home according to your schedule via online messaging, video chat, phone, and text. Online counseling is often more affordable than traditional therapy without insurance. A growing <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s10591-021-09585-7#citeas">body of research</a> suggests it&rsquo;s just as effective for helping couples develop more robust communication and resolve marital difficulties more effectively.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you think your husband hates you, it can have a severe impact not only on your relationship but your mental well-being. Reaching out to a Regain professional is the first step to healing.</p>
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<p><strong>FAQ (frequently asked questions)</strong></p>
<h2><strong>How can you tell if your husband hates you?</strong></h2>
<p>Feeling as though your husband hates you may be the result of behavioral changes, conflict, or other related factors that exist within your relationship. In some cases, your husband may even openly claim to dislike or hate you.</p>
<p>In many cases, these feelings are the result of overthinking, poor communication or misinterpreting one another&rsquo;s actions. Your husband most likely doesn&rsquo;t hate you, and he may just be feeling anger towards something in his life, or you might just be going through a rough patch in your relationship.</p>
<p>Without communicating with him, though, it&rsquo;s a bad idea to assume that he hates you.</p>
<p>If he has been pulling away from you or not communicating as frequently as usual with you, something may be upsetting him, and you may find it beneficial to reach out.</p>
<p>Remember that you love him, and you love your relationship with him. Be gentle but firm. Asking him directly what is bothering him is a good first step.</p>
<p>If your husband tells you he hates you, treats you inappropriately, or otherwise crosses the line, it may be time to seek professional guidance, whether from someone within the mental healthcare field or the legal field.</p>
<h2><strong>What do I do when my husband hates me?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>There is a difference between abuse and feelings of discontentment or resentment. But whatever the case may be, one thing you can do, a place to start could be couples therapy. If you&rsquo;re thinking, &ldquo;I want to save my marriage,&rdquo; that could be a sign that couples or relationship counseling might be a good next step.</p>
<p>Men and women react differently to conflict, but ultimately, how someone will respond depends on who they are. But, if you fight all the time and feel a strong sense of resentment, it&rsquo;s essential to confront it and work through it together if possible. You could have a candid conversation with your partner and discuss how you&rsquo;re feeling before jumping into couples therapy.</p>
<h2><strong>How do you deal with a toxic spouse?</strong></h2>
<p>Toxic is a very subjective term. What&rsquo;s toxic for one individual doesn&rsquo;t necessarily apply to another. Men and women can both be toxic, but if your husband loves you, it doesn&rsquo;t necessarily mean that he&rsquo;s trying to be toxic. But whether he is trying to be toxic or not, if you feel uncomfortable in the relationship, you need to do something about it.</p>
<p>If you&rsquo;re in a toxic relationship, it&rsquo;s essential to set boundaries. You don&rsquo;t deserve to be treated disrespectfully. Whatever the case may be, setting boundaries and letting your partner know in no uncertain terms how you want to be treated is essential. You can have candid conversations about this or discuss it with a relationship or a couple&rsquo;s counselor.</p>
<h3><strong>How do you know when your marriage is over?</strong></h3>
<p>There&rsquo;s no definitive answer to when a marriage is over. The only way to know for sure is when both individuals agree to separate and get divorced. But there are signs that the marriage could be on the way out.</p>
<p>Signs that a marriage is over are:</p>
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<p>Infidelity is a significant sign that a marriage could be over. Assuming you&rsquo;re not in an open relationship and the terms you and your partner have set have not been violated, if you cheat on your partner, that is a definite sign that the marriage may be over.</p>
<p>Usually, the main sign that a marriage is over is both parties agree that the relationship is not working for whatever reason.</p>
<h3><strong>Why do husbands ignore their wives?</strong></h3>
<p>If a husband continually ignores their wife, that is a form of abuse called stonewalling. There are times when people need space from an argument, but perpetually ignoring your partner is cruel. There are many reasons that a husband may ignore their wife.</p>
<p>One potential cause has to do with toxic masculinity. Some men are conditioned to ignore their feelings. It could be that a man doesn&rsquo;t want to upset their spouse further. If he chooses to ignore her and the situation, he may believe that he is mitigating any potential conflict. Husbands ignore their wives because some men don&rsquo;t know how to manage their emotions. And likewise, if a woman is upset, they may or may not know how to respond. It depends on the individual.</p>
<p>Remember that all men are not the same, and many factors could contribute to a husband ignoring their wife. If you are being ignored, you don&rsquo;t have to stand for it. You can confront your husband and tell him how you feel. And this could be a topic to discuss in couples therapy.</p>
<h3><strong>How do you know if your husband loves you?</strong></h3>
<p>In a healthy relationship, there should be mutual respect and love between partners. If that isn&rsquo;t present, then there&rsquo;s a problem. There are different love&nbsp;<a href="https://ideas.ted.com/whats-your-favorite-persons-love-language-heres-how-to-tell-and-how-to-use-it/">languages</a>. You need to get your needs met in a relationship and have your husband communicate with you in your love language. The love languages are:</p>
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<li>Physical Touch
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<li>Some people like to be touched or cuddled to feel loved.</li>
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<h3><strong>How do you know if your husband still loves you after separation?</strong></h3>
<p>Some people separate from their husbands and then get back together. Some separations are not permanent. It depends on why you separated and what you are willing to compromise on or forgive each other in the marriage. Love isn&rsquo;t enough to fix a marriage, and it takes work to make a relationship last or repair where the trust has been broken. You may be thinking, can I save my marriage? That&rsquo;s where couples therapy can help. You can see an impartial mediator who can translate both partners&rsquo; sides.</p>
<h3><strong>Why do I feel like my husband hates me?</strong></h3>
<p>You may be wondering, &ldquo;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/marriage/my-husband-is-always-angry-is-it-my-fault/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">my husband is always angry</a>, does he hate me?&rdquo; If you feel that your husband hates you, it&rsquo;s important to confront the issues. Husband love is important to receive. You want to feel seen, loved, and validated. And, you never know, a husband could be thinking, &ldquo;my wife hates me,&rdquo; Maybe writing down your feelings will give you a sense of clarity about them. You need to pinpoint what actions your husband is taking to make you feel like he dislikes you. Once you know why you feel this way, that&rsquo;s when you can have a discussion with him and tell him how his behavior is impacting you. He now has a chance to make changes in how he treats you so you feel loved.</p>
<h3><strong>When should you walk away from your marriage?</strong></h3>
<p>You may be wondering, &ldquo;can I save my marriage?&rdquo; There&rsquo;s no easy answer to that question. Marriages are hard work, and it takes two people to participate in making a relationship last. Your inner monologue is &ldquo;I want to save my marriage,&rdquo; and that can be powerful. It might be a mantra for you to work through problems in the relationship. You can address these issues in couples therapy. Before deciding to walk away, try using that mantra, &ldquo;I want to save my marriage,&rdquo; internally, or even say it aloud to your partner. That way, the two of you can think of ways to try to make the marriage work. Unfortunately, no matter how hard you both try, it doesn&rsquo;t seem to work for some relationships. If you feel unsatisfied with the relationship for a long time, and you&rsquo;ve done everything in your power to make it work, including couples therapy, and you&rsquo;re still unhappy, it may be time to walk away.</p>
<h3><strong>What is a toxic relationship with a husband?</strong></h3>
<p>A toxic (or&nbsp;<a href="https://www.dshs.wa.gov/altsa/home-and-community-services/types-and-signs-abuse">abusive</a>) relationship with your husband could include the following:</p>
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<li>Verbal abuse</li>
<li>Mental Abuse</li>
<li>Emotional Abuse</li>
<li>Sexual Abuse</li>
<li>Financial Abuse</li>
<li>Physical Abuse</li>
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<p>If you experience domestic abuse of any kind, don&rsquo;t hesitate to reach out for the help you deserve.&nbsp;<a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">The National Domestic Abuse Hotline</a> (800-799-SAFE) is a free and safe resource you can at any time.</p>
<p>In addition to abuse, co-dependent relationships can be toxic for both partners. It&rsquo;s important to be mindful of how your husband makes you feel. If you feel satisfied and happy in your marriage, then that&rsquo;s a good thing. If you feel sad, lonely, angry, or exhausted, that&rsquo;s a sign that you could be in a toxic relationship. Remember, toxicity can be subjective. What is unhealthy for one person may be tolerable for another. If you&rsquo;re unsure your relationship is bad for you, you can talk about it with your therapist and support system.</p>
<h3><strong>How should husbands treat their wives?</strong></h3>
<p>Husbands should treat their wives the way that their wives want to be treated. Communication is an integral part of relationships, and men and women can have varying communication styles. However, it is crucial to tell your partner how you feel and what you need in the marriage. That way, you can get your needs met.</p>
<h3><strong>What year of marriage is divorce most common?</strong></h3>
<p>The eighth year of marriage is when many couples decide to get divorced. You may have heard of the &ldquo;seven-year itch.&rdquo; That could apply to your marriage. When you&rsquo;ve been with a partner for many years, your rose-colored glasses fall off, and you begin to see them for who they are. That&rsquo;s why it&rsquo;s important to remember that people have strengths and flaws, and love is about accepting both. Marriages last when you see your partner in a realistic light and accept that person for themselves.</p>
<h3><strong>What are the signs of a toxic marriage?</strong></h3>
<p>As stated above, if there is any abuse in the marriage or a co-dependency, that could be a toxic dynamic. If you feel your marriage is unhealthy, it could be helpful to speak to a couple&rsquo;s counselor or an individual therapist.</p>
<h3><strong>How do you know there&rsquo;s no hope for your marriage?</strong></h3>
<p>If one or both people in the marriage are unwilling to put the work in, that&rsquo;s a sign that there&rsquo;s no hope left. Marriage is a team effort, and both partners need to want to be in the relationship. When you separate, you can still find love if that&rsquo;s what you want in life. And divorce can be a relief for some people. It&rsquo;s not the end of your journey; it can be the beginning. Consider working with a licensed therapist to gain clarity on what you want out of your relationships.</p>
<h3>How do I deal with my hateful husband?&nbsp;</h3>
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<p>When you're in a relationship, you may feel like you always want to love and support your partner. What if you feel like you hate your partner sometimes, though? Could you be stuck in some love-hate relationship, and if so, is it worth it to keep going? The answer can depend on the experiences that drive your emotions as well as the solutions that you and your partner are able to make use of. No matter what, making the best decision for you can likely be achieved through self-reflection, talking to your partner, and getting some outside perspective. Let&rsquo;s take a closer look.</p>
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<h2>What is a love-hate relationship?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A love-hate relationship can occur when two people both love and hate one another at the same time. You can love your significant other very much while still finding them to be infuriating. Ups and downs often characterize these types of relationships. A couple might be very content one week but may fall into a negative pattern the next. These relationships can be very tumultuous, and they may not always be healthy, either.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Relationships like this can cause you to experience a wide range of different emotions. This can wind up being very problematic, and it could even lead you to question why you're together. You can go from loving someone to feeling disgusted by their mere presence. It can seem bizarre to feel this way, and the rollercoaster of emotions can likely be too much for most people to handle. Regardless, some people have been able to fix their love and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-hate-relationships-common-relationship-dysfunctions-and-how-to-manage-them/">hate relationships</a>&nbsp;to cultivate a more positive romantic bond.</p>
<h2>What is hate in this type of relationship?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">The word hate in this context might not necessarily mean that you hate your significant other with every fiber of your being. After all, hate is a very strong word and might not always be the most accurate descriptor for what you're experiencing. This can sometimes be the reason why people assume that they aren't in a love-hate relationship. You might merely feel annoyed or inconvenienced by your significant other.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">And, while experiencing <a href="https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/relationships-dealing-with-conflict">conflict like this in a relationship</a> can be normal, when things swing from one extreme to the other or frequently are unstable, it may be cause for concern. That&rsquo;s because healthy relationships often involve finding productive ways to address incompatibilities or conflict without leading to resentment. Contempt and negative feelings toward your partner can spell trouble for the longevity of your relationship.</p>
<h2>Signs that you're in a love-hate relationships</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Though it may seem like it should be obvious, it can actually be somewhat difficult to determine if your relationship falls into the &ldquo;love-hate&rdquo; category. Overall, if your relationship tends to bounce between extreme ups and downs or is characterized by frustration and resentment, it may indeed be worth taking a deeper look at.</p>
<h3>Your relationship is always intense in both directions</h3>
<p dir="ltr">People who are in a love-hate relationship often note that they experience intense emotions. Your connection to your partner might be very strong in both a positive and a negative way. For example, on the days when you're getting along great, you might feel almost inseparable. It can feel almost sublime during these times, but the good days usually don't stick around forever.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Bad days can be equally intense, but they swing the pendulum in the other direction. You might have heated shouting matches and argue with one another until you're blue in the face.&nbsp;</p>
<h3>On-again off-again</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Love-hate relationships are also commonly associated with being "on-again-off-again." Do you find yourself constantly breaking up with your significant other? Do you also seem to make up regularly and keep trying again? This can be a strong indication that you're involved in a love-hate relationship. Your love for your partner may keep drawing you back, but the relationship's constant strife might drive you apart repeatedly.</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">A superficial connection</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Many love-hate relationships can occur due to the two people involved in the relationship not having much of a connection. You might be very attracted to your partner, but this doesn't mean that they are a good match for you.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Your lack of a true bond may lead to conflict between the two of you. You might not even have much in common, which can lead to you simply not understanding one another. Some people may have personalities that are like oil and water. True love can bloom from this type of love-hate relationship, but if incompatibilities lead to intense disagreements, they may be too strong to be overcome.</p>
<h3>Are communication issues present?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">In many of love-hate relationships, <a href="https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/healthyliving/relationships-and-communication">poor communication</a> can be at the core of the problems. Unclear expectations, unaddressed emotions, and pent-up frustration can lead to significant, dramatic changes in the dynamic of a relationship. Luckily, this is something that can be worked on overtime. If you're willing to go to couples therapy, you can likely learn how to communicate with one another more positively.</p>
<h2>It's up to you to decide how to proceed</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Understanding the signs of a love-hate relationship may make it easier to see where you stand. Whether you're in one of these relationships or not, it&rsquo;s ultimately up to you to decide how to proceed. There may be situations where it's healthier to decide to move on rather than stay in a relationship that isn't making you happy.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Even so, it can also be possible to repair many relationships. If you love your partner enough to want to try to fix your concerns, then options that help can be available to you.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">One such option may be attending&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">online couples counseling</a>&nbsp;sessions. With the help of a professional, you can grow your bond while addressing any challenges that might be holding your relationship back. A licensed therapist can work with you to turn your love-hate relationship into something more satisfying for you both.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Research suggests that most people who pursue online counseling find some benefit in it, too. One recent study found that 95% of couples who participate in <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8250910/">online couples counseling</a> find it helpful. No matter what happens next for your relationship, it&rsquo;s likely that getting some outside perspective can be a good first step.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Relationships that seem to fluctuate between extremes in terms of emotions, connection, and conflict may be classified as &ldquo;love-hate&rdquo; relationships. While these sorts of dynamics can sometimes be mended and improved, in other cases, they may mean that a couple simply isn&rsquo;t a great fit. Only you can decide what&rsquo;s best for your relationship, but a professional like a therapist can offer some insight that might help you make the right choice.</p>
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<p dir="ltr"><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2>Can a love/hate relationship work?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A love-hate relationship may look or sound appealing, but when you&rsquo;re actually in one, it can often be draining and rarely works out. This may be because a love-hate relationship swings back and forth between intense feelings of affection and intense feelings of hatred, which can be exhausting. People with contrasting personalities are often drawn into these types of relationships, and it can bring out the worst in both of you. With some effort and guidance, you may be able to make things work, but it will likely take some degree of practice to shift the nature of your relationship.</p>
<h2>Can you love someone and hate them at the same time?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">It can be possible to love someone and hate them at the same time. In fact, that is the very definition of a love-hate relationship. What&rsquo;s likely more important is which emotion is stronger: love, or hate. You may also want to ask yourself where the&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/love/is-there-a-thin-line-between-love-and-hate/">line between love and hate</a>&nbsp;is drawn. This could be different depending on the person or couple.</p>
<h2>What do love-hate relationships look like?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A love-hate relationship can often be marked by intensity. There may be instances or periods of elation and affection followed by moments of hatred and rage toward one another. Couples may fight a lot and then suddenly make up, realizing how much they actually love the other person. A love-hate relationship can be confusing and make you second-guess yourself and your partner. These relationships can be very dramatic, loud, tense, and chaotic, but as always, it often varies from couple to couple.</p>
<h2>Is hate stronger than love?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">When it comes to the strength of hate versus love, things can look very different from person to person. If you love someone and then that person hurts you, the love may outweigh the hurt and hatred you feel. However, if someone&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5725944/#:~:text=In%20addition%2C%20people%20have%20different,stronger%20than%20those%20of%20love.">betrayed</a>&nbsp;you and didn&rsquo;t love them, the hatred may likely be stronger than the love. If you&rsquo;re determined to love someone and don&rsquo;t want to let hate win, there may be ways to make that happen, such as practicing forgiveness and learning to communicate in a healthy, productive manner.</p>
<h2>Is hate part of love?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Hate isn&rsquo;t necessarily a part of love; however, love and hate have been proven to be linked to one another. Essentially, the greater the love you have for someone, the greater&nbsp;<a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2017.01940/full#:~:text=Especially%20from%20the%20perspectives%20of,be%20rooted%20in%20romantic%20jealousy.">capacity</a> you may have to hate them. Researchers discovered this phenomenon while studying complicated relationships. It makes sense, too; the more you love someone, the more heartbroken you&rsquo;re likely to be if they betray you, which can create a greater possibility of developing a deep hatred for the person.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Have you ever felt alone or friendless? Many people have experienced moments of loneliness when they feel there is no one available for support. However, if these moments occur repeatedly or last, these feelings can escalate and become even more unpleasant. You may even worry that people around you actually despise you. If you feel like people hate you, you may feel lonely and isolated as a result. But it may surprise you to know that this is a very common feeling, and many other people secretly feel the same way. In this article, we&rsquo;ll unpack that feeling and provide resources that will help you understand your feelings of alienation and how to resolve it.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do I feel like people hate me?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">There are several reasons that you may be experiencing overarching concerns that people do not like you, or even hate you. These include relationship conflict, lack of an appropriate support system, and social anxiety. As we begin to unpack this feeling, the first and most important step is to consider the context and motivation for your feelings. For example, if you feel like people hate you, is this because you recently had an argument with a friend, coworker, or family relative? Is a friend upset by something you have said or done? Although these incidents are unpleasant, they are very common. No matter how loving and well- meaning you are, everyone occasionally makes a mistake or says the wrong thing, thereby offending someone they love. Read on to learn more about the different reasons you are feeling like people hate you.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Falling out with someone you love</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Fortunately, however, everyone understands that these things happen. So, if you are currently going through a rough patch in a friendship or relationship, the good news is that&mdash; if you are willing to work through it using consistent, open, and honest communication&mdash; the issue will likely be resolved soon! But until the problem is resolved, it can be difficult to exist in that peculiar limbo state that occurs when someone you love is upset with you. During this time, you both may be struggling with hurt feelings and attempting to repair your relationship, so things may not feel quite &ldquo;normal&rdquo; between you.</p>
<p dir="ltr">This can be especially awkward if you&rsquo;re both dealing with something that had a significant emotional impact on you. And as you both try to sort through your feelings and move forward, your relationship may feel so awkward that you feel as though the other person might even hate you.</p>
<p dir="ltr">However, it&rsquo;s important to remember that this is rarely the case, and that healing takes time. Relationships can be tricky and awkward at times but, even in the rough patches, it&rsquo;s unlikely that the other person hates you or that you will be unable to move forward together. Remembering this can sometimes be a big help in calming the anxieties we experience during awkward moments in our relationships.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Feeling friendless and alone</h2>
<p dir="ltr">But sometimes, we feel awkward and anxious for other reasons. For some people, these feelings do not stem from a fall-out with a loved one. Instead, some people may feel that they are so alone, they do not even have any loved ones. These feelings can be very isolating and upsetting, especially if you feel as though everyone around you has someone to love. Fortunately, however, these things are rarely as bad as they seem. And, most importantly, these feelings can be temporary, especially when you reach for support. A therapist can help you through these times and offer solutions to your feelings of isolation.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel awkward and nervous around others and regularly wonder if people hate you, are talking about you behind your back, or making fun of you, it&rsquo;s possible that these feelings stem from social anxiety. Although experiencing anxiety is never fun, being diagnosed with social anxiety can sometimes be a relief because it can show you that your thoughts are incorrect, and you are not hated. Instead, your feelings are simply the result of overactive anxiety signals in your brain. So, let&rsquo;s take a closer look at social anxiety and how it can affect a person&rsquo;s relationships.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What is social anxiety?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Social anxiety is the <a href="https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0239133">third most common mental health disorder</a> in the world. This disorder can affect a lot of people&mdash; including men, women, teens, and adults&mdash; and causes fear and anxiety before or during social situations like talking to new people, speaking in public, answering questions in class, talking on the phone, dating, and even eating in public. A major characteristic of social anxiety is the fear of social situations where they perceive people are negatively judging them or ridiculing them. Other symptoms of <a href="https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/social-anxiety-disorder-more-than-just-shyness">social anxiety</a> include:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Avoiding public places</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Serious fear of being judged</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Extreme self-consciousness</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Agitation and anger</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Fear of meeting new people</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Avoiding eye contact</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Afraid of speaking in public</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Nausea, diarrhea, or vomiting</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Isolating yourself even from family and friends</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Sweating or shaking</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Rapid or irregular heart rate</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Believing that others are laughing at you</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Misusing alcohol or drugs to cope with stress, especially in social situations</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Panic attacks (hyperventilating, chest pain, sweating, fear of something bad happening to you)</li>
</ul>
<p dir="ltr">"I&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-hate-myself-identifying-and-managing-self-hatred/">hate myself</a>, why am I like this?" People with social anxiety often have an extreme fear of being ridiculed, judged, or humiliated during any of these social activities. The fear of being rejected or embarrassed can cause such a panic that some people may not be able to go out in public at all. This fear can also manifest itself in physical symptoms such as pain or nausea, which prevent the person from being able to attend class, get a job, or have a relationship with anyone.</p>
<p dir="ltr">However, a person with social anxiety does not have to be in a public social situation for anxiety to flare. In fact, you may feel anxious just by thinking about scenarios that make you uncomfortable. For example, an anxiety attack might be caused by a thought like, &ldquo;Are my friends talking about me behind my back?&rdquo; This can be a common concern because most people occasionally wonder if their friends or family do not like them. For example, you may reflect on your behavior and think, &ldquo;I hope I wasn&rsquo;t annoying!&rdquo; or &ldquo;I wonder if my friends really like me!&rdquo;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Many people have these thoughts from time to time. However, if you experience these thoughts on a regular basis and find that they pop into your head without your conscious control, you may be managing an anxiety disorder. These thoughts may persist and you are unable to get them out of your mind. You may also find it difficult to relax, be yourself, and enjoy your friends&rsquo; company while you battle those thoughts. As a result, you may even struggle to trust your friends in the future and this cycle of fear and mistrust is likely to perpetuate your anxiety.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Can social anxiety make people hate me?</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">If you can relate to any or all the symptoms described above, it is highly likely that you are managing social anxiety. It is important to note that only a medical practitioner or licensed therapist&nbsp; can truly diagnose if you have an anxiety disorder. Nonetheless, recognizing that your fear that people hate you may be based in anxiety can be helpful on your journey in reaching for support.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">There are a few things to consider when you realize you are managing anxiety-based fears that cause you to think people dislike you. Remember that anxiety does not make you inherently unlikable and you need not feel any shame because of it. You may also be comforted in knowing that anxiety affects millions of people all around the world. Someone you know may also be dealing with it and in opening up to a friend, you may find out that you have a support system available to help. Many people are quietly living with the same thoughts you experience&mdash; and that&rsquo;s exactly why it&rsquo;s important to seek help for social anxiety.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s also important to remember that, while having anxiety does not automatically make people hate you, social anxiety can impact your behavior in ways that can be off-putting to others. For example, if a friend opens your text message and does not reply right away, you might panic and think that something is wrong or that they hate you. As a result, you might send a barrage of texts or phone calls to that friend asking if something is wrong. Similarly, if you feel like a friend is avoiding you, you might get upset with them and treat them differently the next time you hang out.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The problem with this behavior is that it might be irrational and unwarranted. While there certainly can be times when other people aren&rsquo;t kind to us, in most cases, it&rsquo;s more likely that your friend was simply busy, and they just couldn&rsquo;t answer your text right away. In those scenarios, people tend to be annoyed by the constant phone calls and they might feel like you&rsquo;ve crossed a line.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Some people with social anxiety react angrily as a defense mechanism and you may feel hatred towards the people involved. You might be asking yourself "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/why-do-i-hate-everyone-9-reasons-you-may-feel-this-way-and-how-to-overcome-these-feelings/">Why do I hate everyone</a> involved?"&nbsp;Your friends might put up with this on a short-term basis, but if you persist with this behavior, your actions can give people the wrong idea. Instead of understanding that you&rsquo;re anxious or worried, your friends might perceive you as pushy or annoying and this can disrupt your friendships and make you feel worse.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Managing conflict and social anxiety</h2>
<p dir="ltr">When you are managing social anxiety, it can be comforting to know that things are rarely as bad as your brain makes them out to be. However, it&rsquo;s also important to acknowledge that&mdash; unfortunately&mdash; life is full of ups and downs, and this can sometimes include conflict with others. So, if you feel like someone you love hates you&mdash; and this feeling persists for days or even weeks, while also being unrelated to a recent argument or incident&mdash; it may be helpful to discuss your feelings with the other person.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When you are experiencing unresolved conflict with someone, it can be helpful to clear the air and talk about your feelings in an open, honest, and non-confrontational manner. For example, you could begin by saying something simple like, &ldquo;Hey, I feel like things have been off between us lately, so I wanted to check in&mdash; is everything okay?&rdquo; Asking in this manner gives the other person a chance to talk through their feelings calmly and respectfully without feeling attacked or accused by you.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Likewise, if you feel like someone hates you and you do not know why, initiating a conversation is the best way to get some answers. You may find out that something is wrong. Open and honest communication between yourself, and the other person is a great way to resolve the problem.</p>
<p dir="ltr">As you talk through your feelings, you may discover that they do not hate you in the least. They may simply be experiencing emotions that are confusing or they are frustrated by something you have said or done. No matter what the problem is, communication will give you a chance to get your feelings out in the open and develop a strategy for moving forward.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Seeking professional help for conflict and anxiety</h2>
<p dir="ltr">No matter the outcome of your conversation, it can be helpful to know that you are not alone. If you are experiencing conflict in your relationship with a partner, parent, or a close friend, it may be helpful to seek counseling together and separately as you try to work through your feelings. People sometimes have misguided assumptions about what therapy is and when it&rsquo;s needed but you should know that therapy isn&rsquo;t a last resort for moments of crisis. Therapy is a great resource for you to work through your doubts and fears and learn resilience strategies that help you manage conflict and symptoms related to anxiety.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Many people often find it helpful to think of therapy is a toolbox. Whenever you are solving a problem, it&rsquo;s important to have the right tools. Think of what tools you have used to solve a math problem, fix an issue with your car, or troubleshoot your laptop. This is also true for your mental health and relationships. Solving a problem without the right tools is pretty much impossible, so it&rsquo;s important to assemble helpful tools in your toolbox. Therapy is the right tool to help you understand why you are worried people hate you or you lack a support system. Whether you are attending counseling on your own or with someone else, therapy exists to provide you with the right tools to live your happiest and healthiest life.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Connecting with a therapist</h2>
<p dir="ltr">One effective tool in the therapist&rsquo;s toolbox is known as <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12144-019-00411-w">cognitive behavioral therapy</a> &ndash; a type of talk therapy known for its high success in treating social anxiety. This disorder is often rooted in a person&rsquo;s&nbsp;<a href="https://www.apa.org/ptsd-guideline/patients-and-families/cognitive-behavioral">thoughts and behavior</a>. The techniques learned with CBT work to change how you currently feel about the social situations that create anxiety and how you react to them. CBT also helps you to identify thoughts associated with increased stress and learn how to challenge and balance those thoughts.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Cognitive behavioral therapy for social anxiety and talk-therapy, in general, can be provided in-person with a professional, or it can be carried out online. Both are very viable methods, and it is ultimately your choice which one you prefer &ndash; you will receive the help you need with either option. However, online therapy can be a highly accessible option for people who are dealing with heightened stress and anxiety. You can attend therapy sessions in a space where you feel most comfortable without having to commute to and from a physical office.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Research also supports online therapy as being equally effective as in-person therapy for people managing social anxiety with the added benefits of convenience and accessibility. For example, a study published in <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/pdf/10.1080/23311908.2022.2040160">Cogent Psychology</a> examined the effectiveness of online cognitive behavioral therapy for college students with social anxiety disorder. All the study&rsquo;s participants remained throughout the course of treatment and reported a great reduction in symptoms accompanied by a high satisfaction of the virtual mode of treatment delivery. The study also showed how online delivery of therapy can reach hard-to-reach populations as many of the participants were international students unable to receive care otherwise.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel ready to reach out and seek hope and healing through therapy, you may want to consider&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>. Regain is an online therapy provider staffed by mental health professionals who are passionate about offering accessible and affordable therapy to everyone who needs it. In the past, traditional, in-person therapy sessions have often been inaccessible to many people who could benefit from mental health care; the cost and the need to travel and attend an in-person session in a set location can be an insurmountable barrier for many people who want to seek help through therapy.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel alone, think people hate you, or you are dealing with a problem in a relationship that you are unable to resolve, you can unpack these problems with a therapist. Your therapist will work with you to create a personalized treatment plan and help you learn more about your mental and emotional health. With the support of a therapist, you can develop a new sense of self-awareness along with positive coping mechanisms to help you face life&rsquo;s challenges head-on.</p>
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Do you feel like people hate you? What to do when you are feeling alienated, plus when loneliness can be a mental health concern like social anxiety.

“Why Do People Hate Me?” What To Do When You’re Feeling Alienated | Regain

<h3>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</h3>
<h2><strong>What is the fear of everyone hating you?</strong></h2>
<p>If you feel that everyone hates you, it could be a san underlying mental health condition. People living with anxiety can often feel like everyone hates them, especially if they feel like their friends and coworkers ignore them.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Most often, people don&rsquo;t actually hate you. Medically reviewed articles, like the ones from Healthline media, address <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/why-does-everyone-hate-me#challenge-your-thoughts">cognitive distortions</a>, which could be the reason you have the feeling that everyone hates you. Insecurities and self-doubt are normal to a point, and you can try to reassure yourself by spending time with others and noticing how interested in you they really are.</p>
<p>While everyone feels sensitive or insecure occasionally, if you are often convinced that friends and family hate you for no reason, you could benefit from medically reviewed resources like those from Healthline media or talking things through with a therapist.</p>
<h2><strong>What should you do when everyone hates you?</strong></h2>
<p>If you still have the feeling that everyone hates you, there could be underlying mental health conditions at play and not just a bad day you are having.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Some people feel like crowds are always talking about them or dislike them simply because they are overanalyzing the conversation and body language of the other person. Online resources like Healthline media provide medically reviewed coping mechanisms if you feel overwhelmed by your thoughts of feeling like everyone hates you. Medical advice from a therapist could also benefit those who experience crippling self-doubt.</p>
<p>Some <a href="https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325705#coping-with-these-feelings">reasons</a> you might feel like everyone hates you could include:</p>
<ul>
<li>Depression</li>
<li>Anxiety</li>
<li>Low self-esteem</li>
<li>Abusive relationships</li>
<li>Domestic violence</li>
<li>Previous or current bullying</li>
<li>Other mental health issues</li>
</ul>
<p>If you suspect that your fear of others hating you could stem from a mental health condition, consider reaching out to a mental health professional or consulting medially reviewed resources, like those from Healthline media. If you could be in an abusive relationship of any type or an intimate partner violence situation, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1.800.799.SAFE (7233).</p>
<h2><strong>How do you deal with haters?</strong></h2>
<p>Bullying in schools and on social media is an issue that many adolescents experience, contributing to mental health conditions. A <a href="https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-deal-with-haters">&ldquo;hater&rdquo;</a> is a term used to refer to someone who uses negative, critical behavior and language to bring another person down by making them look or feel bad.&nbsp;</p>
<p>People living with bullying can develop anxiety and depression, and they may believe that everyone hates them. There are some medically reviewed suggestions and medical <a href="https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-deal-with-haters">advice</a> on how to deal with bullies.&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>Ignore them&nbsp;
<ul>
<li>Don&rsquo;t engage with bullies. Walk away, and don&rsquo;t react or respond to their negative comments in person or online. If someone threatens you, let someone in authority know immediately. Your safety is the number one priority.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Remind yourself that you are not the problem
<ul>
<li>People living with anxiety might often feel like it&rsquo;s their fault and that what people say to them is true. Remind yourself that their hateful words and actions are more than likely something they deal with internally or in their own lives.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Respond with kindness (if you do respond)
<ul>
<li>This lets them know that their negativity isn&rsquo;t affecting you, and you are in control of your emotions.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Spend time with friends and family
<ul>
<li>It is great to have a support system, so spending time with people you care about can positively reinforce your thoughts and feelings about yourself.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
<li>Block bullies on social media
<ul>
<li>If you are spending time on social media and are getting bullied, immediately block them on whatever platform you are using. Remember to report any threats you receive to someone you trust.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
</li>
</ul>
<h2><strong>What do you do if your parents hate you?</strong></h2>
<p>If your parents hate you, it might be important to search medically reviewed articles, such as Healthline Media, and talk to a counselor. If you are in immediate danger, let the authorities know right away. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1.800.799.SAFE (7233). Your health and safety are the priority.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Most of the time, your parents do not, in fact, hate you. If you feel they are unfair with their rules and punishments, that could be totally normal. Lots of changes happen when you are an adolescent, and sometimes that can cause your relationship with your parents to become strained. Remember that your parents may not agree with how you dress or your new haircut, but that does not mean they hate you.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Parents are just humans, too, and they may be struggling with the best way to parent you and keep you safe while respecting your individual growing up process. Parents may experience conflict between being your friend and being your parent. Even when it feels like they don&rsquo;t understand you, it can be helpful for parents and children to both tries to clearly communicate your emotions instead of storming off or expecting people to read your mind when you are genuinely upset.</p>
<p>There may seem to be an overwhelming amount of parenting resources available for parents, so try to stick to medically reviewed sources. Many parents are trying their best and come up with different ways to raise children, which could all be worthwhile. Based on <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/bad-parenting">this article</a> from Healthline media, many adults fear being bad parents, and simply that awareness to try to be better can be a good first step.</p>
<p>If you think your child hates you, try to give yourself a break. Parenting can be difficult, and children may say things they don&rsquo;t mean in the heat of the moment or during a fight. Parents may need to explain their reasoning to a child, who could misunderstand where rules are coming from or feel misunderstood due to growing up.&nbsp;</p>
<h2><strong>How do you deal with hate on social media?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>If you are experiencing bullying on social media, a good piece of advice is to immediately block the bully and report it to someone you trust, especially if they make threats. Many medically reviewed suggestions will include the instruction, don&rsquo;t engage with the bully, as that may only make things worse. By engaging with them, you add fuel to the fire and are subject to more hateful words.</p>
<h2>What causes people to hate me?<br>What does it mean when everyone hate you?<br>How do you deal with people not liking you?<br>What to do when people hate you?<br>What do you call a person who hates everyone?<br>How do you know if your friend doesn't value you?<br>What does it mean when I think everyone hates me?<br>How do you know if your best friend secretly hates you?<br>What do you call a person who hates people?<br>What two signs hate each other?</h2>

Have you ever felt alone or friendless? Many people have experienced moments of loneliness when they feel there is no one available for support. However, if these moments...

“Why Do People Hate Me?” What To Do When You Are Feeling Alienated

<p dir="ltr">Defined as "feeling intense or passionate dislike for someone," hate is not a term we typically want to associate with how our loved ones feel about us, particularly from our children. But as with any deeply bonded relationship, strong feelings, including hate, sometimes arise between parents and children.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">While it isn&rsquo;t totally uncommon, hatred directed towards a parent from a grown son can develop into something more serious when left unaddressed. If your grown son hates you, and you don&rsquo;t know what to do about it, it&rsquo;s helpful to visualize your desired outcome: a harmonious, balanced, healthy relationship. In this post, we&rsquo;ll discuss some of the reasons that grown children grow to hate their parents and what you can do to repair the hurt feelings and move toward that healthy outcome.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">&ldquo;What are the reasons my grown son hates me?&rdquo; Exploring sources of negativity</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Sometimes we aren&rsquo;t as in tune with the feelings of our loved ones as we&rsquo;d like to be, which can lead to complications when it&rsquo;s time to try and resolve them. Before you decide how to repair your relationship with your son, it&rsquo;s important to consider if you&rsquo;re unwittingly exhibiting behavior undermining your efforts.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Here are a few things that may contribute to your son&rsquo;s strong negative feelings.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You&rsquo;re inflexible</h3>
<p dir="ltr">We all have different stories and opinions, including a myriad of experiences that we&rsquo;ve had with our children. Parents sometimes feel the need to be right no matter the cost. But if you insist your version of events is the only one accurate, your children may feel they don't have a right to theirs. Accept their stories as being valid for them. It doesn't mean you're wrong; it just means you're listening. If you are wrong, it&rsquo;s vital to acknowledge that.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You aren&rsquo;t mindful of &nbsp;his boundaries</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Parents who find their adult children seem angry or avoid them may have confused good intentions with crossing boundaries. Not respecting your grown son&rsquo;s boundaries can create animosity and cause toxic dynamics.&nbsp; While it&rsquo;s tempting to want to &ldquo;fix&rdquo; problems for our children like we did when they were little- it&rsquo;s not always appropriate or welcome as they grow to adulthood.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Sometimes our emotional attachments towards our children can cloud our judgment towards how they live as adults. While a healthy emotional attachment is a positive and nurturing thing, when&nbsp;<a href="https://www.aarp.org/home-family/friends-family/info-04-2013/parenting-adult-children-family-relationships.html">emotional attachment</a> becomes an obsession and preoccupation, it can be destructive and harmful.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You don't know him as an individual</h3>
<p dir="ltr">We all change as we mature, developing unique views, opinions, and outlooks on life. As such, your son isn&rsquo;t likely to be the same person mentally or emotionally that he was as a child. It probably isn&rsquo;t helpful to assume you still know what he thinks and feels in adulthood- now is an excellent time to &ldquo;reacquaint&rdquo; yourself with him as an adult.&nbsp;</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">You don't let him make his own choices</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Your adult son has a right to his lifestyle, religion, partners, choices, etc., as much as any other adult. You may give advice when requested or provide gentle encouragement. Still, unless he&rsquo;s engaging in dangerous behavior, it&rsquo;s important not to overstep and push your opinions and values onto your son if they don&rsquo;t align with his life as an adult.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You struggle to help him feel heard</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Active listening is the bedrock of <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0378216610002122">any relationship</a>, especially for those undergoing challenges.</p>
<p dir="ltr">For many parents, it&rsquo;s perhaps ingrained in us to take over conversations with our children or split our attention between them and other things. This is a relatively common thing, especially when they're young, but as they get older, it&rsquo;s necessary to change our listening style to suit their needs. For example, if your son attempts to communicate something important with you, speaking over him will probably only yield frustration. Meaningful conversations work best when they&rsquo;re a two-way endeavor, so try to listen attentively when he&rsquo;s talking and allow him to speak his mind entirely without interrupting.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How to respond when you think your adult child hates you</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you can identify with one or more of the above behaviors, it may be easier to see why your son hates you right now and work on the behaviors necessary to resolve your conflicts.&nbsp; Below are some suggestions for what you can actively do to repair the relationship with your grown son and ease his feelings of hate toward you.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Minimize guilt trips on adult children</h3>
<p dir="ltr">There are several reasons that parents use the recognized &ldquo;guilt trip&rdquo; (either unwittingly or purposefully) to sway their adult children&rsquo;s behaviors. For example,&nbsp; generations ago, adult kids wouldn&rsquo;t typically consider spending the holidays with anyone but their parents. But with time, behaviors have changed, and that isn&rsquo;t the most common scenario for many families.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Like your child has matured and changed, so have the recent generations. When you feel your son should adhere to the norms of your generation by coming home for every holiday, you may use guilt as a tactic. Guilt isn&rsquo;t an effective means of getting what you want out of any relationship. Trying to use it on your adult son can create strong feelings of aversion or even hate. It may also mean you won&rsquo;t see him at holidays or family gatherings.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Don't compete with your their partner</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Choosing a mate is a developmentally important process that must be respected. Criticizing your adult son&rsquo;s choice of partners can cause tension, but if they&rsquo;re committed and in love, complaining to your son about his partner is a sure way to drive a wedge between you. Unless he initiates the conversation and asks for advice, it&rsquo;s probably best to stay out of his relationships (unless you see that <a href="https://www.mankind.org.uk/help-for-victims/is-a-man-you-know-a-victim-spotting-the-signs/">they&rsquo;re abusive</a> psychologically and physically).&nbsp;</p>
<p class="disclaimer">If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">Don't feed the anger</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Because humans often exhibit &ldquo;fight or flight&rdquo; behavior when faced with a perceived threat, we sometimes react to strong emotions like fear with anger. When you&rsquo;re fearful about your son&rsquo;s future and your relationship, you may rely on friends, family, etc., for a listening ear. In an attempt to be supportive, those people may inadvertently fuel your feelings of betrayal, inadvertently increasing your anger.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Anger isn't typically helpful when repairing relationships, even if it&rsquo;s from a well-meaning place. Try to diffuse your anger towards your son for the sake of reconciliation- even if you and others feel that they&rsquo;re warranted.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Focus on yourself, not your child</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Letting go of resentment regarding your son&rsquo;s feelings and your relationship may begin with focusing on yourself, not him. By focusing on yourself, you are bettering yourself as a person and parent and giving him the time and space to nurture and grow into the man he chooses to be.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Try to nurture yourself by engaging in pleasant activities that you enjoy. If you like cooking, taking a cooking class may be helpful, or if you enjoy nature, spend time camping or hiking. Becoming an &ldquo;empty nester&rdquo; is a life-changing event. Focusing on things outside of this emotional time may give you the fulfillment you need and, in turn, position you for healthy reconciliation.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Apologize</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;re wrong about something, it&rsquo;s essential to express your apologies to minimize feelings of animosity from your son. If you aren&rsquo;t wrong, take the high road by refraining from insisting that he apologize to you. Remember that <a href="https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/apologizing-to-your-child">apologizing</a> when you&rsquo;re wrong is a strength, not a weakness, and will help open communication between you.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Here are some suggestions for delivering a heartfelt apology:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Take responsibility for your feelings.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Connect the feeling to the action (explain in your apology why you felt the way you did).</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Apologize for the action.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Recognize your child's feelings.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Discuss how you&rsquo;ll avoid this situation in the future together.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Ask for forgiveness.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Focus on amends and solutions.</li>
</ul>
<h2 dir="ltr">Finding mental health support for a healthy parent-child relationship</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Hearing the words "I hate you" from your adult son can be exceedingly hurtful. And being cut off by your son with no ability to communicate and resolve things is equally difficult. But it&rsquo;s essential to remember you&rsquo;re not alone when coping with those feelings. Support is available through family, friends, colleagues, and your community.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Ask an online therapist, &ldquo;Why do I feel like my grown son hates me?&rdquo;</h3>
<p dir="ltr">The most effective way to handle difficult situations such as these is to speak to a counselor who can provide you with strategies for recognizing the behaviors that you exhibit that don&rsquo;t serve you or your relationship with your son. A counselor can help you uncover the roots of the thoughts that influence your behavior and teach you how to manage your feelings best and reduce harmful reactivity in communication.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Therapy is effective, but despite its benefits, only some choose to speak to a professional. The reasons for these are varied, from scheduling conflicts to feelings of insecurity around confiding in a stranger about sensitive topics.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Effectiveness of mental health care through online therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Online therapy is an excellent solution to these and other barriers for people who could benefit from treatment. Online platforms like Regain pair individuals with licensed, accredited, experienced counselors with a wide array of specialties. These include using techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) to help individuals and families navigate the difficulties associated with relationships and family dynamics.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">You can speak to a therapist via Regain on your schedule from the comfort of home via text, phone, video chat, and online messaging. Online therapy is <a href="https://www.center4research.org/does-online-therapy-work/">as effective</a> as traditional therapy for using methods like CBT to help individuals cultivate healthy, balanced mental and interpersonal health.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Therapist reviews</h2>
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It's hard to cope when your grown son hates you

My grown son hates me, what should I do? Explore why a child might feel this way, and how to repair relationships with children and improve mental health. 

“Now That He’s Not A Child, My Grown Son Hates Me”: On Resentment In Adult Children

<h2>Frequently asked questions (FAQ&rsquo;s)</h2>
<h2>How do you deal with a grown son who disrespects you?</h2>
<p>Dealing with a disrespectful grown son is challenging, and it can take a physical and mental toll on you as a parent. Young adults do not always grow up to their parent's expectations, and it can hurt a great deal; it can also cause broken relationships within your family. s</p>
<p>If your grown son has no respect for you and treats you horribly, you have every right to cut ties with them. Yes, no one likes to give up on their children, but sometimes you have to use tough love.</p>
<p>One thing that you should take into consideration is if there are mental health issues or abusive alcoholic tendencies within your family. Your son may very well have a mental health condition or be using substances that cause him to be disrespectful.</p>
<p>While you cannot tell a grown child what to do, you can set rules for how you expect to be treated.</p>
<h2>How do you let go of a child who is resentful toward you?</h2>
<p>If your child hates you and is adamant about ruining your life, you could be in an emotionally abusive situation. Family who treat each other cruelly are just as bad as strangers who do mean things; however, it hurts more when it takes place in your family life.</p>
<p>If your growing child creates turbulence within your family life, you need to consider letting go of their toxic energy. While it can be hard, sometimes it is best for everyone involved.</p>
<h2>Why do children abandon their parents?</h2>
<p>Children abandon their parents for a variety of reasons. Young people often want to test the waters and see what life is like outside of the control of family rules. As young adults, they want to express their independence. While this is perfectly normal, completely abandoning their parents is something entirely different.</p>
<p>As a parent, you need to determine if there are mental health issues involved with your child. If you feel or discover that medical conditions are causing the family separation, it can be very challenging to get your child back under your roof or into your life.</p>
<p>If you have lost contact with your child entirely, it can be hard to track them down or reconnect until they are ready to reunite.&nbsp;</p>
<h2>What are potential sources of disrespect in children?</h2>
<p>Young people are not always respectful individuals. They are still learning how to maneuver through the world, and sometimes they hurt their family and friends. As adults, however, there is no excuse for disrespect.</p>
<p>Sometimes mental health issues are to blame; maybe your child has a mood disorder that has gone undiagnosed.</p>
<p>Other times, people can just be mean. Perhaps their family and friends have not been the best influences, and they choose a negative path in adulthood.</p>
<h2>Why is lying a sign of disrespect?</h2>
<p>Lying is one sign of disrespect. People who start to lie at a young age often struggle with truth-telling as they get older, especially if they have a mood disorder. While every child lies as they are growing up, pathological lying or lying out of disrespect is much different.</p>
<h2>How do I fix my broken relationship with my son?</h2>
<p>If you want to fix your broken relationship with your son, you need to stay strong; reuniting is often a bumpy road, but a worthy effort if you commit to it.</p>
<p>If your broken relationship substantially hurt your family life, counseling may be an excellent option to repair the relationship.</p>
<p>Personal by family counselors shows that if people are willing to attend counseling, there is a good chance that a healthy family relationship can resume at some point in the future. On the other hand, if one of the family refuses to go to counseling, the family may always have some level of strain.&nbsp;</p>
<h2>How long does parent/child estrangement last?</h2>
<p>There is no simple answer to this question. Parent/child estrangement can last for weeks or years. It all depends on what caused the situation in the first place and what efforts either side of the equation are willing to make. While it is challenging to be in the position, there is no rule book for family tension and estrangement; it may go on indefinitely.</p>
<p>If you are willing to reach out and try to repair the relationship do not be surprised if your child is not in the same place yet. Hopefully, in time, you can both come to a better agreement than not speaking altogether.</p>
<h2>How often should a son call his mother?</h2>
<p>Every family is different. While mothers often what their children to call them, not everyone enjoys communicating over the phone, especially kids who have grown up with texting capabilities. It is far easier and faster to text someone &ldquo;hi, how are you?&rdquo; than to call; however, you may disagree and enjoy a verbal conversation.</p>
<p>If you have not heard from or seen your son since earlier this year, it may be worth calling them just to check-in and see how they are doing. Perhaps work is hectic, or they are dealing with issues within their family unit.</p>
<p>While pressuring your son to call you more often might seem natural, perhaps trying to come up with a &ldquo;guide&rdquo; for when he will call you may be more receptive to him. Perhaps one Sunday a month he can call or at least on holidays or special occasions if your son lives too far away to travel often.</p>
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Defined as "feeling intense or passionate dislike for someone," hate is not a term we typically want to associate with how our loved ones feel about us, particularly from our...

<p dir="ltr">As time passes, some people find that they hate their husbands and don&rsquo;t know how to work past those feelings. You may harbor negative emotions toward your husband for many reasons, but you can identify and potentially overcome the issues together with effort and honesty. Read on to explore why you may hate your husband, tips to help you reshape your feelings, and how therapy can offer support and knowledgeable experience through the process.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Do you really hate your husband?</h2>
<p>Couples can become so comfortable together that the <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/0092623X.2012.751072">emotional intimacy and romance</a> in the marriage fade. If you feel your marriage isn't meeting your needs, you may resent or even hate your husband. Ask yourself if you actually hate him or if it seems that way because you feel misunderstood, ignored, or taken for granted.<strong id="docs-internal-guid-ed87d1ac-7fff-109b-8788-95c2bfa49083"> </strong></p>
<p><img class="alignnone" src="https://advice.cdn.betterhelp.com/md/why-do-i-hate-my-husband-is-there-anything-i-can-do-about-it-1_.jpg" alt="" width="969" height="664"><div class='article-cta article_cta  '><div class='article_cta_container'><div role='heading' aria-level='2' class='article_cta_text'>Do you hate your husband and need help working past it?</div><div class='embedded-cta-container'><a href='/get-started/' data-cta-count='0' class='btn btn-primary embedded-cta'>Discuss with a couples therapist online</a></div></div></div></p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Reasons you might hate your husband</h2>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Your husband doesn&rsquo;t act or react the way you expect him to or how you'd like.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">He doesn&rsquo;t pay attention to you, and you don&rsquo;t feel like a priority in his life.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You&rsquo;ve fallen into a comfortable routine, and the spark between you has faded.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The marriage doesn&rsquo;t give you what you need emotionally.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">He&rsquo;s proven himself irresponsible or unreliable.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The lines of communication in your marriage don&rsquo;t work anymore.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You stopped spending time together, and the emotional intimacy faded.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">He only seems to care about himself.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You may have dysfunctional views of what marriage should be.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You&rsquo;re unhappy, and he&rsquo;s unwilling to listen or change.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">There&rsquo;s no compromise anymore. It may feel like you&rsquo;re always the one to sacrifice.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You&rsquo;re not friends anymore.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">There&rsquo;s a lack of respect on one or both sides.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You've grown and changed, leaving you too different to blend well.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">He isn&rsquo;t meeting your sexual needs and doesn&rsquo;t seem to care that you&rsquo;re unsatisfied.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">He's stopped caring for himself and doesn't care about how he looks or if you find him attractive.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<h2 dir="ltr">What can you do to overcome hating your husband and fix your marriage</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Working with a relationship therapist is likely the most effective way to <a href="https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/what_to_do_when_you_hate_the_one_you_love">initiate meaningful changes to your marriage</a>, but you can try these tips on your own.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Examine what you want from marriage</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you hate your husband, those feelings likely stem from your needs and wants going unmet in the marriage. <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/raising-happiness/201203/hate-your-husband-or-your-wife">Evaluate what you expect marriage to provide</a> and where your relationship is lacking.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Identify why you hate him</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Working through your feelings of marital hatred can be easier once you know what they are. Examine your husband's behavior and determine what he's doing to make you feel negatively toward him.&nbsp;</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr">Forgive past hurts, heal, and let them go</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Are you holding on to old anger about past mistakes and times he&rsquo;s hurt you? Express what&rsquo;s weighing on you, acknowledge the damage it&rsquo;s done, heal from it, and forgive so you don&rsquo;t have to carry the emotional weight of it anymore.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Take responsibility for your role in the problems</h3>
<p dir="ltr">There&rsquo;s a good chance that you&rsquo;re not perfect either, and your husband isn't the only one who contributed to the current strained state of your marriage. It can be easier to move forward when you acknowledge your part in the marriage and take responsibility for how it affects the relationship.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Remember why you fell in love with him</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When you devote your mental and emotional energy to negative feelings, they&rsquo;re likely to be what you notice first and focus on, often to the exclusion of positive emotions. Try to remember the traits and habits that drew you to your husband in the first place. When you can see him in a favorable light again, find the things you love about him now.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Work on the emotional intimacy in your marriage</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you hate your husband, the emotional intimacy in your marriage is likely not intact and functioning properly. Marriage often has many layers that work separately and together to create a complex relationship between partners. It&rsquo;s easy to get caught up in everyday life and let the emotional connection between you drop in priority. Many couples don&rsquo;t realize there&rsquo;s been a <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00632/full">decline in emotional intimacy</a> until the problem is already causing significant issues.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Commit to each other every day</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Successful long-term relationships require both partners to choose each other consistently. If both of you <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167209337543">commit daily to loving your partner and making the marriage work</a>, you could reconnect and rebuild your bond.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Find practical, effective ways to communicate</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Open, honest communication between spouses is often at the core of successful, happy marriages. Being able to express your emotions, thoughts, and needs to your husband so you feel heard and understood can be an essential part of practical, effective marital communication.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Set realistic expectations</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you have <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5411291/">unrealistically high expectations for your husband</a>, you may often feel disappointed, leading to anger, resentment, and hatred. Evaluate what you want from marriage and your husband to determine if your expectations are realistic.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Focus on meeting your needs</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When it feels like your husband isn't meeting your needs and you hate him for it, focus on meeting them yourself. Prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health and well-being. You are responsible for your own mental health, so if his behavior negatively affects you, consider working with a licensed therapist to find healthy ways to process your emotions.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Practice a grateful lifestyle</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If negative emotions like anger and hatred dominate your emotional landscape, you may benefit from practicing a grateful lifestyle. Studies show that gratitude can change your outlook on life and help boost your mood. Focus your attention on the positive aspects that you like about your husband. It may help to keep a journal to track what you like most about him over time and the positive ways he impacts your life.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Prioritize time alone together</h3>
<p dir="ltr">One of the most effective ways to maintain an emotional connection with your husband is to prioritize time alone together. Plan and stick to regular date nights&mdash;and put your phone away! Studies show that many partners <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/doiLanding?doi=10.1037%2Fppm0000065">feel ignored or have a lower priority than their partner&rsquo;s phone,</a> which leads to conflict.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Recognize when the marriage is too damaged to save</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you've consistently tried to reconnect with your husband and made no progress, it may help to know some signs that the damage in your marriage is too extensive to save the relationship.&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You don&rsquo;t communicate with each other, and you feel like he doesn&rsquo;t listen to you.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">People have commented that you aren&rsquo;t acting like yourself.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You both instinctually look for faults and reasons to attack instead of ways to compromise and work together.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You avoid making eye contact or physical contact with your husband when possible.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Most of his behavior irritates you.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Verbal abuse toward each other is common.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You find yourself thinking or acting like a single person.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p class="disclaimer">If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Reach out for professional help</h2>
<p dir="ltr">When you&rsquo;re feeling strong negative feelings toward your husband, you may benefit from speaking with a qualified relationship therapist to help you navigate the process together with the support and guidance of a mental health professional.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How couples therapy can help your marriage</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Many people feel like they hate their husbands after years of marriage. If you&rsquo;ve been experiencing negative emotions toward your husband for a while, consider working with a licensed therapist online through a <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">virtual relationship therapy platform</a> like Regain. Individual or couples therapy can help you identify and address the underlying issues causing you to hate your husband. Treatment can help you build communication skills to express your needs and feelings, coping skills to manage stress, and conflict resolution strategies to help you work through issues together.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Recent American Psychological Association studies show <a href="https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/02/online-therapy">no substantial difference between online and in-person therapy results</a>. Virtual treatments are often much less expensive and involve shorter waiting times before speaking with a professional. Teletherapy platforms provide users with connection to a comprehensive selection of therapists. If you don&rsquo;t find someone who makes you feel comfortable and blends well with your situation and personality on the first try, it's simple to connect with another therapist. Studies also show that&nbsp;<a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.773030/full#:~:text=Given%20that%20there%20were%20no,face%2Dto%2Dface%20therapy.">couples therapy is equally effective online and face-to-face</a>, increasing relationship satisfaction and decreasing depression, anxiety, and stress symptoms.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway&nbsp;</h2>
<p dir="ltr">You aren&rsquo;t alone if you&rsquo;ve been feeling like you hate your husband. Many people experience similar emotions after years of marriage. The information presented in this article offers insight into why you may hate your husband, what you can do to overcome the feelings, and how couples therapy can help you rebuild a healthy marriage.&nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2><strong>Is hating your husband normal?</strong></h2>
<p>Love and hate are complex emotions, and nearly everyone has feelings of <a href="https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a29426622/i-hate-my-husband/">hating your spouse</a> at one time or another. But it&rsquo;s important to remember that the word &ldquo;hate&rdquo; is often used when we don&rsquo;t truly mean it. During a heated conflict, you may feel like you hate your partner. But that doesn&rsquo;t mean that you truly hate them. Oftentimes, using the word <a href="https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a27334316/i-hate-my-husband/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">&ldquo;hate&rdquo;</a> really means that you are deeply irritated, annoyed, or hurt by something your spouse has done.</p>
<p>Feeling that you hate your husband or hate your wife on occasion during a conflict isn&rsquo;t necessarily a huge problem. Still, if you constantly feel like you hate your significant other, it may be time to see a couple's therapist or evaluate your relationship.</p>
<h2><strong>Why do I feel hatred towards my husband?</strong></h2>
<p>Oftentimes, feeling that you hate your husband or hate your wife results from feeling <a href="https://hernorm.com/i-hate-my-husband/#:~:text=One%20of%20the%20most%20common,feel%20he%20is%20neglecting%20you.&amp;text=Perhaps%20you%20feel%20like%20your,it%20has%20turned%20into%20hatred.">neglected</a> by them. Your physical and/or emotional needs may not be met in your relationship, which can lead to feelings of hatred. You may not feel supported or loved, which can lead to feelings of hating your spouse. It&rsquo;s not <a href="https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a27334316/i-hate-my-husband/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">uncommon</a> to feel this way, and it&rsquo;s possible to work through these types of issues. You can start by having an honest and respectful conversation about what you feel is lacking in your relationship. Couples counseling may also help turn the feelings of hate back into love.</p>
<h2><strong>How do you tell if you hate your husband?</strong></h2>
<p>A few key <a href="https://www.bustle.com/articles/104309-10-signs-youve-given-up-on-your-relationship-because-youre-slowly-starting-to-hate-yourself-when">indicators</a> that you hate your husband or wife include having no desire to be intimate with them, not caring what they&rsquo;re up to or where they are, constantly fighting, constantly feeling sad or angry in regards to your spouse, and acting like you&rsquo;re single and frequently fantasizing about other people.</p>
<p>However, the word <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/i-hate-my-partner">&ldquo;hate&rdquo;</a> is often used to stand for deep annoyance or irritation rather than true hate. It&rsquo;s important to examine your feelings carefully. Do you really feel like you hate your spouse, or are you just frustrated with them? If you&rsquo;re struggling to figure out what you&rsquo;re feeling, it&rsquo;s a good idea to talk to a counselor or therapist who can help you see the situation from a new perspective and a more objective viewpoint.</p>
<h2><strong>Is it normal not to like your spouse sometimes?</strong></h2>
<p>It&rsquo;s completely normal to have feelings of dislike towards your spouse on occasion. As long as they aren&rsquo;t frequent or constant, it&rsquo;s okay and natural to feel this way. When you feel like you <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/i-hate-my-partner#:~:text=The%20bottom%20line,be%20a%20good%20next%20step.">hate</a> your spouse, take some time to acknowledge your feelings. Initiating intimacy may also be a way to stop feeling like you hate your husband or wife. <a href="https://www.bustle.com/articles/135153-7-hacks-for-those-times-when-you-dont-like-your-partner">Connecting</a> on a deeper level can remind you why you actually love your spouse. You can also try reminiscing together and doing things that you used to enjoy as a couple. Reignite the spark, and the word &ldquo;hate&rdquo; may disappear from your vocabulary!</p>
<h3><strong>What are the signs of a toxic marriage?</strong></h3>
<p>One sign of a <a href="https://www.survivedivorce.com/toxic-marriage">toxic</a> marriage is if your spouse has a two-sided personality, and you can never predict whether it&rsquo;ll be a good day or a bad day with them. If you feel like you&rsquo;ve lost your identity in the marriage, that&rsquo;s also a sign of toxicity. Cheating, abuse, and other forms of betrayal are also toxic. If you&rsquo;re experiencing abuse, know that there are resources out there that can help you. You can start by calling the domestic violence hotline at 1.800.799.SAFE.</p>
<p>If you&rsquo;re interested in saving a <a href="https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a31098253/signs-of-toxic-marriage/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">toxic marriage</a>, you will most likely need the help of a professional marriage counselor. However, in some cases, separation or divorce may be the best option.</p>
<p><strong>How do you know your marriage is over?</strong></p>
<p>A big <a href="https://happilycommitted.com/signs-your-marriage-is-over/">indicator</a> that things are not going well in your marriage is if you look at each other like opponents rather than teammates. If you feel isolated or if your wife or husband doesn&rsquo;t seem to care enough to put any effort into the marriage, that may be a <a href="https://www.familyeducation.com/life/deciding-divorce/how-do-you-know-when-your-marriage-over">sign</a> that you&rsquo;re headed towards divorce. Love and hate are complex and can be difficult to deal with, but even if you see some warning signs in your marriage, you may be able to turn things around. With the help of a counselor and effort from both partners, it is possible to turn your marriage from unhealthy to happy.</p>
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As time passes, some people find that they hate their husbands and don’t know how to work past those feelings. You may harbor negative emotions toward your husband for many...

Why Do I Hate My Husband, And How Do I Fix It?

<p>Most kids have said it. In fact, if your child has yet to say it, it is likely only a matter of time. The phrase "I hate you!" is a statement that most parents hear at least once in their lifetime. How do you handle such a statement? The response you provide is likely what will either correct or egg on the behavior.</p>
<p><img style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;" src="https://advice.cdn.betterhelp.com/md/how-to-respond-when-your-child-says-i-hate-my-parents-1_.jpg.jpg" alt=""><div class='article-cta article_cta  '><div class='article_cta_container'><div role='heading' aria-level='2' class='article_cta_text'>Not sure how to respond when your child says hurtful things?</div><div class='embedded-cta-container'><a href='/get-started/' data-cta-count='0' class='btn btn-primary embedded-cta'>Speak with an online therapist</a></div></div></div></p>
<p dir="ltr">As parents, you and your partner (or co-parent) are responsible for addressing the "I hate you" claim logically rather than emotionally. In other words, don't become emotional and say something like "I hate you, too." This is not likely to help the situation. If you have trouble addressing the issue without feeling excess anger of your own, you might seek professional help in the form of a&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">counselor</a> who can walk you and your partner through exercises that help you keep your cool.</p>
<p dir="ltr">For your children to learn how to keep from exclaiming hurtful things, you as the parent must learn how to do the same. Understanding where these kinds of statements come from is crucial to getting to the core of the problem. It is only then that you can respond in the best manner.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do children say they hate their parents?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">There are a variety of explanations that can shed light on a child's cruel words. Know that your child does not truly hate you, despite their claims made in the heat of the moment. In fact, they probably love you more than anything else. There are several reasons that those words could have been uttered, none of which involve actual hate. Those reasons include difficulty dealing with emotions and simply trying to make you feel how they feel.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Emotions are a hard concept to tackle for most young people. Even adults struggle with keeping their reactions to emotionally challenging situations within acceptable social standards. It is easy to get upset and say something that you don't mean. If adults make this mistake, how can we expect children not to? As parents, you are responsible for teaching your child how to avoid saying hurtful things.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Your child might be feeling angry, sad, or hurt. However, they are not equipped with the necessary skills to tell you how they feel, so instead, they say they hate you. It is a hurtful statement, but not one that holds a lot of meaning&mdash;at least, there is no meaning in the words themselves.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Meaning, rather, comes from the way the statement is said. How the words are said can give you some insight into why they came from your child's mouth. Pay attention to how the words are said: are they angry or sad? Understanding how your child is truly feeling is the start of knowing how you should react.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When your child says this phrase as an attempt to get you to feel like they feel, they are likely waiting for a certain reaction. These anger-fueled words might initially make you angry. Since this is what your child is possibly looking for, it is best not to respond in this way. Responding properly can be the key to deescalating the situation. You are also setting an example with how you respond.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">A parent's response</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">Being informed that your child hates you can induce any number of reactions. Some parents get angry. Others are instantly saddened. You might even freeze up. It is important to understand that how you respond teaches your child how to respond as well. Lead by example.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Before you say anything in response to your child's declaration, remember to note how they feel. Getting a read on their emotions can dictate how you should respond. The words you say can be helpful, but your demeanor is equally important.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Whether your child is angry or sad, you must remain calm. Act as an example for your child to follow. If you get worked up, your child will likely respond in kind. Take a deep breath if needed, and then get on your <a href="https://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/health/HealthyLiving/young-children-and-communication">child's eye level</a>. Depending on their age, you might squat, pick him or her up, or sit down together so that you can communicate face to face.</p>
<p dir="ltr">What is it about communicating with a child in this way that helps the situation? Simply put, you are no longer talking down to your child. Instead, you can talk on the same level and make him or her feel as though you are listening to what they have to say. Getting on their level also makes them feel like you aren't just an authority figure&mdash;you're mommy or daddy, and you care. It's important that you actually listen and have the body language to prove it.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once you and your child are on the same level, you can express your understanding. You might say, "I understand that you are feeling angry" or "I can see how sad you're feeling." If you know exactly why your child is feeling this way, help to explain it to them. This could include saying, "You're upset because I won't allow any more screen time, and that made you feel mad." Your child might know that they are mad but are unsure why or how to express that anger in a structured way. By teaching your child to express their feelings in the most straightforward way&mdash;by saying it&mdash;you can help them identify the cause of their anger and encourage the skill of talking about their feelings.</p>
<p dir="ltr">By helping your child to identify the cause of their anger, you can better prepare them to handle emotions in the future. Today, many adults keep their feelings bottled up because they were never taught how to explain what they feel. Failing to express emotions in a constructive way at any age can cause difficulty in relationships.</p>
<p dir="ltr">During your conversation, you must address how saying that they hate someone can hurt others' feelings. Try to have your child imagine how they would feel if those words were directed at them. Walkthrough with them how to stand in someone else's shoes and better understand the hurt that words can cause. Talk about those feelings and how to handle them. It's a big learning moment in your child's life, so be sure to focus on them and the situation at hand. This is not a conversation to be had while glancing up from social media scrolling or making dinner. It must be taken seriously.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When your child is feeling angry, tell them that they can say, "I'm angry." You can take it a step further and teach your child to explain why they are angry. At a young age, it is the parent's role to help your child deal with their emotions constructively. You can talk about bad ways to handle anger and good ways. It can even become a game of sorts so that your child wants to learn. If they are still currently upset, teach them how to calm themselves. For example, when your child expresses anger, sit with them and take a few slow, deep breaths. The more parents work with their child on this kind of response, the more they will do it by themselves when the situation calls for it.</p>
<p dir="ltr">By guiding your child in the most effective ways to manage anger and other emotions, they can do better handling them in the future. This may even help to prevent any future exclamations of hate. While assisting your child in dealing with their emotions can make these kinds of outbursts less frequent, it is important to remember that children are people and far from perfect. They might grow up to express emotion healthily, but it is a long road to get there.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Online therapy for teaching children communication skills</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">Teaching children to communicate their feelings is a lifelong skill that needs to be practiced. Handling the situation properly can expand into other life events as well. It provides the opportunity to address feelings and prevent other similar bad behavior. When a child has a better grasp of feelings, they understand their own and might learn to understand how others feel.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you need help working through parenting issues, consider talking to a therapist through <a href="https://regain.us/get-started">Regain</a>. Regain is an online therapy platform that offers affordable, convenient support. You can work alone or with your parenting partner. Sessions can take place at a time that works with your schedule, and your therapist can connect with you via text, phone call, or video chat.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Many parents have turned to online therapy for help. Parenting isn't easy, but online therapy is easy to access. No matter where you are, you can find an online therapist who can help. Online therapy can be just as effective as in-person therapy in handling a vast array of issues.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A child who understands how words can hurt is less likely to inflict emotional hurt on someone else. By responding to outbursts appropriately as a parent, you child can learn to control their reactions to emotions better and they may be less likely to utter hurtful phrases&nbsp;</p>

Not sure how to respond when your child says hurtful things?

What are good ways for parents to help their children constructively express their emotions? Here’s how to respond when your child says I hate my parents.

How to Respond When Your Child Says "I Hate My Parents" | Regain

<p dir="ltr"><strong>FAQS</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Is it ok to yell at your child?</p>
<p dir="ltr">Yelling is something many parents do to correct a child&rsquo;s behavior. Sometimes it feels like the only way but yelling solves nothing. It may immediately make them stop whatever they are doing, but it doesn&rsquo;t teach them healthy ways to do the right thing. If anything, it will only make your child fear you. <a href="https://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/stop-yelling-at-your-kids#1">Research</a> has shown that yelling at a child can have just as bad an effect on them as hitting them. A child that is yelled at is more likely to behave more problematically. Yelling happens out of frustration, and yelling at a child doesn&rsquo;t teach them healthy communication skills. Most likely, they will learn that it is okay to yell. There are healthier ways to correct a child by establishing rules and consequences ahead of time and using positive reinforcement to motivate your child to do the right thing in the first place.</p>
<p dir="ltr">How does an angry parent affect a child?</p>
<p dir="ltr">An angry parent is likely to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/parents-yell-affect-child-development-laura-markham/">affect a child</a> negatively. A parent who constantly yells and is angry instills fear in a child. When a child experiences fear, they will go into fight, flight, or freeze mode. The more regularly they experience fear, this will become ingrained in their behavior, and they will begin to treat others the same. An angry parent can teach a child that it is okay to yell, which will affect a child&rsquo;s future relationships and interactions as they grow, teaching them negative behavior patterns.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Why is my child so angry?</p>
<p dir="ltr">You may be wondering why your child seems so hostile and angry. Maybe they always seem to be angry at you, they take it out on their younger sibling, or they constantly say, &ldquo;I hate my family.&rdquo; This can happen at any stage in their life. Sometimes, it is frequent as they become teens in high school and are finding themselves. There could be an underlying reason. It&rsquo;s important to let your child know they can talk to you about problems they may be facing and assure them that they are not alone. They could be struggling with anxiety, depression, or even eating disorders. It is not always easy getting your child to open up. They may have difficulties defining their feelings or expressing them, so it comes out as anger. Talking to a therapist could give you the tools and resources to get to the root of the anger and teach your child healthy methods for managing their anger, health, and well-being.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">What is a toxic parent?</p>
<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/toxic-parents#What-are-the-effects-of-toxic-parents?">Toxic parents</a> are those with behavior patterns that cause their child to feel guilt, fear, or obligation, which ultimately negatively impacts their development and future relationships. A toxic parent may also display self-centered behavior, always putting their needs first before their child&rsquo;s. They could be physically or verbally abusive, including hitting, yelling, or using threatening words. A toxic parent can greatly affect a child&rsquo;s development. Your parents are your foundation for your life and teach you how to connect with people in the future. If what a child learns is toxic behavior from a very young age, they will view this as normal and be conditioned to act the same in the future. The good news is that these toxic patterns of behavior can be unlearned. If you feel you exhibit some of these behaviors, find a therapist or family therapist to help you get on a better path to a happier family dynamic.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">What to do if you hate your parents?</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel like you hate your parents, that is never a good feeling. They are supposed to be your most trusted confidants and the foundation of your life. It can leave you feeling alone and empty. Possibly your parents have caused you emotional or physical trauma growing up. The hate comes from a strain in your relationship with them. The relationship may not always be repaired, but hate is very heavy to hold on to. Sometimes we have to forgive to be able to move on and find peace. It&rsquo;s important to find a treatment center or family therapist to understand where this feeling of hate comes from and if the relationship can be repaired.</p>

Most kids have said it. In fact, if your child has yet to say it, it is likely only a matter of time. The phrase "I hate you!" is a statement that most parents hear at least once in their...

How to Respond When Your Child Says "I Hate My Parents"

<p>For better or for worse, life is what you make it. The decisions that each individual makes will greatly contribute to the quality of their life. Sometimes, people's paths to go down are influenced by experiences that they've had in the past. If these experiences were constructive and positive, the individual is more likely to go down a path that mirrors this. However, when someone has been through negative and painful experiences, this can lead to them going down some very dark, dangerous roads.</p>
<p><img src="https://advice.cdn.betterhelp.com/md/cro-why-do-i-hate-my-lif-1-SR.jpg" alt="" width="917" height="612"><div class='article-cta article_cta  '><div class='article_cta_container'><div role='heading' aria-level='2' class='article_cta_text'>Want to stop hating your life, but not sure how?</div><div class='embedded-cta-container'><a href='/get-started/' data-cta-count='0' class='btn btn-primary embedded-cta'>Talk about it with a Regain therapist</a></div></div></div></p>
<p dir="ltr">If you have reached a point where you despise your life, this can be tough to deal with. The good news is that you've taken the very first step, which is acknowledging the issue at hand. Next comes figuring out why you despise your life. In truth, many scenarios could explain why you feel this way about your life. Maybe you're surrounding yourself with the wrong people; perhaps you're&nbsp;<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/self-sabotage">self-sabotaging</a>&nbsp;without realizing it, or maybe you need to find a purpose to motivate you each day.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Either way, it goes, there are several details which you should consider; these details will help you come to terms with why you despise your life.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">&ldquo;Why do I hate my life?&rdquo;: Possible considerations</h2>
<p dir="ltr">"I <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-hate-myself-identifying-and-managing-self-hatred/">hate myself</a>&nbsp;and life, what should I do?"&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/what-is-hate-are-you-in-a-love-hate-relationship/">What is hate</a>? It is an intense emotional response often linked to anger and disgust. When you've arrived at a place where you constantly say "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/psychology/i-hate-my-body-what-do-i-do/">I hate my body</a>," "I hate my friends," "I hate the world," and "I hate my life," you may feel as though all hope is gone. It can be easy to lose faith, but the good news is that there is always another tomorrow. This means that you have the power to examine your life, determine which changes you need to make, and figure out how to regain happiness and purpose.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Your inner circle</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Your friends, family, coworkers, and other people in your life will greatly impact how you feel from day to day. Each person is the average of the five people they most frequently associate with. When you despise your life, it might be a good idea to consider what type of people you're spending your waking hours with.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Is your inner circle comprised of individuals who are uplifting, compassionate, and kind? Are the people you're most frequently spending time with encouraging you to be your best self? How do you feel when you're around your inner circle? The chances are that examining your inner circle will help you get a clearer picture of the people you're spending time with more often than not. If you notice problems in your inner circle, don't be afraid to make changes, even if this means letting go of certain people.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Your self-esteem</h3>
<p dir="ltr">How do you feel about yourself? How do you feel about your qualities, capabilities, and potential to succeed in life? Have you experienced thinking "I&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-dont-like-myself-5-ways-to-address-self-esteem-issues/">don't like myself</a>" when you face the mirror? Whether or not you have high self-esteem or low-esteem is something that will directly impact your life. When you feel confident in who you are and what you bring to the table, you carry yourself in a manner that conveys this. Likewise, when you lack confidence and struggle with low self-esteem, this shows, even if you don't want it to.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">The good news about self-esteem is that it goes hand-in-hand with your inner circle. This means that when you have strong, positive relationships, you're much likelier&nbsp;to <a href="https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2019/09/relationships-self-esteem">experience higher self-esteem</a>. Of course, your self-esteem should not be exclusively linked to your relationships; however, there is good news in knowing that positive, ongoing interactions with others can help boost your self-esteem.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Your goals</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Believe it or not, having goals can truly make a difference in the quality of your life. More often than not, goals help provide a purpose and inspire people to keep going, even during the days where it may seem easier to give up. Goals can pertain to all areas of your life, from your relationships, work to anything that you view as valuable and worthy of achieving in your life.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you have goals, using these goals to motivate and inspire yourself is always recommended. If you're missing goals or struggling to develop meaningful goals in your life, think about areas that you'd like to improve and then take things from there.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">What you'd like to do that you're not doing now</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you despise your life, the chances are that you'd like to be doing something which you aren't currently doing. This isn't necessarily a bad thing either; once you're able to pinpoint what you'd like to be doing, you can make the right choices to get yourself on the right path. Granted, this is not always easy, and getting to do what you want to do in life may require time, patience, and new habits. The good news is that you are capable of achieving anything you put your mind to. Hating your life is not the best feeling globally, but it's something that you can change.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once you figure out what you'd like to do that you're not doing now, you'll likely find that having the right support system makes a significant difference. The right people in your corner can encourage you during tough days, remind you that you're capable of living the life you want, and motivate you to be your best self. In many ways, this goes back to taking a closer look at your inner circle and ensuring that you're surrounding yourself with people who are good for you.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">What led you to where you are now</h3>
<p dir="ltr">In most cases, people don't just wake up one day and suddenly hate their lives. There are typically events and circumstances which gradually pile up and result in someone hating what their life has become. In many cases, this isn't always easy to detect as it's happening, but a breaking point arrives at some time.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">If you're interested in learning why you despise your life, think about what your life has been like thus far. What type of people have you been around? What decisions have you made? Are you in an environment that is conducive to your well-being and mental health? Each of these factors makes a significant difference and contributes to whether or not you love or despise your life.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Making the rest of your life the best of your life</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Make no bones about it: you are powerful and capable of turning the rest of your life into the best of your life. It may not be an easy, smooth-sailing process, but you can do it. Considering the five details listed above will certainly aid you in learning why you despise your life. There is no generic answer, and there is no right or wrong answer to the question. Each life is unique, and each individual has a different story. No matter what your story has been thus far, you have the ability to write your future and determine what happens next.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Improving your life is a process that should not be rushed. Far too often, people look around at others and feel that their lives should mirror what someone else appears to have. The reality is that nobody's life is perfect and comparing your behind-the-scenes events to another person's highlight reel does you no favors. Getting your life to where you want it to be is your journey and yours alone. You're not in competition with anyone else, and there's no race to see who makes it to the finish line first.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Seek help for mental health conditions like bipolar disorder</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Figuring out why you despise your life and taking steps to improve your situation are noble endeavors. These are great steps to take, and they speak volumes about your character. With that being said, there's no shame in accepting outside help and having someone to guide you as you go down this road. Friends, relatives, and a trusted inner circle can certainly make positive differences; however, working with a therapist can be especially beneficial, particularly in this situation.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Support your mental health through online therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Regardless of which challenges you're up against in life, if you're open to accepting outside help, you're strongly advised to sign up for <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">online therapy</a>&nbsp;with Regain.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Working with an online therapist will provide value to you in multiple ways. First, it will allow you to connect with a specialist whose area of expertise lies in helping people improve their lives. Online therapy will secondly allow you to gain valuable feedback which is uniquely applicable to your situation. Additional benefits of working with an online therapist include regular support regardless of what you're going through and having a trusted confidant at any time, regardless of your schedule or other impending obligations.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Life can be full of obstacles and challenges, but you don't have to face them independently. What Regain can do for you is help you gain the necessary tools for turning your tough times into valuable experiences. By transforming your obstacles into opportunities for growth, you will be setting yourself up to rise above whatever is in your path. Regardless of what you're up against, you can achieve true happiness and begin to love your life again. In case you discover that you have <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/why-do-i-feel-such-hatred-of-people-and-what-can-i-do-about-it/">hatred of people</a>, and struggling to deal with it, Regain.us is an online platform that can offer you counseling regarding with this concern.</p>
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Want to stop hating your life, but not sure how?

Why do I hate my life? Consider your circumstances and any mental health conditions like bipolar disorder or depression and seek support in therapy.

“Why Do I Hate My Life?” Seek Mental Health Support For Bipolar Disorder | Regain

<p><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2>What do you do when you don't like your life?</h2>
<p>When you feel as if negative days and events keep piling up, it can <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/anxiety/anxiety-and-depression-what-does-it-feel-like-to-drown/">feel pretty similar to drowning</a>. Taking extra time to focus on self-care and being thankful for positive days are key factors in combating these negative feelings. Try to surround yourself with a helpful support group rather than critical of your actions and make time to do things you enjoy more frequently. Seeing these positive changes won&rsquo;t make you stop hating life right away, but good days will slowly feel more normal with the help of mental health professional.</p>
<h2>What do you call someone who hates life?</h2>
<p>You may know someone that seems to consistently say, &ldquo;I hate my life&rdquo; or &ldquo;I&rsquo;ve hated my life lately.&rdquo; While some people may play the phrase off as a joke, it&rsquo;s important to know that your friends or family could be suffering from severe depression or difficult circumstances.&nbsp; Life-changing events can take a heavy toll on someone&rsquo;s mental health, and sometimes it can feel like negative occurrences are piling up.</p>
<h2>Can you love the person you hate?</h2>
<p>Consider what makes you &ldquo;hate&rdquo; this person. Try thinking to yourself, &ldquo;Is it their choices and life I hate? Am I jealous or put off by their behavior and actions?&rdquo; Whether this is a friend, family relative, or maybe even yourself, remember that hating their life may be a reflection of what you feel is missing in yours<a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/happiness/my-life-is-great-so-why-cant-i-be-happy/">. </a></p>
<p><a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/happiness/my-life-is-great-so-why-cant-i-be-happy/">According to BetterHelp</a>, this can even contribute to you missing out on happiness in your own life. What can you do to bridge that gap with this person and start a new life without holding negative feelings? You don&rsquo;t necessarily have to love them, but removing negativity in your life sometimes starts with adjusting your own feelings.</p>
<h2>Why&nbsp;is life so difficult?</h2>
<p>Life isn&rsquo;t always what we expect. In fact, if you find yourself thinking, &ldquo;I hate my life&rdquo; or "I'm <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/its-all-too-much-feeling-like-giving-up-on-life/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">giving up on life</a>," you&rsquo;re not alone. We don&rsquo;t always have ways to cope with negative events, leaving us feeling that these problems pile up quicker than we can fix them. However, it's sometimes easier than some people realize when it comes to making positive changes in your life. &nbsp;When looking for ways to make your life easier, <a href="https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/25-simple-ways-enjoy-your-life.html">experts at LifeHack suggest</a> trying to enjoy life in ways that people typically don&rsquo;t think about.</p>
<h2>Why is life so unfair?</h2>
<p>You may hate school, feel like your social life is lacking, or you&rsquo;re still struggling to find a purpose in life. You may even ask yourself "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/why-do-i-hate-everyone-9-reasons-you-may-feel-this-way-and-how-to-overcome-these-feelings/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Why do I hate everyone</a> too?" It&rsquo;s easier to hate life and see the negatives than motivating yourself to think positively and roll through bad times. This could be because we don&rsquo;t say &ldquo;I love my life&rdquo; enough or dwell on the positive events. Occasionally, hating life may feel more natural.</p>
<p>However, it&rsquo;s important to remember that there are resources to help you adjust around negative events and feel more comfortable in a difficult situation. Reaching out to a mental health professional can give you the tools and mental stability you may need to see life in a more positive light.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What does it mean if someone says they hate their life?</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do I have a sad life?</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">How can I change my life?</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">What do you call a person who hates life?</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">What happens to the brain when you hate?</h2>
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<h3 dir="ltr">Why do I hate my life?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">Does hate come from fear?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">Why do I think about the person I hate?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">Will I ever be happy living with bipolar disorder?</h3>
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For better or for worse, life is what you make it. The decisions that each individual makes will greatly contribute to the quality of their life. Sometimes, people's paths...

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<div style="background-color: #ecf0f1; padding: 20px;"><em>&rdquo;All relationships have their ups and downs. It&rsquo;s important when you are experiencing a &lsquo;down&rsquo; phase in your relationship that you do not simply give up. Many times, if you are willing to work through the issues with your spouse, you can get through such a difficult period together and even <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">become stronger</a> for it.&rdquo; - <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/aaron-dutil/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Aaron Dutil, LPC</a></em></div>
<p dir="ltr">Maybe you've been married to your wife for five years, or maybe you&rsquo;ve been married for 25. No matter how long it&rsquo;s been, sometimes, there may come a point where your feelings towards her seem to have shifted and the love you once felt has faded. Some marriages may even reach the point where you feel as though you might hate or resent your spouse.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you have found yourself feeling this way, what's next? Some couples might decide to throw in the towel and get divorced. Others might want to try to rekindle the love they once shared. But figuring out how to make a change if you&rsquo;re feeling such negative things towards your spouse can be challenging. Here, we&rsquo;ll offer a few suggestions for how to move forward.</p>
<p><img class="size-medium" src="https://advice.cdn.betterhelp.com/md/i-feel-like-i-hate-my-wife-what-should-i-do--1.jpg"><div class='article-cta article_cta  '><div class='article_cta_container'><div role='heading' aria-level='2' class='article_cta_text'>Work through negative feelings about your marriage in therapy</div><div class='embedded-cta-container'><a href='/get-started/' data-cta-count='0' class='btn btn-primary embedded-cta'>Match with a licensed therapist here</a></div></div></div></p>
<h2 dir="ltr">&ldquo;I feel like I hate my wife&rdquo;: What to do?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you are feeling like you hate your wife at this point, consider trying some of the suggestions below:</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Identify your true feelings</h3>
<p dir="ltr">To start, it may be helpful to try to dig in and really&nbsp;<a href="https://hbr.org/2016/11/3-ways-to-better-understand-your-emotions">reflect on your feelings</a>. Hate is a strong feeling. Is what you are feeling really hate? Can you pinpoint why you are feeling the way you do? What thoughts come up when you think about your wife? Are you angry at her for something specific, or is it a more general feeling? Try to really investigate your thoughts and emotions to get a clearer sense of what might be going on. You may find that you are actually feeling frustrated, overlooked, hurt, belittled, or something else besides pure hate. Discovering more about these thoughts and feelings may help you figure out how to move forward.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Have a conversation with your wife</h3>
<p dir="ltr">After you&rsquo;ve done some reflection on what you&rsquo;re feeling, it may make sense to bring your concerns to your wife. This may depend on the situation and your relationship, but if, for example, you are feeling like she does not value your opinion, you may want to express that concern to her. Or if you feel like she is taking you for granted, you can express that to her. It is possible she may have her own concerns about the relationship, so you can use this as an opportunity to listen to each other&rsquo;s perspectives and work together to try to figure out how to strengthen the relationship. That said, while honesty can be very important, it is likely not a good idea to tell her that you &ldquo;hate&rdquo; her&mdash;this is a very strong sentiment and can be very hurtful. Try to be mindful of her feelings as you express your concerns.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Consider couples therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you are grappling with intensely negative feelings toward your wife, it can be useful to seek additional support in navigating this situation to get at the root of the issue and find ways to address it. You can seek counseling on your own, or you can ask your wife to attend couples counseling with you.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If your negative feelings toward your partner are very strong, you and your partner may prefer to take some physical time apart, while still hoping to work on the relationship. With online therapy through <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>, you and your partner can join the same therapy session from different locations, so you don&rsquo;t have to be in the same physical place if you don&rsquo;t want to.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">And, research has found online therapy to be an effective option for couples experiencing relationship distress. One such study concluded that an online couples therapy program was &ldquo;effective in significantly <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2016-03880-001">improving both relationship and individual functioning</a>.&rdquo;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Plan more date nights</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When you first started dating your wife, you likely went on dates regularly. It could have been a few nights a week or just once a week, but you likely both put forth effort in getting to know one another. It was exciting and new. However, over time, maybe life and other responsibilities have gotten in the way, leaving little time for romance. This can be a common occurrence in many relationships.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s possible that some of your negative feelings toward your wife could stem from feeling disconnected from her and like there is little romance or intimacy in your relationship anymore. If this might be the case in your relationship, try to make an effort to plan more date nights. These don&rsquo;t have to be extravagant events&mdash;you could even choose to do a date night at home&mdash;but putting in the intentional effort and focusing on each other may make a big difference. Allow yourselves to get to know each other again by dating each other. You might be surprised at the results.</p>
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<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Start a new hobby together</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Have you found that the things you used to enjoy with your wife are no longer enjoyable? Maybe it was a hobby that you've grown out of or grew tired of. Maybe she lost interest in it, so you no longer have that connection. It could be that neither of you has time for it anymore. Whatever the case, starting a new hobby with your wife can create a space where you can connect over something different.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You might try hiking, dance classes, or start painting. If you are unsure of what hobby to start, you could try something new once or twice a month and see what sticks. One new hobby can open up several new doors for you. You might find yourself reading and discussing books on the topic, planning getaways to experience your new hobby in a new place, or expanding your knowledge together in various ways. By developing your new interests together, you might begin to feel closer and make strides in improving your marriage.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr" role="presentation">Consider making changes in yourself</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If you are feeling very unhappy in your marriage, you may also consider turning your reflection inwards. In some cases, it may be worth asking yourself if there is perhaps some other internal reason why you might be feeling so negatively toward your wife. That said, it is important to note that this does not apply if you are in a relationship with a toxic or abusive partner.&nbsp;</p>
<p class="disclaimer">If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.</p>
<p dir="ltr">However, if you are in a healthy relationship with a good partner, you may consider whether your negative feelings towards her could have some other explanation. For instance, are you feeling frustrated and unfulfilled in your work? Or, are you feeling down about yourself and perhaps taking it out on her? Are you feeling constantly stressed and on-edge, and you seem to snap at the slightest inconvenience? If any of these or similar concerns seem to be at play, you may want to consider how you can address them. You could try various self-care strategies such as meditation, yoga, and exercise; you could consider seeking out a more fulfilling career; and you could meet with a therapist individually to work through your concerns.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Relationships can go through highs and lows, and at some point, some people may feel that the love they once felt for their partner has been replaced with hate or resentment. If this is something you&rsquo;re feeling, you can consider some of the suggestions above to help you move forward. For additional support with navigating relationship concerns, you can meet with a relationship counselor online.&nbsp;</p>

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<h2 dir="ltr">Frequently asked questions (FAQ)</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">What should I do if I am resentful of my wife?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you feel like you hate your spouse, you can try to work through whatever situation(s) or event(s) may be causing these feelings. You can try to focus on making changes to your marriage or attending counseling with your partner to work through the causes of your emotions. You could potentially start a new hobby to spend time doing different things together or begin going on date nights with each other again. You may also consider having a conversation with your partner about your concerns.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What do you do when you feel negatively toward your wife's family?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Many people have conflicted feelings about their in-laws. If you find yourself hating your wife's family, it may help to try to understand the reason. Is it because you feel misunderstood by them? If they don't get you, it could become frustrating to communicate with them. Or maybe you feel like an outsider. Or perhaps you feel like you have to prove something to them. How you handle this situation and move forward will vary from one person and family to the next, but it may be helpful to try to understand the reason, cautiously broach the subject with your partner, and try to find ways to work through it together. Perhaps you might feel more comfortable if you had a chance to get to know them more, or perhaps you&rsquo;d feel better if you established clear boundaries with them. If you need support, meeting with a couples therapist may help.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What is silent divorce?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A &ldquo;silent divorce&rdquo; occurs when a couple stays legally married, despite not having any more emotional or physical attachment to keep their relationship going, when the love and connection that once bound them together disappears and what&rsquo;s left is just the legality of being husband and wife.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Is it better to stay in an unhappy marriage?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Staying in an unhappy marriage can make things worse for both sides, but it&rsquo;s up to the person to decide if they should still stay, hopeful that someday the marriage will eventually be happy once more. If you&rsquo;re a person who can&rsquo;t decide whether to stay or leave an unhappy marriage, it&rsquo;s recommended to talk to a marriage counselor or professional to assess problems within your marriage.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Questions to ask your therapist about negative feelings in a relationship</h2>
<h3 dir="ltr">Who to can I talk to if I feel like I hate my wife?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">Why do I feel resentful toward my spouse?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">How can my wife and I work through conflict?</h3>
<h3 dir="ltr">Can therapy help me work through negative feelings about my relationship?</h3>
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<p dir="ltr">When someone doesn&rsquo;t directly express their anger, displeasure, or disagreement, but instead expresses it indirectly, through sabotage and negativity, they may be acting passively aggressive. While this may not seem like a big deal once in a while, passive-aggressive behavior can cause friction and conflict, leading to resentment and confusion in relationships. Romantic relationships are no exception. If you notice your partner consistently acting passively aggressive, that may be a sign of underlying issues that need to be addressed.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">With this in mind, in this article, we will explore passive-aggressive behavior in more detail: what it is, how it can manifest in relationships, and how couples can take steps toward clearer, healthier communication.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What is passive aggression?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Passive aggression, also known as passive-aggressive behavior, is a form of communication in which a person doesn't directly communicate negative emotions like disagreement, frustration, or resentment. Instead, they show their displeasure indirectly, in a way that can run counter to their actions. For example, a person may agree to do something, and then use subtly hostile behavior to express their disagreement, even though they outwardly agreed to the activity. It&rsquo;s common for people to act passively-aggressively out of fear of conflict or as a form of manipulation.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Passive-aggressive behavior can lead to challenges and misunderstandings in relationships. It can also prevent couples from resolving conflicts. When one partner acts aggressively without directly addressing the reason for it, their significant other may experience confusion and hurt feelings. The passively-aggressive partner, on the other hand, may experience increasing feelings of resentment and frustration when the issue isn&rsquo;t addressed, despite not actively communicating the problem to their partner.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Frequent passive aggression between partners may point to underlying communication issues, and, depending on the circumstances, can even be a sign of a toxic or abusive relationship.</p>
<p class="disclaimer">If you or a loved one is experiencing abuse, contact the <a href="https://www.thehotline.org/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Support is available 24/7.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What can passive-aggressive behavior look like?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">When someone is acting passively aggressive, it can be tricky to recognize, because they will typically avoid directly expressing what&rsquo;s bothering them. Instead, they may resort to indirect behaviors to show their unhappiness, such as:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Sarcastic comments</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Backhanded or insincere compliments</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The silent treatment</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Sulking or acting like they're &ldquo;in a funk&rdquo;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Intentionally sabotaging or interfering with agreed-upon activities</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Guilt-tripping</li>
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<p dir="ltr">When asked what's bothering them, someone who&rsquo;s acting passively aggressive may insist that nothing is wrong, that they&rsquo;re just in a bad mood, or that they&rsquo;re just imagining things, only to continue behaving in a way that&rsquo;s subtly hostile.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">How can couples manage passive-aggressive communication?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Healthy communication is a key component of healthy relationships. If you notice your significant other acting passively aggressive, the following tips may be helpful for changing the dynamic:</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><strong>Avoid getting defensive.</strong> When your partner is being sarcastic or patronizing, it can be tempting to respond emotionally. However, this can lead to arguments, and at times make the conflict worse. It may be helpful to take a step back and get some space before you return to the interaction.</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><strong>Try not to make assumptions.</strong> Because passive-aggressive behavior can make it hard to know what a person is thinking or feeling, it may be important to not make judgments based on their outward behaviors. Aim to avoid jumping to conclusions until you've had a chance to talk through the issue.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><strong>Practice empathy.</strong> Sometimes, people act passively aggressive because they are afraid to bring up an issue directly. Sitting down with your partner and raising the issue gently and empathetically may be useful for helping them open up about what's bothering them.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr" role="presentation"><strong>Make a habit of healthy communication.</strong> One of the best ways to prevent passively-aggressive behavior in relationships is to make a habit of managing disagreements in an open and healthy way. By creating a dynamic where it&rsquo;s safe for your partner to openly disagree with you, you can set the stage for healthy conflict resolution in the future.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Because passive-aggressive behavior can sometimes point to other issues with a couple's communication or relationship dynamic, seeking outside help, such as couples counseling, may also be a useful step. Speaking with a licensed relationship therapist can allow both partners to express their feelings in a neutral, safe environment, get to the bottom of ongoing issues, and learn to address them in a more constructive way. A counselor can help couples develop the tools for strengthening their communication and avoiding misunderstandings, both during therapy and in the future.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Due to the cost of traditional couples counseling, which can be upwards of $200 per session&mdash;and is not typically covered by insurance&mdash;an increasing number of couples are opting for online therapy through platforms like <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>. With prices starting at $65 per week, and the ability to speak with a counselor from wherever is most convenient, couples may find virtual counseling to be a more accessible alternative to in-person therapy.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Studies have found online couples therapy to be an effective alternative to traditional counseling. One study, published in 2020 in Frontiers in Psychology, found that&nbsp;<a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02992/full">online couples therapy led to an increased therapeutic alliance between couples and their therapists</a>. Another, published in 2022, found that <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.773030/full">couples who received counseling online saw similar improvements as couples who received in-person counseling when it came to relationship satisfaction</a>.</p>
<p><img class="alignnone" src="https://advice.cdn.betterhelp.com/md/my-partner-hates-my-dry-sense-of-humor-what-should-i-do-3_.jpg" alt=" dry sense of humor" width="922" height="894"><div class='article-cta article_cta  '><div class='article_cta_container'><div role='heading' aria-level='2' class='article_cta_text'>Is passive-aggressive behavior affecting your relationship?</div><div class='embedded-cta-container'><a href='/get-started/' data-cta-count='2' class='btn btn-primary embedded-cta'>Get advice from a licensed counselor</a></div></div></div></p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Passive-aggressive behavior refers to a person communicating negative emotions indirectly, usually through subtly hostile words and actions. Forms of passive aggression may include backhanded or sarcastic comments, sulking, guilt-tripping, or sabotaging tasks or activities. In a relationship, passive aggression can lead to misunderstandings, resentment, and a lack of conflict resolution. By practicing empathetic and healthy communication, and avoiding getting defensive or making assumptions, couples can set the stage for more open communication in their relationships. For couples who would like outside support in managing passive-aggressive behavior, counseling&mdash;either in-person or through platforms like <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>&mdash;may also be a valuable resource.&nbsp;</p>
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My Partner Hates My Dry Sense Of Humor - What Should I Do? | Regain

<p><strong>Dry sense of humor frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<p><strong>What does it mean to be a dry person-is it different than a dry sense of humor?</strong></p>
<p>A dry person is someone who may or may not assimilate into society because they&rsquo;re uninterested in mainstream hobbies or fascinated by things that others find boring. They also might not understand humor, meaning they&rsquo;re not always laughing or joking around. However, they&rsquo;re usually quick-witted when it comes to sarcasm and satire, plus they&rsquo;re full of personality.</p>
<p>Dry humor is hard to pull off, after all, so it sometimes gets misconstrued when a person with a dry sense of humor speaks.&nbsp; Many people in this world can be described as having dry humor &ndash; one of the main types of humor involves responding to otherwise hilarious stimuli with little to no emotion. It&rsquo;s one of the more difficult humor styles because it requires a keen understanding of context, satire, and sarcasm. Thus, a&nbsp;<strong>dry sense of humor</strong>&nbsp;can come across as rude or lacking a personality altogether. In many cases, a dry person actually has lots of character and spunk.</p>
<p>According to the dictionary, a dry sense of humor jokes often involve subdued language and/or gestures to communicate with wit. Thus, a dry sense of humor must possess a dry personality either consciously or subconsciously. A dry sense of humor and a dry personality are not the same things, though, as one describes a person&rsquo;s silly side while others describe their overall mannerisms. For help determining whether you or someone you know has a dry sense of humor or not, or for guidance dealing with it, speak to a licensed relationship therapist as soon as possible.</p>
<p><strong>What is the meaning of witty?</strong></p>
<p>The dictionary says that &ldquo;witty&rdquo; means having a quick and inventive response during verbal banter. It does not pertain to intelligence, per se, however. People with a relatively low level of intelligence can still be witty as long as they&rsquo;re familiar with a dry sense of humor. In fact, dry humor is one of the most difficult humor styles to master, so anyone who uses it can be classified as somewhat smart. The best dry humor examples often use witty, deadpan humor to communicate satire and sarcasm, frequently hiding shortcomings otherwise. Thus, wittiness is a skilled form of humor that integrates intellect with input.</p>
<p>A dry sense of humor does not always involve rudeness or a lack of personality but instead focuses on the less obvious human interaction factors while using empathy as the foundation. Some of the best dry humor&nbsp;<a href="https://www.myenglishteacher.eu/blog/what-is-a-dry-sense-of-humor/">examples</a>&nbsp;actually offer insights into the struggles of the human condition, with clever commentary about common problems. So, to find out how to deal with this dry sense of humor and wit, speak to a licensed relationship therapist as soon as possible, or speak to a person with a&nbsp;<strong>dry sense of humor</strong>&nbsp;as often as you can.</p>
<p><strong>Does someone with a dry sense of humor have no personality?</strong></p>
<p>Everyone has a personality. It&rsquo;s just that some people use a form of humor called dry humor. This personality trait is actually quite cunning and clever. It&rsquo;s a difficult type of humor to master, though, and it&rsquo;s sometimes misconstrued as spitefulness, anger, contempt, or bitterness despite its origins to the contrary. A person with a&nbsp;<strong>dry sense of humor&nbsp;</strong>may not seem very lively at parties, but their brains always work on something witty.</p>
<p>Thus, people who enjoy humor, jokes, and banter that involves sarcasm, satire, and dry humor are commonly described as having no personality. However, dry humor is quite the opposite of zero characters or a constantly level temperament. A person with a dry sense of humor is often extremely intelligent, interesting, and insightful about many things. Still, if you feel bothered by dry humor or want to change your ways, there&rsquo;s hope. Speak to a licensed relationship coach for tips on how to deal with dry humor examples.</p>
<p><strong>How do I stop being a dry person?</strong></p>
<p>According to the dictionary, dry people often enjoy things that other people find boring, and they often find boring what other people are interested in. That, in turn, can cause problems with work, family, and love. Many people seek to change their dry sense of humor and personalities to fit in better with mainstream society.</p>
<p>If you&rsquo;re a person with a&nbsp;<strong>dry sense of humor</strong>, fret not. You have choices, including either staying that way or doing something about it. Dry personalities aren&rsquo;t always bad, though. Because dry humor is so difficult to master, many people don&rsquo;t understand or appreciate it. Thus, it may take time to assimilate your natural demeanor with expected norms.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, here are three ways to speed up the process:</p>
<p><strong>#1. Learn what it means to enjoy dry humor.</strong></p>
<p>In the dictionary, dry personalities are often described as off-putting, standoffish, or insulting. They&rsquo;re masters of their sarcastic and/or satirical craft, but they also come across as lacking empathy and respect. A person with a&nbsp;<strong>dry sense of humor</strong>&nbsp;isn&rsquo;t mean; they&rsquo;re just direct and witty. So, regardless of which side of the equation you&rsquo;re on, learn this humor meaning to wield its powers more effectively.</p>
<p><strong>#2. Study another type of humor.</strong></p>
<p>Try to find other things that make you and/or your friends laugh. Dry humor has its place but understands that&rsquo;s it&rsquo;s not appropriate for all occasions. Thus, it&rsquo;s important to learn different ways of communicating the same thing. Dry humor is usually hard to convey without offending somebody, especially in delicate situations. So, teach yourself new forms of wit to avoid unnecessary mishaps.</p>
<p><strong>#3. Speak to a licensed therapist for personality modification.</strong></p>
<p>If you&rsquo;re still struggling to change your ways or develop different facets to your sense of humor, speak to a professional counselor for help. They can work through your humor triggers to uncover other ways of communicating agreement or whimsy. Then, you can begin &ldquo;wetting&rdquo; your personality to enjoy more substantial social interactions.</p>
<p><strong>Is witty smart?</strong></p>
<p>You can be witty without being smart, and you can be smart without being witty. That&rsquo;s because wittiness is just a type of humor that involves quick, clever responses interpreted as humorous by the audience. Depending on the situation, a witty person may actually be seen as inappropriate, obnoxious, or insulting &ndash; none of which are very smart. That&rsquo;s especially true where wittiness is used to convey dry humor.</p>
<p>In general, being witty or having wit means answering smartly with facetiousness or familiar vernacular. However, because of the quickness of response, many witty people are misunderstood as exceptionally intelligent. Thus, undue pressure is often put on those with wit to be smart or perform at higher levels. It is not the same thing as wise or experienced, though, so that&rsquo;s a slippery slope with expectations that can lead to mental illness. Speak to a licensed counselor for help if you&rsquo;re feeling overwhelmed.</p>
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<p>When you find yourself in this type of cycle, you can end up saying, "I hate relationships." While it may be true that you have not had positive interactions up to this point, the truth is that the relationships themselves aren't the problem, it's the issues that arise in each of the relationships that you find yourself in.</p>
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<p>To break free of this cycle, you must first understand where these problems exist, whether they be issues that you are dealing with or issues in your significant others. To gain a better understanding of what typically causes others to hate relationships, here is a guide that will walk you through some of the more common relationship dysfunctions and how you can properly address them.</p>
<h2>Issue #1. A lack of communication leaves thoughts and feelings unexpressed</h2>
<p>While relationships allow you to grow closer with another individual, it is still necessary for you to communicate with them if you expect to solve conflicts and improve your connection over time. If you bottle up your feelings or make other areas of your life a larger priority than actively speaking with each other, you and your partner will gradually build up these unresolved issues until they result in a continuous strain on the relationship. You may notice this in your relationship if you feel as though you are not listened to by your partner, or some issues continue to remain unresolved over time.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: Set aside specific times with your partner during the week to talk about anything and everything.&nbsp;Keeping communication open will help to improve your bond and make it easier for you to solve <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201904/signs-serious-relationship-problems" rel="nofollow noreferrer">issues </a>with your partner in the future!</p>
<h2>Issue #2. There is always a conflict or disagreement between you and your partner</h2>
<p>Some couples rarely get into arguments, and some seem to be fighting during every moment of the relationship. When you find yourself locked in a constant battle with your partner, your relationship can bring you more stress than relief, which may create a rift over time that further separates you and your significant other. These conflicts may be a number of things, but the reality of the situation is that many of these conflicts are not being properly addressed or discussed.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: While arguments are a natural part of relationships, it is what you do with that argument that will dictate where your relationship ends up. Whenever you and your partner disagree, make an effort to sit down and evaluate the situation with a cooler head. What is the conflict? What could you do to fix it? What could your partner do to fix it? Is it a problem that you can fix or is it an emotional issue that you or your partner may need to work on and fix? Whatever the issue may be, you must take the time to work it out. If conflict is allowed to build, it may become too much of a problem down the road.</p>
<h2>Issue #3. You feel as though you are not a priority in your relationship</h2>
<p>There are many people in relationships who feel as though they are not actually in one. Their partner may put other priorities above them, spend little time with them, or pay attention to other things while they are in their presence. This can make the other person feel like they are not important, which can put stress on the relationship. Unfortunately, some relationships may not be that strong, and this could be a sign that the two of you are incompatible. However, that is not true for everyone, especially if you have been seeing someone for a fair amount of time.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: Make sure to communicate with your partner and let them know how you are feeling about the current state of your relationship. Often, the other person may not be aware that there is an issue with the way you two are interacting. Take some time to figure out how you, too, can become more connected, whether that be through more special date nights throughout the month or just by having more time together that requires you to interact with each other physically. If the priority isn't there, walk away from the relationship and find a partner who does value your connection.</p>
<h2>Issue #4. There is a lack of trust in your relationship</h2>
<p>A lack of trust stems from one of two issues. Either one partner is feeling insecure and is projecting those insecurities onto their partner or their partner has done something major in the past that has made the other partner feel that they can't be trusted. Both of these issues can be difficult to deal with as it is hard to rebuild trust once it has been lost or to initially build trust if you find it hard to open up to the other individual. If the relationship is strong enough, however, it can be fixed.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: If you or your partner has trust issues and insecurities, it is important for the individual to work on themselves and to determine where these issues are coming from. Even if your partner is a trustworthy individual and would never cheat on you, these insecure thoughts will not allow you to accept that truth, which can break down the relationship over time. If your partner has done something in the past that has caused you not to trust them (but you still want to maintain the relationship), express this to your partner and work on strengthening your relationship. If they made a mistake, but they are fully-committed and apologetic, you will be able to build trust over time.</p>
<h2>Issue #5. Past resentments continue impacting the present</h2>
<p>Conflicts that develop at the moment are easy to solve because they can quickly be worked out and managed. Past conflicts, on the other hand, will keep rising to the surface during every other argument and make it harder for you to enjoy being with your partner fully. When you and your partner bring up these past issues that can't be fixed, it does little to solve those conflicts, as well as the new arguments that started the fight. As was stated above, continuous conflict is one of the key killers of relationships.</p>
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<p><strong> Solution</strong>: Sit down with your partner (during a time when you are both calm and open to discussion) and talk about all of the things that have been bothering you. Reach back into some of the things that are continually being brought up into arguments and work through those. What did your partner do or say? How did that make you feel? How can we move on from this? Although you can't go back and fix these problems, you can make a conscious effort to forgive so that your relationship can move on from old issues that no longer have any relevance between you and your partner. Then, make an effort to speak your mind when things bother you now and take the time to work these conflicts out as they come.</p>
<h2>Issue #6. There's a power imbalance (or potential signs of abuse)</h2>
<p>Relationships should always be balanced, but some partners seek to create a power imbalance to maintain control over the other person. This may come in more subtle forms, such as only going to another person's house or only doing what they want to do. It may also come in more visible forms, such as controlling finances or telling the other person what they are and are not allowed to do in their daily lives. In the more extreme power imbalances, they are often <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4768593/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener"> forms of abuse</a>, which can range from psychological to physical harm.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: If your partner spends more time in their lives than they do in your, ask them if you can start leveling the playing field by spending time at your place or by doing things that you may want to do. Much like with partners who are not actively engaged, these individuals may not be aware that they are creating a power imbalance and would be happy to spend more time in your life. If there are any signs of abuse, however, you must leave the relationship immediately and seek help. Abuse is not to be tolerated in any capacity.</p>
<h2>Issue #7. There's an inability to develop intimacy and vulnerability</h2>
<p>People who have had healthy attachments throughout their lives will be able to trust others and open up to them rather easily. You can tell when you are in a relationship with another individual such as this because they trust you with more vulnerable aspects of themselves. People who have insecure attachment styles have trouble opening up to others and may guard themselves in an attempt to avoid getting hurt by others. Even though you may make several attempts to get in, they will continuously push you away or avoid you to themselves. When one partner doesn't allow themselves to be vulnerable, it can make the other partner feel like they have done something wrong to have deserved coldness and separation.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: People are only going to open up to others if they are willing and ready. If your partner refuses to open up and is unwilling to work on themselves, the only thing you can do is find someone who is more vulnerable. If you are the partner who is having trust issues, reaching out to a counselor can help you understand some of the causes underlying these issues so that you can begin to trust others. If you are willing to put in the work, your relationships will be much more enjoyable!</p>
<h2>Issue #8. You and your partner spend too much time together</h2>
<p>On the other end of the spectrum, there are people whose insecure attachment styles cause them to cling to their partners in an attempt to keep them in the relationship. Even if one partner has no intention of leaving, the other partner will worry that there is a possibility and will make an effort to keep them around as much as possible. Although this will be great for one partner, it can be exhausting for the other partner, which may force them into doing what the insecure partner was looking to prevent in the first place.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: While you and your partner do need to spend time together to maintain your relationship, you will still need to have your own separate lives. Alone time is vital to mental health and will allow more room to breathe in the relationship. Feeling suffocated will only lead to dissatisfaction and a further need to get away from your partner. As long as you have a life inside and outside of the relationship, you will be able to have a healthy relationship with others.</p>
<h2>Issue #9. You feel like two different people or your lives are incompatible</h2>
<p>Passion and looks can lead us into a relationship, but they are not a true measure of whether you and another person should be together. You may get into a relationship with someone, only to find that you have very little in common with the other person. Even if you like them, they may have different interests, values, or lifestyles that can make it hard for you two to find things to do or enjoy together. In addition to these types of issues, you may have lives that feel incompatible as well. You may have different schedules that can make it hard to get together or daily demands that put stress on the relationship. Despite an attraction and an existing relationship, these issues can make it hard to keep a relationship going.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: If the issue lies in a lack of mutual interests, try to approach things with an open mind, and ask your partner to do the same. Being with someone who has different interests can open up your world to a wide variety of new activities that you may have not even known you wanted to pursue. If the issue lies in different lifestyles, sit down with your partner to coordinate a better schedule and figure out where you each can compromise to create more time together. Keep in mind, however, that this may not always be possible, and you may need to seek out someone else who is better suited for your lifestyle.</p>
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<h2>Issue #10. There is an imbalance in give and take</h2>
<p>When you are in a relationship, you are expected to give a certain amount of time, and attention to your partner and your partner is expected to return the same amount of time and affection. However, you may find yourself in a relationship where you are giving and giving but getting very little in return. These kinds of dynamics can lead one partner to feel underappreciated despite doing everything in their power to make their partner happy. It can also cause resentment over time that puts a strain on your relationship and leads to increased conflict.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: Talk to your partner about the imbalance and bring it to their attention. If they are invested and they are aware of this issue, they are going to be willing to do more so that there is an even amount of giving and receiving. If they are not interested in doing this, there is nothing that you can do to change this. Make sure that you are not constantly giving if you are not getting anything back in return. Much like they don't expect themselves to spend any time or attention on you, you shouldn't be spending unnecessary time or attention that isn't going to be recognized or appreciated.</p>
<h2>Issue #11. There's a lack of responsibility or unhealthy behaviors</h2>
<p>Not everyone we are going to meet is going to have their lives together. Some people may have poor financial habits or behavioral problems that cause a multitude of issues in their own lives. Others will have vices such as smoking, drinking, or drug usage that can result in even more dangerous and problematic situations. When they come into our lives in the form of a partner, their issues no longer affect just their lives. They affect us, as well. The problem that many people have with these kinds of individuals is that they may feel responsible for their well-being or they may believe that they can fix them in some ways. This is rarely the case.</p>
<p><strong> Solution</strong>: Unfortunately, there is not much that you can do for people who lack responsibility or who have dangerous vices. If this is a relatively new relationship, you should choose to do what is best for you so that you do not suffer any ill consequences as a result of your relationship with this person. If the relationship is with a person that you have known for a considerable amount of time, you may want to try to help them. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide how to deal with this kind of situation.</p>
<h2>Find support online for navigating relationship dysfunction</h2>
<p>Facing the same types of relationship issues over time can make you feel like there are no good relationships out there. While your experience up to now has been undesirable, understanding the reasons why you are not forming great relationships can help you break the cycle so that you can reap all of the amazing benefits that relationships have to offer.</p>
<p>That said, theory and application are two very different things. Are you having trouble understanding how to change some of the issues causing damage to your relationship? If so, consider reaching out to Regain. <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener"> Regain</a> is an online counseling platform dedicated to helping you how to understand better yourself and the issues facing your relationships. If you want quick to valuable counseling that will help you improve your relationships, click on the link above to start today!</p>

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<p dir="ltr">No one ever said dating was easy. You may think it's hard when you are still in school, but it can become even more challenging as a full-fledged adult. Insecurity, unrealistic expectations, and getting friend-zoned are just a few of the obstacles that you may need to overcome to succeed in the dating world. You may have more control than you think over the situation, though. Here are some common dating obstacles and what you can do to overcome them:</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You have low self-esteem</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">Low self-esteem can rob you of your confidence and leave you feeling like you&rsquo;re lacking in areas like physical attractiveness or intelligence, for example. It could also cause you to lower your standards and end up dating a girl who doesn't have the characteristics you want. Low self-esteem can also lead to issues like social anxiety, which can make it difficult to approach a woman.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Your self-talk and the way that you think about yourself can have a significant impact on your self-esteem. If you want to boost your self-esteem and start having more success in the dating world, you may need to address the way you talk to yourself. For instance, you might want to stop saying negative things to yourself and replace these with positive affirmations.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you aren't used to paying attention to your thoughts, this can seem like a tricky thing to do. Working with a licensed therapist can help you to learn how to recognize problematic thought patterns. A mental health professional can also help you learn other ways to boost your self-confidence and self-esteem.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You&rsquo;re looking for the perfect woman</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Another obstacle that you might be running into when dating is unrealistic expectations. You don't want to lower your standards due to low self-esteem and insecurity, but there are times when you might need to alter your expectations.</p>
<p dir="ltr">There is no such thing as the perfect woman. However, many people may pass up opportunities with women who might be good partners because they don't check off every box on their list. Since no one is perfect, you&nbsp; may need to set realistic expectations.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Consider making a list of the most important attributes in a partner. Then, make another list of qualities that you prefer, but aren't 100% necessary. This strategy can help you figure out what characteristics you can compromise on, and which are deal-breakers.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Fear or anxiety may also be causing you to pass up great women. You may make up excuses in your mind for why she isn't the right one, but the real culprit could be fear of commitment or vulnerability.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You don't know where to look</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Once you aren't in school anymore, it can be harder to find women to date. You may not come across any potential dating partners in the course of your day at work, so if you head directly home afterwards, your choices may be limited.&nbsp; To remedy this situation, you might consider getting involved in an activity that you enjoy. Perhaps you could join a gym or find a group of people with similar interests as you.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">When looking for dating opportunities, it may be a mistake to overlook the workplace. Work romance may be frowned upon at your place of business, but you may not necessarily have to date someone that you're working with. It could be that you let a trusted coworker know that you are looking to connect with someone. Perhaps they have a friend or relative they think would be a great fit.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You can also try online dating sites. You probably know of a couple in your life that met through a dating app. If you haven&rsquo;t used one before, it may feel strange finding a date this way, but it could prove worthwhile. To increase your chances of getting a good match, you may want to be honest and upfront when answering the questions on the app and setting up your dating profile. This may not be the time to give answers you think your date will want to hear.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You move too fast</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;re dating because you want to be in a relationship, then you may be rushing things by trying to move the relationship along too quickly. You may want to try playing it cool and avoid giving off the impression that you&rsquo;re desperate. For example, asking every girl out that you cross paths with might be sending the wrong signal. You may want to keep in mind that girls want to feel special, not like just another one of your potential dating prospects.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Getting to know a girl before asking her out might be the best course of action. You may want to try to get a feel for whether she would be a good fit for you before suggesting a date. Once you get that first date, consider taking things slow. Take your time and let things naturally progress on their own.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You aren't succeeding in life</h2>
<p dir="ltr">It might be hard to find the right girl when you are barely getting by in life. It could be helpful to consider what a woman looks for in a potential partner. She may want someone that she is attracted to who is both dependable and self-reliant. You may want to ask yourself whether you are able to check off these boxes.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you are unmotivated in life and aren't trying to improve your situation, then you might not be putting your best foot forward. Your physical appearance may be enough to get you a first date, but it might not be enough to build a relationship on.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You might want to spend less time trying to find the right girl and more time trying to become the right partner. If you feel that you are lost or stagnant in life right now, talking to a therapist can help you get moving again. This could be a wise decision to make for your own self-improvement, but it can also help you in your dating life.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">You don't want to commit</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">It could be that you don't feel that you're ready to settle down. Or perhaps you were hurt in the past and you are afraid of getting hurt again. Either way, a lack of commitment can make it difficult for a girl to want to continue dating you. It might not be a problem right off the bat, but as the relationship progresses, she may want to see some level of commitment.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Other past experiences could also cause a lack of commitment. It could be that you watched your parents go through a messy divorce when you were a child and don't want to experience the same thing. Being able to identify and work past these situations may help you when it comes to your dating life.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you want to overcome this dating obstacle, you may need to get to the root of the problem. If you aren't ready to commit, you might take a step back from dating for a while to figure out why. If you've been hurt in the past, then consider working with a counselor to see what you can do to recover from that hurt.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Benefits of online counseling</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;re facing <a href="https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2020/08/20/key-takeaways-on-americans-views-of-and-experiences-with-dating-and-relationships/">dating challenges</a>, talking about it with a therapist may be uncomfortable. You might feel like a failure, for example, or simply have a hard time being vulnerable with a stranger. A clinical setting like a therapist&rsquo;s office may exacerbate these feelings. This is where online counseling may have certain advantages. Many people report feeling more at ease during online sessions. It might also be more convenient since there&rsquo;s no need for a commute.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Online therapy is a legitimate form of therapy, too. A <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/15228830802094429">comprehensive meta-analysis</a> showed no significant differences in terms of outcomes when comparing internet-based mental health interventions to those administered in person. The study followed nearly 10,000 cases spanning varied mental health challenges and conditions.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Dating might not always be easy, and there may be some obstacles to overcome. Addressing some potential problem areas could go a long way in helping you find the right woman. If you find you need additional support, <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">reach out to a Regain counselor</a> and begin your journey to a fulfilling and healthy relationship.&nbsp;<strong id="docs-internal-guid-3f5addbb-7fff-e1af-9b19-e1d17f537b20"></strong></p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions (FAQs)</strong></p>
<h2><strong>What are signs that a girl doesn't like you?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>If you&rsquo;re on a date with a beautiful woman who you are really starting to like, but you are fearful she doesn&rsquo;t like you back, it can be heartbreaking. Before you jump to any conclusions, you can check to see if there are any real signs that this is the case. Here are some signs a girl might not like you:</p>
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<li>She doesn&rsquo;t look animated; it may just be that she doesn&rsquo;t have a very bubbly personality, but if you notice that she isn&rsquo;t responsive to your questions or doesn&rsquo;t look like she&rsquo;s enjoying herself, she may not like you back.</li>
<li>She doesn&rsquo;t touch you often or shrugs off your touch. Some women absolutely dislike physical touch in public whether they really like you or not. However, this may also be a sign that she doesn&rsquo;t like you.</li>
<li>She doesn&rsquo;t ask you questions about yourself. When women don&rsquo;t seem interested in your interests, it can be a sign that they don&rsquo;t like you. You deserve to find a partner who is interested in your life.</li>
<li>She doesn't initiate plans or respond to your messages. It can be a clear sign that she doesn&rsquo;t want to pursue something romantic if she doesn&rsquo;t respond to your invitations or offer to plan dates herself.</li>
<li>When you ask her if she likes you, she tells you no. The only way to truly know if she doesn&rsquo;t like you is to have open communication. You can bring it up in a gentle way by asking if she&rsquo;s interested in pursuing something romantic with you, and if she isn&rsquo;t, it&rsquo;s important not to start to hate women, blame women, or start holding women accountable for only one woman&rsquo;s taste. Just because she doesn&rsquo;t like you, it doesn&rsquo;t mean all women hate you.&nbsp;</li>
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<h2><strong>Why do girls reject me?</strong>&nbsp;&nbsp;</h2>
<p>Girls might reject your advances if they are not attracted to you, not interested in a relationship, already in a relationship, or for any number of reasons. It usually has nothing to do with your personal worth or attractiveness and everything to do with that person&rsquo;s personal preference or the situation, as women aren&rsquo;t always interested in every man. Oftentimes when men are rejected by beautiful women, it can be difficult to see the reasoning behind it, which can lead to lower self-esteem. <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/self-esteem/art-20045374">Mayo Clinic</a> states that it is possible to work through your self-esteem issues by recognizing and putting a halt to negative thought patterns. It is important to remember the negative thoughts that might arise from having a date declined or being told she&rsquo;s not interested can be inaccurate and that you can work to improve your self-esteem by countering these thoughts.</p>
<h2><strong>Is it OK to be rejected by a girl?&nbsp;</strong></h2>
<p>Everyone who dates has likely been rejected before. It is usually a necessary part of being vulnerable and putting yourself out there. Therefore, of course, it is okay to be rejected by a girl. However, that doesn&rsquo;t always mean it feels any less hurtful.&nbsp;</p>
<p>In today&rsquo;s society, it is difficult to escape the idea that any kind of rejection means something about you personally. For example, social media might tell you that being rejected by beautiful people signifies you are not worthy of love or that you are unattractive, but this is not true. In fact, if you have these thoughts it may be a clear sign that you have negative thought patterns that lead to inaccurate thinking and low self-esteem.</p>
<p><a href="https://sdlab.fas.harvard.edu/cognitive-reappraisal/identifying-negative-automatic-thought-patterns">Harvard University</a> lists out the many different negative thought patterns you may experience, especially if you already experience low self-esteem. Being rejected can certainly trigger these responses. If you notice any of these types of thinking after you are rejected, try to remind yourself that these thoughts and judgments are inaccurate and based on your emotional response rather than any traits inherent to you. If you need help countering this type of thinking, the therapists or resources at ReGain can help.</p>
<h2><strong>How do you tell if a woman is threatened by you?</strong>&nbsp;&nbsp;</h2>
<p>Unfortunately, today&rsquo;s society often pits beautiful women against each other. Be careful not to fall into the trap of thinking that another woman&rsquo;s success means your failure, and consider the advantages of women all lifting each other up.</p>
<p>You may notice other women feel threatened by you because she insults you, tries to &ldquo;one-up&rdquo; you, or even flirts with your partner. It is important to remember that she may be feeling threatened by you because society tells us we are in competition with each other when we really are not. Oftentimes, young women are taught by social media to hate women for numerous different reasons, all of which needlessly make us feel threatened by each other.</p>
<p>Beautiful women often feel threatened by others or hate women that they see as competition. In reality, there is no competition between one another and this perceived competition only causes us to feel more stressed and lose possible friends. It is important to remember that you&rsquo;re beautiful, just like she or anyone else is, and women must stick together in order to fight the bigger fight for the happiness of all women. On international women&rsquo;s day, remember that it is our differences that make us beautiful.</p>
<h2><strong>How do you know if another woman is jealous of you?</strong>&nbsp;</h2>
<p>Jealousy is a natural emotion that many people experience regularly. You may realize that another beautiful woman becomes jealous of you when she is insecure about her own life. You may suspect a woman is jealous if she begins to try to sabotage good things that happen to you or she speaks poorly of you behind your back.&nbsp;</p>
<p>Unfortunately, society may sometimes teach women to hate women who we are jealous of or feel threatened by and rushes us to those negative feelings instead of admiration or respect. Women for years have been victims of this manufactured cattiness. New comments on women&rsquo;s rights state that this reverses our progress towards our goals. Rather than hate women who inspire feelings of jealousy, try to uplift them instead. Women absolutely have the power to love each other even when we have the same goals or interests. It is important to remember you&rsquo;re beautiful too, and all beautiful people (meaning everyone, since we are all beautiful) are worthy of love.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Do you ever feel overwhelmed by being a parent? At one point or another, many parents might. Parenting can be a rewarding experience, even if it might feel overwhelming right now. Acknowledging the feeling, therapy and honest communication can all be ways to help you enjoy a more positive parenting experience.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Read on to learn more about what could cause the feeling of frustration in parenting, and different supportive strategies you can try to enhance your overall experience.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What to consider when you feel overwhelmed by parenthood</h2>
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<h3 dir="ltr">Acknowledging parental frustration with a child</h3>
<p dir="ltr"><strong id="docs-internal-guid-8b7a932f-7fff-152e-de5d-08884b1665ba"></strong>There are days when a parent might think, I hate being a mom. This does not mean, however, that they hate their children or the process of parenting. They might feel frustrated that they do not have more support, or be overwhelmed with how their child is acting that day.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Acknowledging these feelings rather than assigning a judgement on them can be a helpful way to move past them into a more healthful space and attitude.&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Dealing with guilt and finding hope</h3>
<p dir="ltr"><strong id="docs-internal-guid-e842acf4-7fff-3354-2678-da7dea69ae1f"></strong>If you are experiencing guilt for feeling the way that you do; you might consider taking the time to understand that you&rsquo;re not alone in feeling this way. Generally, these challenges will not last forever. Your baby can eventually sleep through the night, and so might you. Seasons of difficulty may give way to seasons of peace and joy as you lean into your child&rsquo;s next stage of development.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What are some reasons that you may say, &ldquo;I hate being a mom&rdquo;?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Here are some of the most common reasons why you may feel overwhelmed in parenthood: .</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You feel like you have to be perfect at it</h3>
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<p dir="ltr">If you feel that you need to be the perfect parent, you might begin to feel hopeless or frustrated at the perceived lack of progress to a near impossible goal. Generally, no parent is truly &ldquo;perfect.&rdquo; Many parents work to do the best they can for their children in any given situation &mdash; socially, financially and otherwise.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Acknowledging the inability to be perfect does not mean that you&rsquo;re not doing a good job, though. Simply doing your best and making an effort can be supportive to both you and your child(ren).</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You&nbsp;feel exhausted all the time</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Having children can be completely exhausting. No one generally can prepare you for how tired you will be after having a baby. If you&rsquo;re in a season of exhaustion, you might consider reaching out for additional help and support as you work to navigate the stage. Experts recommend that you sleep when the baby sleeps so that you don&rsquo;t become too fatigued. Naps can also <a href="https://www.sleepfoundation.org/pregnancy/sleep-deprivation-and-postpartum-depression">help</a> to ward off feelings of nervousness and depression in some cases. Working with your doctor to create a supportive plan and network of &ldquo;teammates&rdquo; to help you through the sleepless nights can give you a healthier and rewarding experience.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You may have underlying mental health conditions</h3>
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<p dir="ltr">If you often cry, experience feelings of hopelessness or generally lack the motivation to do everyday tasks, you may be experiencing symptoms related to postpartum anxiety disorder or <a href="https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/postpartum-depression/what-is-postpartum-depression">postpartum depression</a>. Seeking help from a professional, such as a physician or a psychiatrist, can help connect you to the tools you need to walk through this season successfully.</p>
<p dir="ltr">There are many possible contributing factors you may be encountering that can be exacerbating these conditions. For example: After having a baby, your body generally goes through significant changes. Your hormone levels might be different than they were before your pregnancy and while you were pregnant. This dramatic fluctuation can make you feel sad or mad, and may contribute to conditions such as those mentioned above. Early intervention can play a helpful role in your recovery, and may help you to enjoy parenthood all the more.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">We do want to note: All partners of any sex, gender or orientation might experience postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety disorder. Therapy can be equally effective in supporting all affected members of the family.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">You generally don&rsquo;t like asking for help</h3>
<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s not generally uncommon that parents, or people in general, have difficulty asking for help.</p>
<p dir="ltr">When people offer to help, it&rsquo;s okay to say yes. Some people might refuse help from family and friends because they want to prove to others that they can handle raising their babies independently.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Whether people offer to make you a meal or stop by the house so that you can rest or shower, saying yes does not make you inadequate. Your friends and family may genuinely want to help you, especially if they have children of their own and know what you are going through. You might consider letting them come and get some&nbsp; time with your baby while you attend to your needs for a little while &mdash; which can allow yourself to be in a better, more calm space when your child needs you later.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It can be helpful to remember that it can be difficult to take care of others if you do not take care of yourself. Parents are people, and people might often need support.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How online therapy helps those experiencing difficulty parenting</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;re feeling overwhelmed when you consider the idea of parenting, you may not feel that you&rsquo;re able to seek in-person therapeutic support. It can be a lot of work to get the children out of the house, especially when you already don&rsquo;t feel that you&rsquo;re at your most confident.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">The accessibility of online therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Online therapy</a> can be a helpful alternative that offers comparable benefits in a more accessible way to many. You can connect with your therapist through in-app messages at any time through your smart devices or home.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Online therapy for mental health and parenting difficulties</h2>
<p dir="ltr">With this option available, you may be wondering: Is online therapy effective for parenting difficulties?&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Effectiveness of online therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr"><strong id="docs-internal-guid-7587e5f0-7fff-ffe1-9480-9a5bbb0efd14"></strong>In the wake of COVID-19, many researchers have turned their attention to studying the beneficial effects of telehealth across a variety of mental health conditions. PPD and PPA occurrences and experiences were a part of this body of research, and were carefully evaluated by researchers in a flagship study from the Journal of Medical Internet Research: Mental Health and UHealth.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">It was noted that online therapy is extremely effective in supporting those living with nervousness and depressive episodes related to the condition(s),&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you&rsquo;re experiencing difficult feelings about parenting, you aren&rsquo;t alone. It can be a difficult (but extremely rewarding) process to undertake. Acknowledging the feelings and identifying the root cause can be helpful steps forward as you work to build your confidence. Online therapy can be a helpful option for parents who know that they need support but don&rsquo;t know how they&rsquo;ll find the time or resources. Regain can connect you with a licensed therapist in your area of need.</p>
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I hate being a mom! Raising a child can be overwhelming. Learn underlying reasons you may hate being a mom and where to find mental health support.

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<h2 dir="ltr">Frequently asked questions (FAQ):</h2>
<h2 dir="ltr">What is the hardest part of being a new mom?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Adjustment is typically the most difficult part of being a new mom for most, although everyone&rsquo;s journey is different. Although there are plenty of ways to prepare yourself for becoming a mom, many mothers may feel as though they are underprepared for the challenges of parenthood. This may be due to the fact that someone else&rsquo;s well-being is now a higher priority than many other things that may have been important in the past. Or, it may be due to their own prior experiences with their own families.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">How do I get help if I hate being a mom?</h3>
<p dir="ltr"><strong id="docs-internal-guid-99f7c343-7fff-7803-51ba-b990b35ad1cf"></strong>Open communication and ongoing therapeutic support can help new moms and parents alike make the adjustment in a supported and healthy way.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What makes a good parent for your child?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">The definition of a &ldquo;good parent&rdquo; can be subjective. However, it usually may be determined by the level of kindness, support and love they offer their child. Generally, in a healthy parent-child relationship, parents may provide their children with a solid sense of love, belonging and comfort.&nbsp;</p>

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I Hate Being A Mom: Mental Health And Child-Related Challenges

<p dir="ltr">It is not exactly a secret that being a parent can be difficult. After all, parents are tasked with turning their children into responsible people in society, and there are infinite factors out there that can hinder those efforts.</p>
<p dir="ltr">And there are sometimes that even the best of parents thinks, &ldquo;I hate my children.&rdquo; That last sentence feels like a heavy one, and it certainly can be. But there is often a misconception about disliking your kids or feeling like you hate your children.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Here&rsquo;s the thing: even if you have thought, &ldquo;I feel like I hate my children,&rdquo; it isn&rsquo;t necessarily the truth. There is much more to these simple thoughts than meets the eye, and it takes a little bit of learning to truly understand those feelings.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do I have thoughts about hating my children?</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">While undoubtedly unique to each family, there are common reasons why you may think, &ldquo;I hate my kids.&rdquo; One of the most common is that there is a feeling that they can&rsquo;t be controlled. And to an extent, you are right.</p>
<p dir="ltr">One of the biggest challenges of parenthood is creating boundaries for our children. They need to know where they can tread and when to stop, and this can&rsquo;t happen without boundaries. But what happens when they test and break those boundaries?</p>
<p dir="ltr">There are really only so many things that parents can do to keep their kids from doing something they don&rsquo;t want them to do. Once the child reaches past those boundaries and determines the consequences aren&rsquo;t enough to stop them, it can make parents feel helpless and begin to think, &ldquo;I hate my kids.&rdquo;</p>
<p dir="ltr">The thing is that you may not necessarily hate your kids. It is frustrating that you are doing what you think is right for them, and they are choosing to rebel against it. That frustration is natural and enough to make those thoughts of agitation come to fruition.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Another reason this happens is that we see ourselves in our kids. We may think, &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; but there is some part of us that realizes the things we dislike in ourselves can be transferred to our children.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Even though you love your kids, it can be frustrating to see aspects of yourself coming out in them. Perhaps it is stubbornness or a mean attitude. Whatever it is, you begin to think, &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; but really, you are upset with yourself.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It is also worth remembering that kids have not developed essential life skills yet. They may not get subtlety or the art of being polite. While there is no guarantee that they will, that is the part of parenting that has to be accomplished over time. It is up to us to teach them when it is okay to say and do certain things and when it is absolutely not okay.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">How to handle feelings of animosity toward your children</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Even if you think &ldquo;I hate my life&rdquo; or &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; it isn&rsquo;t the end of the world. Sure, those are not feelings we want to persist, but having them now and again is normal. It is human. Frustrations will happen, and our kids know how to push our buttons as few others can.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The first step is to admit that there is a problem. Life does not go as planned, even when we try our best to plan everything out. Stresses become a reality, divorces happen, people get sick, and several other situations make life difficult.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you think &ldquo;I hate my life&rdquo; or &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; it is hard to hide those emotions. Even pretending may not be enough to keep those feelings from reaching your kids. And that can lead to even further issues when trying to interact with and raise them. At the very least, you should avoid outright saying, &ldquo;I hate my child&rdquo; or &ldquo;I hate you,&rdquo; as this can be extremely damaging.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Figuring out those triggers can be important when it comes to handling them. Think about what it is that your kids do to make you think, &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; and you can begin to find ways of coping with those stressors. Instead of letting the stress build-up, you can start to take on the problem and improve the communication and interaction with your children.</p>
<p dir="ltr">You may think, &ldquo;I hate my life,&rdquo; and that is okay. Stress is difficult, and none of us is perfect when attempting to manage it. But looking to confront those stresses is how we actually resolve them. Ignoring them or pushing them off only make those feelings build up until they finally blow.</p>
<p dir="ltr">To avoid <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/parenting/the-top-parenting-fails-and-how-to-avoid-them/">top parenting fails</a>, you can learn what your child&rsquo;s individual needs are so you can understand how to meet them. There are <a href="https://www.5lovelanguages.com/">techniques out there</a> to help address the needs that your children have more effectively. When you do this, communication can improve and make it easier to handle the stresses children provide.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you have read <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/parenting/parenting-quotes-that-will-make-parenting-easier/">parenting quotes</a> or books, you are likely aware that parenting is indeed a challenge. The job of parenting is never-ending. Your children&rsquo;s needs must be continuously met, which is one of the most significant contributing factors to parents' stress. Instead of hoping that the children will change the way they respond, try changing how you respond. Kids can see that change and will hopefully respond to it, too.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Coping with the demands of raising children</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">As stated previously, those demands are consistent, and even though they can be met, they are met on a minute-to-minute, day-to-day basis. There is no solving the problem and expecting it never to resurface.</p>
<p dir="ltr">As parents, we all try to set boundaries for our children to teach them the importance of knowing when to stop a particular behavior. We develop those boundaries to help ourselves as parents, too. When our kids follow those boundaries, it acts as a stopper for times when they are misbehaving.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The difficulty is in finding those boundaries. For some kids, it is more comfortable. For others, those boundaries are more difficult to place. That is the journey of being a parent: finding those boundaries that will make our children better people and provide us as parents the stopper that we need to keep things from spilling over.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Those boundaries can vary greatly, but they are the tools required to help a child develop going forward. Yes, it teaches right and wrong, but it also teaches them when to ask for things versus not asking, how to respond when they are angry, and so on.</p>
<p dir="ltr">These boundaries are the building blocks between a parent and their child. They are essential, but they are difficult to build. Feeling like you may hate your children is the frustration of trying to establish those building blocks. The important thing to do as a parent is to continue to work towards their development even when it may be frustrating.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Thinking you hate your kids is okay to a degree</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Here is the thing that you might not believe; &ldquo;hating&rdquo; your kids can be okay, to a degree. We are all human beings and have human emotions and frustrations.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Doing this allows parents to maintain the patience that they need when developing those boundaries instead of slipping into a state of mental warfare with their children.</p>
<p dir="ltr">As parents, there is a feeling that we cannot attend to our own needs, especially when our children have so many. It is important to care for ourselves as parents. Time and money can realistically be restraints, but they should not be an excuse.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Finding time to care for ourselves helps recharge the batteries, maintain that patience, and continue working to develop our children. Not caring for ourselves means that the dam will likely burst at some point, which is rarely good for anyone.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Online support for working through troubling thought patterns is available</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If you have ever thought, &ldquo;I hate my children,&rdquo; it isn&rsquo;t the end of the world. Finding a way to vent those frustrations and get back on track can help you become a better parent and better manage your kids' never-ending needs. The licensed professionals at Regain could be the perfect way to let out those frustrations and receive parenting guidance.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Through Regain, you can schedule appointments at times convenient for your work and parenting schedule. You can even attend sessions from any location with a safe internet connection, which can be highly advantageous for parents constantly on the go. Maybe you just need a reassuring reminder in the heat of a tense moment &ndash; in such cases, you can text your therapist as a means to establish a gap between a stressful stimulus and your parental response. Even if your therapist doesn&rsquo;t respond instantly, the act of pausing to use one of your resources can have positive consequences.</p>
<p dir="ltr">It's also true that online therapy has helped many parents improve their parenting skills, communication with their children, and boundary-setting capabilities. In one study, for example, researchers implemented a therapist-assisted online parenting strategies (<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31890632/">TOPS</a>) program for parents whose teenagers were living with anxiety or depression. Results demonstrated how this program was both needed and useful, providing parents with strategies to alleviate symptoms in their teenagers, assisting them with employing these strategies, supporting them in overcoming associated difficulties and working with them to develop a relapse prevention plan.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Caring for our kids is a never-ending job, one more difficult than is given credit for. It is okay to feel human, feel frustrated, and experience the emotions that are so prominent in our lives. Finding reasonable outlets for those is how good parents stay good parents and continue to care for their kids after feeling like they can&rsquo;t take it anymore.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So long as you are not telling the kids that you hate them, thinking it is totally normal and will likely pop into your head from time to time. Finding a way to manage those feelings is the real key to success. When you&rsquo;re in need of support, know that you can<a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/"> reach out to a therapist at Regain</a> to receive guidance for any issue you&rsquo;re confronting.</p>

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Parents will sometimes feel animosity toward their children

Do you sometimes think "I hate my kids"? It's okay to a degree. Learn about the struggles of parenting and why people can feel animosity toward their kids.

I Hate My Kids: The Struggles Of Parenting | Regain

<h2 dir="ltr">Frequently asked questions</h2>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>What do you do when you hate your child?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">It is normal to &ldquo;hate&rdquo; your kids from time to time as a parent. Child-rearing is hard and can cause us to feel frustrated, angry and resentful toward our children from time to time. When you are feeling negative thoughts towards your children, here is what you can do:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Acknowledge your thoughts</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Realize that you are most likely feeling dislike towards their behavior</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Learn to manage and adjust your expectations</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Do not criticize them when they are not behaving properly; rather, correct their behavior by role modeling appropriate responses</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Work on strengthening your relationship with them</li>
</ul>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Is it normal to not like your child?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/parenting/sometimes-i-feel-like-i-hate-my-kids-am-i-a-bad-parent/">Being a parent and raising children</a> is both beautiful and challenging at the same time. There are going to be moments wherein the heat of the moment you think to yourself, &ldquo;I hate my kids,&rdquo; and feel that you hate being a mom or dad.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The first thing that you can admit is that there may be a problem causing you to feel this way. Child-rearing is not something we are born with but rather a trial-and-error process until we understand what works and what doesn&rsquo;t work. When you think deeper into why you might be thinking, &ldquo;I hate my kids,&rdquo; you&rsquo;ll likely notice that you don&rsquo;t feel hatred towards them but rather dislike your child&rsquo;s behavior. Perhaps, your child&rsquo;s behavior could be related to a specific family situation that is going on, such as a divorce, moving schools, or stressors that are going on in their lives. Getting to the bottom of why your child is acting a certain way is the first step into figuring out why you feel negatively towards them.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Additionally, childcare is overwhelming and demanding, especially when your children are young. Therefore, you may be finding it challenging to balance your emotions and responsibilities as a parent. When you feel overwhelmed, it can cause you to think of thoughts of not liking your children at the moment. The best way to combat these feelings is to take time for yourself.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Is it normal to regret having a child?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">People who do not have children probably do not understand how demanding and challenging parenting can be. Therefore, it is only natural that there come points in your life when you feel as if you regret having children. No one prepares you for becoming a parent. No one ever admits to you how financially, emotionally, and physically draining it can be at times. When you become a parent, you are giving up putting yourself first to put someone else first. Therefore, there may be times when you regret having kids, especially when you are overtired, overwhelmed, and feel like you are not appreciated. However, these feelings come and go and are not permanent. The best thing you can do is acknowledge your feelings rather than feel guilty about them.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Is it normal to resent your child?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Parenting is hard and can sometimes cause you to feel irritated, angry, and resentful towards your children. This is a normal part of being a parent, especially when you feel unappreciated and overworked. You may even think, &ldquo;I hate my kids&rdquo; from time to time, and that is okay. Here is what to do when you are feeling&nbsp;<a href="https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/calm-parenting-what-to-do-when-you-dislike-your-child/">resentment towards your child:</a></p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Acknowledge your feelings: Do not push these feelings aside. Be honest with them and accept the fact that you are not always going to like your kids. They aren&rsquo;t always going to like you either. That dynamic is a normal part of any relationship.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Identify the cause of why you are feeling this way: By getting to the root of your feelings and identifying why you feel this way, you may notice that you don&rsquo;t hate or resent your children but rather your child&rsquo;s behavior.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Learn to manage and adjust your expectations for your children: Rather than setting unrealistic expectations for your children, accept who they are and love them unconditionally.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Stop criticizing them: Words hurt. It&rsquo;s easy to react to situations without putting any thought into what you say, leading to your possibly saying rude and negative comments to your children. Instead of reacting automatically, take a step back and think before you speak &ndash; what do they really need to hear, see, and feel in this moment?</li>
</ul>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>What is the most psychologically damaging thing you can say to a child?</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">Parenting is hard. Even though we love our children, sometimes our child&rsquo;s behavior can cause us to feel negative emotions that cause us to say unkind things to our children out of anger. Here are some phrases that you should never say to your children &ndash; even in moments when your anger and frustration are controlling how you feel towards them -- as it can cause psychological damage to them and put a strain on your parent-child relationship:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">I regret having you as my child</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You will never be any different</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You&rsquo;re too sensitive</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why can&rsquo;t you be better?</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You&rsquo;re not good enough</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Don&rsquo;t eat that, or you will get fat</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">It&rsquo;s not that big of a deal&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Stop crying</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">You are so ungrateful</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Stop being so selfish and needy</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">If you live under my roof, you are going to follow my rules</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">That&rsquo;s how I was raised, and I turned out fine</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">I wish you were more like</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Why can&rsquo;t you be like your brother/sister?</li>
</ul>
<p dir="ltr">What is the most annoying age of a child?<br>What is parent burnout?<br>What is a toxic child?<br>What to do when you don&rsquo;t want to be a parent anymore?<br>Is it normal to not want to be a parent anymore?</p>

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<p dir="ltr">Hearing someone say, &ldquo;I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me,&rdquo; can be extremely confusing, especially when your loved one says it to you. On the one hand, your partner says they hate you, but then they say they do not want you to leave. Well, which is it? Why would your partner say they hate you? Is it possible for them both to be true? For those with a mental health or attachment disorder, like borderline personality disorder (BPD), the answer is yes. It may be an&nbsp;caused by something that happened during their childhood. It could also be a borderline personality disorder shaking things up in your relationship. Figuring this out for sure takes a mental health professional, but it will not hurt to learn a few things before talking to your partner about getting some help. If you want to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/worried-about-losing-someone-how-to-cope-with-attachment-issues/">cope with attachment issues</a>, continue to read below.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Why do they say I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me?</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">When your loved one gives you the mixed message, &ldquo;I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me,&rdquo; they are essentially asking for your help. They do not really hate you, of course. They are just confused and possibly mad at you about something. But they do not hate you. Hate is a strong word for anyone to say, but when managing a mental health disorder, like borderline personality disorder (BPD), these words are typically an automatic response, and not what they really mean.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">When they say, &ldquo;I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me,&rdquo; understanding what is going on in their head at the time is difficult. It is understandable if you want to get some space when they are talking to you this way. Do your best to not walk away or tell them that you are available, but not at this very moment. However, even though your partner clearly needs help, do not push the issue right away if they are not ready to admit it. They cannot change without wanting to, but you can&nbsp;<a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/attachment/understanding-different-types-of-attachment/">talk to a therapist</a>&nbsp;yourself about what to do in this confusing relationship.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">An exhausting roller coaster relationship</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Trying to deal with your partner&rsquo;s constant mood swings, paranoia, and accusations can be exhausting. Maybe there were signs that this may be a problem early in the relationship. You may have thought it was sweet when your loved one got jealous of your coworker when they complimented you or maybe when they wanted to be with you all the time. It may have been cute to see her pouting when you wanted to go out with your friends after work. In fact, early in the relationship, you probably encouraged it because everything was new, and you wanted to be with them all the time too. But enough is enough, right? You cannot be expected to stay home forever or take them with you everywhere.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Understanding their feelings</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Think about it this way, when they say, &ldquo;<a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/personality-disorders/understanding-the-contradiction-i-hate-you-dont-leave-me/">I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me</a>,&rdquo; understanding their frame of mind at the time is important for both of you. Even though it hurts to hear them say that they hate you, knowing that they do not want you to leave means something too. They are really saying that they love you, and if you have been together for a while, you know that this is true. But maybe something happened to cause their feelings of fear of abandonment to emerge. In someone with an attachment disorder, like borderline personality disorder (BPD), this can quickly turn into a meltdown. Remember that there most likely is an underlying mental health obstacle that is causing these contradictory emotions.&nbsp; However, you need a mental health professional to figure it out for sure, unless they have been diagnosed. If you are aware that they have been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder or an attachment disorder, keep in mind that these confusing messages are rooted in their mental health disorder and do you best to resolve with understanding.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Attachment styles explained</h2>
<p dir="ltr">According the&nbsp;<a href="https://dictionary.apa.org/attachment">American Psychological Association</a>, attachment is the emotional bond that develops between an infant and their parent figure or caregiver reflected by a calmness when in the presence of their primary caregiver. When this bond is not securely attached, a child may development an attachment disorder. There are , three of which reflect an insecure attachment that occurred during infancy or childhood and can lead to unhealthy relationship behaviors in adulthood.&nbsp; These attachment styles are often called by different names depending on which psychological theorist is writing about them.&nbsp; For this article, we will refer to these styles as follows:</p>
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<p dir="ltr">The three unhealthy styles,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/attachment/what-is-ambivalent-attachment-and-what-do-you-need-to-know/">ambivalent attachment</a>&nbsp;style, avoidant attachment style, and&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/attachment/what-to-do-if-you-have-a-disorganized-attachment/">disorganized attachment</a>&nbsp;style can be confusing no matter which side of the relationship you are on. If your partner has of these three attachment styles, your relationship probably has gone through drama, breakups, and reunifications. Let&rsquo;s look at the four attachment styles more closely.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Autonomous attachment style</h3>
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<p dir="ltr">Adults with this style of connection were securely attached to their caregivers and did not experience an event (or series of events) that caused them to fear losing an attachment or confusing message growing up. Often referred to as secure attachment, autonomous attachment means that you are comfortable with who you are and with your relationships.. You do not have any issues getting close to someone and do not mind when others depend on you. Being alone is not a problem for you either as you have healthy self-esteem and do not worry whether others will reject you. You trust others and have long-lasting healthy relationships.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Ambivalent attachment style</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Those who were cared for sometimes and ignored other times as babies or children will typically grow up with an ambivalent attachment style. This attachment style leaves both parties confused most of the time, not knowing whether they are happy or not. The ambivalent type is suspicious of others and does not trust anyone. But they want so badly to be in a relationship that they become clingy and needy. In fact, this is the type of attachment style of the person you would hear, saying, &ldquo;I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me.&rdquo; They worry that you will leave them, but they do not seem to want you there anyway when you are there.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Avoidant attachment style</h3>
<p dir="ltr">If your loved one has trouble relying on others and does not want anyone to depend on them, this is probably their attachment style. The avoidant attachment style includes overly independent and does not like to be too close to anyone, which is why&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/dating/interested-in-someone-who-has-an-avoidant-attachment-style-dating-tips-for-success/">loving someone with avoidant attachment</a>&nbsp;can be frustrating and hopeless. They see themselves as important, self-sufficient individuals who believe that having to rely on anyone leads to a loss of independence. Although they seem to be level-headed and stable, they are distant, aloof, and can appear compulsive and controlling. They do not like talking about feelings or emotions.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Disorganized unresolved attachment style</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Disorganized attachment is an attachment problem that develops due to an infant getting insufficient care and support in early childhood. As a result, they will develop an uncertain attachment to their caregiver. This will cause an infant to shy away from their primary attachment figure -- instead of clinging to them for safety. A disorganized style of attachment and personality functioning will follow them into adulthood relationships. One of the signs of attachment that is disorganized and personality disorders in adulthood is the tendency to shy away from close relationships.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr">This may be the most confusing attachment style since they can go from one mood to the other quickly. They may have other comorbid disorders, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) from being mistreated or abused as an infant or child. They may be argumentative, antisocial, and even abusive at times. Substance use disorder and eating disorders are common as they try to self-medicate their PTSD or other issues. Those with disorganized unresolved attachment styles do not like to follow the rules, do not care if they hurt others, and are easily angered.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you are facing or witnessing abuse of any kind, the<a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">&nbsp;National Domestic Violence Hotline</a>&nbsp;is available. Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or Text "START" to 88788. You can also use the<a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">&nbsp;online chat</a>.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you or someone you know is or might be living with a substance use disorder, please contact the&nbsp;<a href="https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline">Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration</a>&nbsp;(SAMHSA) at 1-800-662-HELP (4357).</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Borderline personality disorder</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Another theory that explains the &ldquo;I hate you, don&rsquo;t leave me&rdquo; paradox is that your partner is managing borderline personality disorder. In fact,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1857277/">clinical theorists suggest</a>&nbsp;that having an unhealthy attachment style is one of signs of borderline personality disorder. They claim that the symptoms of ambivalent, avoidant, or disorganized unresolved attachment styles are commonly seen in those with a borderline personality disorder. Other signs of borderline personality disorder include fear of abandonment, a pattern of unstable relationships, impulsiveness, risky behavior, and mood swings. In fact, those with this disorder can have periods of intense anger, rage, and fighting, alternating with feeling hopeless, empty, and depressive symptoms.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality Disorder</h2>
<p dir="ltr">You can get a bit more insight into the conundrum of borderline personality disorder by reading the&nbsp;<a href="https://humansystem.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/i-hate-you-dont-leave-me.pdf">"I Hate You &mdash; Don&rsquo;t Leave Me&rdquo;</a>&nbsp;book written by Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus. This is an excellent book for someone trying to understand the complicated relationship of loving someone with a borderline personality disorder. They give you some tips on how to tell whether you or your loved one has a borderline personality disorder, what you can do to defuse the situations that arise, and where to go when you need help. This book by Dr. Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Strauss can be incredibly helpful for understanding the borderline personality. The following is an excerpt from the book:&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">"For many [people with] borderline, 'out of sight, out of mind' is an excruciatingly real truism. Panic sets in when [they are] separated from a loved one because the separation feels permanent," says&nbsp;<a href="https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/16/understanding-borderline-personality-disorder/">Jerold J. Kreisman</a>, "Although the [person] may not be consciously aware of this dilemma, [they] frequently place a friend or relation in a no-win situation in which the other person is condemned no matter which way [they] go.&rdquo;</p>
<p dir="ltr">People managing borderline personality disorder often live with an intense fear that their loved will abandon them. You may have felt the strain of being in a relationship with someone managing this fear, because they check on you often and may overreact when you are simply going to the grocery store. Thus, &ldquo;Don&rsquo;t leave me!&rdquo; Then, they may be so overwhelmed with these feelings that they are tempted to break up with you and say, &ldquo;I hate you!&rdquo;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Your attachment style is thought to be set in stone when you were a child in how your parents or other caregivers cared for you. However, not everything is set in stone. There is help for those with an unhealthy attachment style.&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/attachment/what-is-attachment-therapy-and-how-does-it-work/">Attachment therapy</a>&nbsp;is available and can help anyone who wants to try.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Attachment-focused therapy</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Even if you have heard repeatedly that you cannot change your attachment style, there is no way to find out unless you try. There is hope for anyone who wants to change. Attachment-focused therapy can help you identify the source of your attachment challenges and help you to change your negative thought patterns or behaviors that keep you from forming secure connections as an adult.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">In attachment-based therapy, you create strategies to grow a healthy pattern of attachment with those close to you. Under the safe guidance of a professional therapist, you can examine the fearful or confusing thoughts that arise in your relationship and learn how to understand them. During therapy sessions, you most likely will develop a plan to help your change your behaviors to feel good about yourself and improve your communication with your significant other.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">If you are unable to meet with a therapist in-person, be confident in knowing that research supports the efficacy of online therapy. For example,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/00207411.2021.1959807">online therapy has been shown to be as effective</a>&nbsp;as in-person therapy, with people showing improved mental health disorder symptoms with regular talk-therapy sessions. If you or your loved one has an unhealthy attachment style, you can get therapy from a licensed therapist or counselor at&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain.us</a>. Online therapy can be done from the comfort of your own home on your phone, laptop, or other electronic devices. Do not hesitate to set up an appointment with a therapist, especially if you are feeling like you cannot manage it on your own.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">If your partner is managing an unhealthy attachment style or a mental health disorder, such as borderline personality disorder, you probably have experienced moments where they threaten to push you away, only to ask for you to never leave them in the same span of time, saying things like, &ldquo;I hate you. Don&rsquo;t leave me.&rdquo; This can be difficult to manage on your own. This article explained some reasons why your significant other may be acting this way. However, if you need more guidance, make an appointment with a therapist to get the support that you need.</p>
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Attachment disorders can be hard to identify

Reactive attachment disorder can cause someone to show paradoxical behaviors in relationships. Learn about attachment disorders and mental health symptoms.

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<h2 dir="ltr">What are the symptoms of attachment disorder?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Symptoms of attachment disorders vary between children with attachment disorders. According to the <a href="https://emedicine.medscape.com/article/915447-overview#a1">Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders</a>, there are two types of&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/attachment/how-to-overcome-insecure-attachment/">insecure attachment</a> disorders.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Disinhibited social engagement disorder (DSED)</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">The symptoms of attachment disorder and disinhibited social engagement disorder include:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Unafraid of adult strangers</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Overly trusting adult strangers</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Seeking out affection from adult strangers</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">No preferences between trusted adults and adult strangers</li>
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<p dir="ltr">Children with disorder reactive attachment disorder and disinhibited social engagement disorder are at an increased risk of being in danger of being kidnapped or harmed by a stranger because of their willingness to connect to them so easily.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Reactive attachment disorder (RAD)</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">The symptoms of&nbsp;&nbsp;include:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Withdrawal</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Being inconsolable</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Avoiding eye contact</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Avoiding physical contact</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Clinginess</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Lack of social interactions</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Lack of interest in school, friends, and activities</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Crying inconsolably</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Unexplained fear</li>
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<p dir="ltr">The differences between this attachment disorder and disinhibited social disorder are that while children with attachment disorders may crave affection from strangers when they have disinhibited social disorder, a child with disorder Reactive Attachment disorder will be unlikely to crave affection anyone, including close relatives. Other symptoms of reactive attachment disorder and disinhibited social disorder Include:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Bullying</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Anger</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Poor impulse control</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Self-destructive behavior</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">General unhappiness</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Mixed emotions</li>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What are the signs of attachment disorder in adults?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Symptoms are different between children with&nbsp;<a href="http://labs.psychology.illinois.edu/~rcfraley/attachment.htm">attachment disorders</a>&nbsp;and&nbsp;disorders in adults. According to The Diagnostic Manual of Mental Disorders,&nbsp;there is no formal diagnosis for attachment disorders in adults. However, adults can have&nbsp;lingering symptoms from insecure attachment disorders that went undiagnosed in&nbsp;childhood. Symptoms of unhealthy attachment styles in adults include:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Distrust of people closest to them</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Being controlling</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Impulsiveness</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Negative emotions/feeling negative about one&rsquo;s self</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Issues with receiving and giving affection</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Addiction</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Difficulty maintaining relationships</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Lack of emotional attachments</li>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What are the four types of attachment?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Attachment styles are determined by how a child was taken care of as an infant,&nbsp;as the&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2724160/">attachment theory</a> explains. These attachment styles are categorized by how the parent/caregiver emotionally or physically reacted when the child had needs to be met.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">There are four types of attachment styles according to the attachment theory:</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Secure attachment&nbsp;</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">According to the attachment theory, a secure attachment is formed when a child is well taken care of in infancy. Their parent/caregiver meets the child&rsquo;s physical and emotional needs fully and in a proper amount of time.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Anxious-ambivalent attachment</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">​This style is formed when a parent/caregiver responds to a child's physical or emotional needs with comfort and responds in annoyance sometimes. Inconsistent emotional/physical support. It is considered an insecure attachment.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Avoidant attachment</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">​A person develops an avoidant attachment style when a parent or caregiver often ignores a child's emotional and physical needs. It is also a form of insecure attachment.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><strong>Disorganized attachment</strong></p>
<p dir="ltr">​According to the attachment theory, disorganized attachment is formed when a parent/caregiver neglects a child. The child can appear to be fearful and anxious, and emotions do not change regardless of their parent/caregiver is around them or not. It also is an insecure attachment.&nbsp;</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">How does attachment disorder start?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">According to the <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4085672/#R24">attachment theory</a>, children have a natural drive to have&nbsp;emotional attachments to parents/caregivers from their birth. The way the infant&nbsp;is cared for determines whether the child will or will not develop an insecure&nbsp;attachment disorder. Different attachment styles can be developed depending&nbsp;entirely on the parent/caregiver and their emotional attachments.</p>
<p dir="ltr">If a child is not properly cared for, according to the attachment theory, or is&nbsp;abused by a parent/caregiver, the child is more likely to develop reactive&nbsp;attachment disorder and disinhibited social disorder.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Some risk factors include:</p>
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<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Living in an orphanage/foster home</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Having inexperienced parents/caregivers</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Having a parent/caregiver who does not want them</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Frequent changes in primary caregivers</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Neglect</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Physical/emotional/sexual abuse</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Poverty</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Parents/caregivers with mental illness/substance use</li>
</ul>
<h3 dir="ltr">What does attachment look like?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">According to the <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4085672/#R24">attachment theory</a>, a child with healthy or secure attachment will have the following characteristics:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Having their needs properly met by parent/caregiver</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Being social with family and friends</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Trusting those closest to them</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Having a healthy outlook on personal relationships</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Physical/emotional health</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Ability to form strong emotional attachments</li>
</ul>
<h3 dir="ltr">What does insecure attachment look like?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">According to the attachment theory, a child with insecure attachment looks like:</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">General disinterest</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Insecure</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Distrusting to those closest to them</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Afraid of commitment</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Self-hate</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The inability to form strong emotional attachments</li>
</ul>
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Hearing someone say, “I hate you, don’t leave me,” can be extremely confusing, especially when your loved one says it to you. On the one hand, your partner says they hate you,...

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<p dir="ltr">You may have heard the term &ldquo;love-hate relationship&rdquo; used to describe mixed feelings about a person, place, or idea, or experience. But what does this term mean in romantic relationships, where you might feel love for your partner one minute, and hatred for them the next? In this article, we will discuss what it means to be in a love-hate relationship with your partner, the effects of love-hate relationships, and how couples can take steps toward a healthier, less volatile dynamic.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What is a love-hate relationship?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A &ldquo;love-hate relationship&rdquo; can often be described as an &ldquo;emotional rollercoaster ride.&rdquo; Love-hate relationships are typically characterized by intense ups and downs in emotions between partners, ranging from feelings of strong affection and love to strong aggression, anger, or even hatred toward one&rsquo;s significant other. These emotions tend to alternate in a love-hate relationship, which can lead to conflict, stress, and exhaustion.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Those in an emotionally volatile relationship may find themselves frequently fighting or breaking up with their partners, only to get back together again. Alternatively, they may experience periods of wanting to leave the relationship but feeling too attached to their partner to end it. Individuals may find themselves wishing they could change their significant other, or feeling resentment or hatred toward their partner when they don&rsquo;t live up to perceived expectations.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">The extreme emotions in a love-hate relationship can at times manifest in unhealthy ways, such as aggressive or unhealthy communication, jealousy, or a lack of boundaries. In some cases, love-hate relationships can even involve elements of emotional, physical, or verbal abuse.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">What are the causes of a love-hate relationship?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Love-hate relationships can have a variety of possible causes. In some cases, what begins as an intensely loving and affectionate relationship begins to take a turn as the honeymoon period ends and individuals begin to notice flaws in their partners that they didn&rsquo;t before, leading to conflicting feelings. Other times, the love-hate dynamic can evolve as a result of anxiety or resentment due to unresolved conflicts within the relationship. Some relationships turn volatile when one partner expects the other to change, only to grow frustrated when this doesn&rsquo;t happen. People may enter into emotionally volatile relationships because this dynamic was modeled for them as they were growing up. Other times, they may gravitate toward love-hate relationships as a result of low self-esteem.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Although the causes of love-hate relationships can vary, what these relationships generally all have in common is that they tend to be emotionally tumultuous. This can have a negative impact on one or both partners&rsquo; mental health and sense of self-worth.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Tips for managing a love-hate relationship</h2>
<p dir="ltr">A love-hate dynamic in a relationship can be damaging for both parties&rsquo; mental and emotional well being. That said, depending on the circumstances, partners in a love-hate relationship may be able to take steps to improve their communication and build a healthier dynamic. These steps may include:</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Leave the relationship if necessary</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Sometimes, the best course of action in a love-hate relationship is to leave it, either temporarily or permanently. If the relationship dynamic has turned toxic, controlling, violent, or otherwise abusive, your safety and well being must come first, which may mean removing yourself from the situation. If you are experiencing or witnessing any form of abuse, you can contact the&nbsp;<a href="https://www.thehotline.org/">National Domestic Violence Hotline</a> at 1-800-799-7233.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Set boundaries</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Love-hate relationships are often characterized by a lack of healthy boundaries: limits that partners set about what is and is not acceptable for them in a relationship. It can be worth taking the time to figure out what your relationship ground rules are, making them clear to your partner, and making a plan to reinforce them.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Practice healthy communication</h3>
<p dir="ltr">When a love-hate dynamic is the result of resentment or unresolved conflict, changing the way you communicate can be valuable. Practicing open, honest, and healthy communication can allow you to air your emotions and work to actively resolve conflicts, rather than letting them lead to feelings of anger or frustration.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">Consider couples therapy</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Navigating the ups and downs of an emotionally volatile relationship can be challenging, and finding a path to a healthier dynamic can at times feel impossible. For this reason, outside support in the form of couples counseling may be an important resource. Relationship counseling can provide a safe, neutral platform for partners to discuss their emotions about the relationship and each other. A licensed relationship therapist can help couples develop the tools for improving their communication and learning to manage their emotions in a healthy way. This can be valuable for moving forward in a way that supports the emotional and mental health of both partners.</p>
<p dir="ltr">That said, traditional couples therapy is not always accessible. Because it is not typically covered by insurance, the cost of couples counseling can be high (often as much as $200 per session), and attending in-person sessions can be challenging for couples with busy schedules. For this reason, many couples are instead turning to online therapy through platforms like <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>. The ability to attend counseling sessions from wherever is most convenient, and to send messages to a counselor outside of therapy hours, may make virtual therapy an appealing alternative for couples working to change their relationship dynamic.&nbsp;</p>
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<p dir="ltr">&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Online couples counseling has been studied as an effective alternative to face-to-face therapy. Research from 2020 found that <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2019.02992/full">couples who received counseling online felt an increased sense of connection to their therapists</a>, while a 2022 study found that <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.773030/full">online couples therapy delivered similar results to in-person counseling.</a>&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">&ldquo;Love-hate relationships&rdquo; are often characterized by having extreme positive and negative feelings toward a romantic partner. Signs of love-hate relationships may include resentment, frequent conflict, and unhealthy communication, among others. Love-hate relationships can have varying causes, and can often lead to stress, jealousy, and other unhealthy dynamics&mdash;sometimes including abuse. Steps for navigating a love-hate relationship include setting boundaries, practicing healthy communication, and, if necessary, leaving the relationship. For couples looking to foster a healthier relationship dynamic, couples counseling&mdash;either in person or through a platform like <a href="https://www.regain.us/get-started/">Regain</a>, may also be a valuable resource.&nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions</strong></p>
<h2><strong>What is it called when someone hates you for no reason?</strong></h2>
<p>"<a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1754073917751229">Misanthropy</a>" is a big word for hating or distrusting humans. A person who hates usually has an <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/1754073917751229">emotional reaction</a> to a particular event or feels an emotional reaction to a person or a group. Hatred&mdash;like anger or disgust&mdash;is a negative feeling on the hater's part. Still, when it's directed at you, it can feel uncomfortable, upsetting, or even scary. Dealing with people who dislike you can be challenging, but there are healthy ways to deal with them. However, if the case is you constantly ask yourself "<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/why-do-i-hate-everyone-9-reasons-you-may-feel-this-way-and-how-to-overcome-these-feelings/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">Why do I hate everyone</a>?" and you want to put a stop to it, a mental health professional can help you.</p>
<h2><strong>How do you deal with someone who hates you?</strong></h2>
<p>There are ways to deal with people who hate and deal with your feelings and responses. It is normal to dislike and feel uneasy with the idea that someone hates you, but learning ways successful people deal with hatred can help. You can try talking to the person who you believe hates you. You can also try talking to someone else who is familiar with the situation and might have ideas about dealing with the person pushing your buttons. You can prepare yourself emotionally before you see the person to try to minimize negative interactions. People deal with people differently; you can try looking at the situation from <a href="https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/325705#coping-with-these-feelings">their perspective</a> to figure out why they might not like you or whether there's another explanation for the negative vibe you're getting from them. Also, remember that you are not a mind reader, so it's impossible to know what another person is thinking or feeling or why they act a certain way. Sometimes the way that hateful people deal with people is a mystery that's not yours to solve, and it's much more about the other person than about you. Sometimes people act in ways that are challenging to understand. Dealing with negative people can be difficult but not impossible. Remember that you can't control anyone else's feelings, but you can <a href="https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-control-your-emotions">work on your own feelings</a>.</p>
<h3><strong>What is the main cause of hatred?</strong></h3>
<p>There are many reasons <a href="https://www.medicinenet.com/why_do_people_hate/article.htm">why a person may hate</a>. Often, people dislike others because of issues they are having with themselves. Sometimes people feel threatened or jealous. In some cases, people hate because they are projecting negative feelings about themselves onto the person they hate. They might lack compassion or empathy and be unaware or unconcerned with others' feelings. They might perceive others as dangerous or have an unhealthy view of competition. <a href="https://www.hsdinstitute.org/resources/Why_we_hate_others.html">Hatred</a> may also stem from a general feeling of anger towards people we dislike or fear of differences. Often, people hate because of their own feelings of inadequacy or helplessness. They may feel some power by pushing your buttons. It can be helpful to learn about ways successful people deal with challenging relationships.</p>
<h3><strong>What are the signs when someone hates you? </strong></h3>
<p>If you are the <a href="https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/how-to-deal-with-haters">target of someone's hatred</a>, you might notice that they actively or passively make you feel inferior or try to hurt you. Haters might make negative comments to you or about you. They generally make people feel unliked. You might find yourself feeling humiliated when dealing with people you feel hate you. People who dislike you might be intolerant of you or make you feel like you don't matter. If that's the case, there is help available to learn to cope with people who dislike you.&nbsp;</p>
<h3><strong>Why do I hate being around people?</strong></h3>
<p>People deal with people in social interactions in various ways. All people feel the need to be alone sometimes for positive reasons, but if hatred keeps you from being with others, seeking help can turn your life in a more positive direction. <a href="https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/dealing-with-loneliness-and-shyness.htm">Negative reasons for hating being around people</a> include feeling anxious when you're with others, unliked, that you can't be yourself, or that you'll say or do something that you'll regret. People we dislike can make us feel uncomfortable, so we try to avoid them. Depression and <a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/social-anxiety-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353561">social anxiety disorder</a> can also make you feel like you hate being around people. A therapist can help you learn ways successful people deal with social anxiety and overcome their discomfort around others. Learning to be with people can help you feel more connected and fulfilled.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Growing up feeling hated by your mother can be an extremely difficult emotion to cope with. Feeling burdensome, unwanted or disliked by your mother often creates ongoing problems into adulthood, including certain mental health conditions.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Victims of toxic or narcissistic parenting often believe they are the ones at fault for their poor relationship with their mothers or feel undeserving of her love. In such cases, it can be helpful to identify possible narcissistic personality traits in your mother.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">A mother who displays persistent controllining, manipulative or cruel behavior is likely showing narcissistic personality traits. For those that have lived with this type of behavior long-term, recognizing and addressing the signs can be extremely difficult.</p>
<p dir="ltr">In this article, we will explore the realities of narcissistic mothers, what you can do to navigate the relationship, and how to take steps towards personal healing.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">Recognizing narcissistic traits</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Maintaining a relationship with someone who displays narcissistic personality traits can often be challenging, with a toxic parent or caregiver creating one of the most difficult and impactful relationships to navigate.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Recognizing toxicity and narcissistic personality traits in your own mother can be extremely difficult due to the fact that her love, or lack thereof, was likely presented to you at an early age. In many cases, growing up with a narcissistic parent &ldquo;normalizes&rdquo; the existence of toxic behavior in the parent, yourself, and others around you.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">While some mothers are outright cruel, many narcissistic personality traits present in a subtle, more covert way. Examples of narcissistic personality traits include:&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">An unreasonably high sense of self-importance or a desire for excessive admiration.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Feeling that certain privileges and special treatment are deserved.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">The expectation to be recognized as superior even without achievements.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A tendency to make personal achievements or talents seem bigger than they are.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A preoccupation with success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Feelings of superiority.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Unrealistic demands or expectations of others.&nbsp;</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">A tendency to take advantage of others without guilt or remorse.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">An inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others.</li>
<li dir="ltr" role="presentation">Excessive feelings of envy towards others, or an unfounded belief that others envy them.&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p dir="ltr">It is important to note that Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a diagnosable personality disorder. While someone living with NPD will display narcissistic personality traits, these same traits can be exhibited by people who do not have NPD.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2>Signs of narcissistic traits in mothers</h2>
<p dir="ltr">When navigating narcissism, it can be helpful to recognize that there are a number of narcissistic behaviors that tend to present specifically in parenting. While the process of identifying narcissistic traits your mother can be grueling and painful, doing so may serve as an important step towards healing.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Some of the most common traits associated with narcissistic mothers include:</p>
<h3>Excessive self-centeredness</h3>
<p>A narcissistic mother is primarily focused on herself, her needs, and her desires. She may constantly seek attention and admiration from others while disregarding the needs and feelings of her children.</p>
<h3>Lack of empathy</h3>
<p>Empathy is often lacking in narcissistic individuals, including narcissistic mothers. They struggle to understand or connect with the emotions and experiences of others, including their children. Their interactions may be characterized by a lack of genuine concern or understanding.</p>
<h3>Manipulation and exploitation</h3>
<p>Narcissistic mothers often manipulate and exploit their children for their own benefit. They may use guilt, emotional blackmail, or other tactics to control and manipulate their children, often seeking to fulfill their own needs and desires at the expense of their children's well-being.</p>
<h3>Grandiosity and entitlement</h3>
<p>Narcissistic mothers typically have an inflated sense of self-importance and believe they are entitled to special treatment and privileges. They may expect their children to fulfill their needs without question and may become angry or resentful if their demands are not met.</p>
<h3>Lack of boundaries</h3>
<p>Narcissistic mothers frequently disregard personal boundaries, both physical and emotional, with their children.&nbsp;</p>
<h3>Emotional manipulation and abuse</h3>
<p>Narcissistic mothers often engage in emotional abuse to maintain control over their children. This can involve gaslighting (distorting reality to make the child doubt their own perceptions), constant criticism, belittling, and undermining the child's self-esteem.</p>
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<h2>Healing from a hateful mother</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Growing up feeling hated by your own mother is undoubtedly challenging and oftentimes traumatic. Typically, the first step toward healing comes from identifying the reality of your mother&rsquo;s behavior, then learning to accept that your mother&rsquo;s behavior is no fault of your own.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">While there are a number of support groups available online for those of us with emotionally abusive or narcissistic parents, the complex and painful nature of growing up with a narcissistic mother is typically navigated best through therapy and mental health treatment.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">A therapist or mental health professional can often provide individualized guidance in the matters of navigating or healing from a toxic maternal relationship. In many cases, it is possible that <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/get-started/">online therapy</a> may serve as a valuable resource for those looking to heal from a different parent-child relationship. Additionally, research has proven <a href="https://www.center4research.org/does-online-therapy-work/">online therapy to be equally as effective as in-person therapy</a>.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">Takeaway</h2>
<p dir="ltr">While recognizing the signs of a narcissistic mother can be challenging, doing so can often be helpful when it comes to the navigation of the relationship, as well as personal well-being. If you are having trouble coping with the negative effects of a mother&rsquo;s narcissistic behaviors, it may be best to reach out to a therapist or mental health professional for guidance and support.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p>
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<p><strong>Frequently asked questions</strong></p>
<p><strong>What should I do if my mom hates me?</strong></p>
<p>The ideal relationship between a mother and her child is full of love and care. In reality, this is not always the case. Some mothers dislike and even hate their child(ren) for various reasons. Discovering that your mother might hate you can be frightening and confusing. It is sad to hear someone ask, &ldquo;why does my mother hate me.&rdquo; Listed below are steps you can take if you have reason to believe that your mother hates you.&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>Don&rsquo;t blame yourself:</li>
</ul>
<p>This is very important. As children, we mirror our environment, using it as a tool to forge our identity. We search the words, actions, and body language of the people around us for clues that help us determine our place in society. If you grow up with a parent who doesn&rsquo;t love you and, even worse&hellip; hates you, your self-esteem is bound to take several heavy blows.</p>
<p>If you find yourself internalizing any guilt or blame for your mother&rsquo;s behavior, you have likely been viewing yourself through her perspective and based your identity on her thoughts and actions. Understanding that your mother is a human being who doesn&rsquo;t have everything figured out will help you take her view of you with a grain of salt. Your worth is not defined by the opinions of others, not even that of your mother.</p>
<ul>
<li>Speak to her:&nbsp;</li>
</ul>
<p>Communication gaps can cause negative emotions to develop and solidify over time. There are endless possible causes for your mother&rsquo;s behavior. Engaging her in honest and open conversation can bridge the gap and bring you closer together. It is possible that she isn&rsquo;t conscious of her behavior towards you. It is also possible that she blames you for a negative event or situation she experienced and has subconsciously connected those negative emotions with you. Whatever the case may be, having a sincere conversation with her about her behavior has the potential to heal your relationship.</p>
<ul>
<li>Assess yourself:</li>
</ul>
<p>While other people's opinions do not determine your worth, you must continue to assess yourself to make sure you aren&rsquo;t contributing to the problem. This does not mean you should blame yourself for her behavior. Rather, you should make a list of negative things you have been doing and a list of positive things you could be doing. Eliminate the behaviors featured on the negative list and adopt those featured on the positive list. Even if this doesn&rsquo;t help change her behavior towards you, you can be confident that you aren&rsquo;t contributing to the cycle.</p>
<ul>
<li>Cut her off:</li>
</ul>
<p>This should be a last resort that you only act on if her behavior is unbearably toxic. Family is ideally our most important connection, but once family becomes toxic, we can guiltlessly cut them off. Your mental health is your priority, and if staying connected with your <a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/parenting/11-signs-you-have-an-emotionally-abusive-mother/" rel="nofollow noreferrer">emotionally abusive mother</a> places your mental health at risk, you should cut her off.</p>
<p>This being said, try to save your relationship with your mother if it is within your power to do so. This will both solve the problem and give you both the opportunity to develop a healthy relationship.</p>
<p><strong>Why do I feel like my mom hates me?</strong></p>
<p>But no matter how much you fight, there should be no reason to doubt that your mother loves you, that is, if things were ideal. Unfortunately, mothers sometimes exhibit behavioral patterns that suggest hatred for their children. If this goes on for some time, the child will pick up on it and assume their mother hates them. No one should have to ask, &ldquo;why does my mother hate me.&rdquo; While this is not common, it cannot be said to be abnormal.</p>
<p>For you to conclude that your mother hates you, you must have observed her acting towards you in a hateful manner. People suspect their mother hates them if she:</p>
<ul>
<li>Doesn&rsquo;t display care or affection</li>
<li>Is neglectful</li>
<li>Is verbally abusive</li>
<li>Is violent and aggressive</li>
<li>Favors siblings over them</li>
<li>Rarely communicates with them</li>
</ul>
<p>All these are legitimate reasons to suspect that your mother hates you. However, your best option would be to have a sit-down with her and discuss how you feel. Even if this doesn&rsquo;t end positively, you will gain some insight into the situation and maybe even get some closure.</p>
<p>If you are experiencing maternal hatred and aren&rsquo;t sure what to do about it, you can find a treatment center and receive family counseling. If this is not possible in your locality, you can contact an online therapist to find a treatment plan.</p>
<p><strong>How do you know if your mom hates u?</strong></p>
<p>It can be very difficult to understand and accept that your mother hates you. <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4507819/">Studies</a> show that the relationship between a mother and her children is the strongest ties in a family. Unfortunately, the opposite is the sad reality for many people. There are some signs that, when noticed, could mean your mother hates you. The signs include:</p>
<ul>
<li>She never shows affection</li>
<li>She blames you for her unhappiness</li>
<li>She favors your siblings over you</li>
<li>She gaslights you and blames you for things you have no control over</li>
<li>She consistently undermines your achievements</li>
<li>She compares you to others to make you appear to be a failure</li>
<li>She neglects you</li>
<li>She is verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive</li>
</ul>
<p>If you notice several of these signs, it might mean that your mother does not like you. The best step to take would be to initiate a sincere conversation with her and take steps towards healing your relationship.</p>
<p>If you are experiencing maternal hatred and aren&rsquo;t sure what to do about it, you can find a treatment center and receive family counseling. If this is not possible in your locality, you can contact an online therapist to find a treatment plan.</p>
<p><strong>Why does my mom hate me but love my siblings?</strong></p>
<p>It isn&rsquo;t rare for mothers to favor one sibling over the other or to single one out and neglect them emotionally. The reasons for this behavior are endless and can only be determined through therapy or extended open communication between you and your mother. But the most common reason a mother would hate one child and love the rest is that she blames that child for a negative event or situation she experienced and attaches the negative emotions from that event to that child. A common cause of this is parental burnout. <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6028779/">Research</a> shows that parental burnout can cause a negative relationship between a parent and her child.</p>
<p>If you are experiencing maternal hatred and aren&rsquo;t sure what to do about it, you can find a treatment center and receive family counseling. If this is not possible in your locality, you can contact an online therapist to find a treatment plan.</p>
<p><strong>What is a toxic mom?</strong></p>
<p>A toxic mom is a mom whose presence in her children&rsquo;s lives is unhealthy for them. The absence of a mother figure can have very negative effects on a child, but sometimes a toxic mother can be an even worse circumstance. A toxic mom has the following features:</p>
<ul>
<li>She is neglectful</li>
<li>She is verbally, emotionally, financially, or physically abusive</li>
<li>She doesn&rsquo;t show affection</li>
<li>She blames her children for things out of their control</li>
<li>She undermines her children&rsquo;s achievements</li>
<li>She doesn&rsquo;t respect boundaries</li>
<li>She gaslights her children etc.</li>
</ul>
<p>If you are experiencing maternal hatred and aren&rsquo;t sure what to do about it, you can find a treatment center and receive family counseling. If this is not possible in your locality, you can contact an online therapist to find a treatment plan.</p>
<p><strong>Why do mothers hate their daughters?</strong></p>
<p>Maternal hatred is a sad reality, and it is often directed from a mother to a daughter. The main reason some mothers hate their daughters is maternal jealousy. This is a situation where a mother feels envious of her daughter for various reasons. Some of these reasons are:&nbsp;</p>
<ul>
<li>She blames her daughter for a negative event or experience she had</li>
<li>She thinks her daughter has like easier than she did</li>
<li>Her daughter excels in fields she wishes she could excel in</li>
<li>She thinks her daughter is more attractive than her and is jealous</li>
<li>Her daughter reminds her of her own past failures</li>
<li>A mental health condition</li>
</ul>
<p>If you are experiencing maternal hatred and aren&rsquo;t sure what to do about it, you can find a treatment center and receive family counseling. If this is not possible in your locality, you can contact an online therapist to find a treatment plan.</p>
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<p dir="ltr">Maybe you stare in the mirror and think,&nbsp;<em>I hate my body</em>. Or perhaps when you see pictures of yourself, you tend to say, even in a joking way, &ldquo;Ugh, I&nbsp;<a href="https://www.regain.us/advice/general/i-hate-myself-identifying-and-managing-self-hatred/">hate myself</a>. I hate how I look.&rdquo; Body image concerns and body dysmorphic disorder, which may lead you to have frequent intrusive thoughts about one or more perceived flaws, have become more prevalent recently,&nbsp;<a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7114025/">particularly among adolescents</a>. With constant exposure to social media and a society-wide focus on image, many people find themselves paying increasing attention to their bodies. This may have become even more common with pandemic-driven remote work and the fact that&nbsp;we may be seeing ourselves on screens more and more. In fact, research points to the fact that many&nbsp;<a href="https://time.com/4352400/men-women-body-image/">&nbsp;Americans</a>&nbsp;feel unsatisfied with their bodies at some point in their life.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">It&rsquo;s okay if you&rsquo;ve come to worry a little or a lot over your body. There are ways, however, to overcome these concerns so that you can develop a healthy relationship with your body. &nbsp;This article will discuss some of the ways that you can overcome negative feelings toward your own body and move towards forming a healthier body image.</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">1. Determine whether there are deeper roots to your unhappiness</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Oftentimes, poor body image stems from specific behaviors or moments in your life. Perhaps it&rsquo;s staring at old pictures of yourself, recalling statements from certain individuals, or constantly comparing yourself to the people around you. If you find yourself saying, &ldquo;I hate my body,&rdquo; it may be essential to uncover the &ldquo;why.&rdquo;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Ask yourself what tends to trigger concerns with your self-image and go beyond simple answers about specific features. Ponder your past experiences and possible challenges like low self-esteem or depression. Asking these difficult questions may help you become better equipped to understand why you&rsquo;re judging yourself the way you may be.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Consider this: there doesn&rsquo;t have to be anything intrinsically wrong with your body just because it looks a certain way. What we perceive as &ldquo;flaws&rdquo; can in many cases be common, natural features of our bodies&mdash;like cellulite or stretch marks, for example&mdash;that we may have a warped perception of due to social conditioning. Where did these ideas come from? Who decided that your body should look different than it naturally does?</p>
<p dir="ltr">Once you uncover the roots of a negative body image, you can likely get one step closer to tackling it. Some methods to work through these negativity sources include journaling, talking to someone close to you, and meditating.&nbsp;</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">2. Focus on more important aspects of yourself</h2>
<p dir="ltr">This can be easier said than done, of course. It&rsquo;s okay to spend time thinking about and tending to your appearance from time to time. Obsessing over it, however, can exacerbate self-image issues.</p>
<p dir="ltr">To manage this, try to look beyond the body in the mirror. Try being grateful for the things your body provides you besides its appearance. Instead of repeating,&nbsp;I hate my body,&nbsp;in your head, start repeating,&nbsp;<em>I&rsquo;m grateful for my body and all it allows me to experience.</em></p>
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<p dir="ltr">Try to dispel the negativity from your life. Negative self-talk that makes you feel bad your body image can make it harder to overcome bad habits. Think instead of how your body lets you work harder and get stronger daily&mdash;or perhaps how your body has allowed you to have experiences or even bring children into the world. There can be much more to you than just your appearance.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">3. Work on your mental health</h2>
<p dir="ltr">It can be difficult to reshape your poor body image if your mental health is not being taken care of. You may gain or lose weight from time to time, and that is okay. Embrace the changes. Your body will likely change throughout your life, just as you do. This can be expected and healthy.</p>
<p dir="ltr">There is a common misconception that body issues always stem from a desire to be more attractive. Oftentimes, body issues may have more to do with a sense of control. Figuring out what might be driving the desire to look a certain way or appear perfect on the surface might help you change your habits more permanently.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">4. Take a break from social media</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Beauty standards change constantly. Social media influencers can edit their images and then sell products that promise to make us look more like them. Ask yourself,&nbsp;<em>Has society&mdash;including social media, Hollywood, magazines, the beauty industry, etc.&mdash;given me a complex about my physical appearance?</em></p>
<p dir="ltr">Social media can have lasting effects on body image and mental health. It may be all too easy to fall into comparing your body and your life to the bodies and lives that you see on the screen. You may start to look at your body in a negative light because you don&rsquo;t believe that you are living up to the examples you see.</p>
<p dir="ltr">That&rsquo;s why it can be helpful to take a break from these platforms from time to time. You do not have to cut yourself off cold turkey but try heavily restricting your time on social media platforms for a while and see if that alleviates some of your concerns.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Rather than the strangers who populate our social media feeds, consider role models in your day-to-day life. Ask yourself why you admire these people. In most cases, it probably has little to do with physical beauty and more to do with the way they make you feel, their skill or experience in what they do, etc. This can help remind you how much more important personality can be than our mere outer shells.</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">5. Roll with the changes</h2>
<p dir="ltr">There are many changes that we may undergo in our lifetimes, such as weight fluctuation and childbirth. If these changes are causing you to worry about your attractiveness, there are steps you can take. For example, you could throw out clothes that no longer fit. Rather than holding onto old clothes in the hope that they will one day fit again, you can develop a new wardrobe. This may help you move on and accept how your body has changed. &nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">The only constant in life may be change. As you move through life, you will likely experience emotional, intellectual, and spiritual changes. It may be only natural that your body will change along with you. Try to avoid guilting or punishing yourself for going through phases that are entirely normal, healthy, and even beautiful. This is likely not the last time your body will change. And that&rsquo;s okay!</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">6. Treat yourself</h2>
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<p dir="ltr">You are so much more than a body. You are a person who is worthy of self-love. Take time to treat yourself; acting like you love yourself can sometimes be the first step toward actually doing so. After all, it can be hard to recognize the good in something until you&rsquo;ve tried it out for yourself.</p>
<p dir="ltr">By occasionally pampering yourself with self-care, you can help improve your overall well-being. You may also be able to help yourself believe that you are worthy of care and compassion. At the end of the day, that&rsquo;s the arguably most important thing!</p>
<h2 dir="ltr">7. Consider seeking support</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Body dysmorphic disorder can be a debilitating condition that has the potential to affect many aspects of your life. Even if your body image concerns are not severe enough to fall under the umbrella of BDD, it&rsquo;s likely that some sort of professional support might be what&rsquo;s necessary to help you overcome and change your habits for the better.&nbsp;</p>
<p dir="ltr">Options like online therapy may help you connect with an experienced therapist from wherever you have an internet connection (or phone service). You can save money and time by speaking to a professional from the comfort of your own home at a time that makes sense for your schedule.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Plus, research suggests that online therapy can be an equally effective treatment option for some mental health concerns when compared to in-person therapy as well as being a <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/eclinm/article/PIIS2589-5370(20)30186-3/fulltext">more affordable way</a> to seek help. No matter the reason behind your feelings about your body, it&rsquo;s likely that talking to someone who understands can make a world of difference.&nbsp;</p>
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<h2 dir="ltr">What do I do if I hate my body?</h2>
<p dir="ltr">Hating your body can be a difficult and often damaging mindset to live with. The best way to approach it may be to work to understand why you feel the way you do &ndash; where do your thoughts stem from? Is it social media? Images you see on television or in movies? Comments from other people in your life? Getting to the root of the issue and changing your habits to focus on more positive self-talk may help you start on the path toward a better sense of self-worth.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">What is it called when you hate your body?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">A negative self-image or obsession with a body part can be due to&nbsp;<a href="https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/body-dysmorphic-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353938">body dysmorphic disorder (BDD)</a>. BDD can be a serious mental health concern that can cause people to fixate on their appearance and often leads to other conditions, such as eating disorders, depression, or anxiety disorders.</p>
<h3 dir="ltr">How do you love your body when you hate it?</h3>
<p dir="ltr">Therapy, self-care, and mindfulness can all be ways that you can help develop a healthier self-image. It may be important to remember that learning to love your body can be a long process, and you don&rsquo;t have to go through it alone. Friends and family can create a supportive network on your journey.</p>
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